how can you be friends in a relationship without coming across too much like mates.
2007-01-08 09:57:15 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok here goes. me and my bf have been together for three years and whenever we have disagreements he always says that what he wants is his partner to be his best friend and to be there for him. ive always said that i dont want to be his best friend i want to be his girlfriend. im begining to see where he is coming from now but is it too late.
2007-01-08 10:09:44 · update #1
After three years your lucky to still be friends.
Once the passionate, honeymoon period wears off, say 18 months tops, we then enter into the homemaking, role defining stage.
Then we settle into the complacency stage.
I've never gotten past that one as I 've missed the first one too much and chucked it all in losing out on some very good relationships.
Good luck.
2007-01-15 09:09:49 · answer #1 · answered by uncle36fester 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly where you are coming from with the question. You need to make sure that the sexual side of the relationship is kept alive and that he knows that however matey you are with him that once you're in the bedroom you are all woman!
Otherwise you can end up with a relationship where he loves you deeply but 'more like a sister'
The friendship side is important because you should know everything about each-other and always be there for each-other but, he does need to be able to differentiate you from his mates down the pub.
2007-01-15 23:58:49 · answer #2 · answered by Poppy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my fella and me have been together for 3yrs too. theres 7yrs difference between us. we have two kids and we are always argueing for sill things, mostly because we cant spend any time together.
when we go out were like mates as were always laughing and joking- i dont feel were like b.f and g.f
i dont like it but the best way is to do romantic things more often and talk about how the day was. if you can get away once in a while with him for a break. it'll soon hotten things up again.
you want to make sure he isnt hinting to you that maybe he dont want a relationship and just wants to be mates
2007-01-15 08:35:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The fact of the matter is that you can have all the love, lust, security and so on in the world, but without a deep-seated friendship to build it all on any relationship is going to fail - eventually.
Good to hear that you are coming to his way of thinking though.
2007-01-08 18:48:01 · answer #4 · answered by johnnycigarettes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When a relationship is serious then you also become best mates the 2 go hand in hand.
2007-01-15 12:22:09 · answer #5 · answered by Ollie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you've been married for several years like me, then friendship is about all that's left! Especially with a 3 year old in the middle of the bed.
Do what me and my husband do....laugh a lot and relax together.
2007-01-08 18:28:21 · answer #6 · answered by Rachael H 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well you are not his best freind your his girlfreind if you where his best freind the odds are you would not be his girlfreind a visious circle ask him to explain in detail or give him an OSRAM
( a lamp round the back of the head ) and say did that hurt or is it painfull) coz it did not hurt me silly question from him Regards
2007-01-16 04:59:21 · answer #7 · answered by The tagg master 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you both have love for each other, commitment and the desire to want the best for your partner, it is not too late.
2007-01-13 10:25:48 · answer #8 · answered by freephoenixuk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it too late? its never too late for anything. just harder to accomplish when you have waited for so long just talk with him. good luck
2007-01-08 18:12:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you never noticed the "friend" bit in girlfriend??
2007-01-08 18:13:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋