I am 33 yrs old and my husband is 39.This is my third marriage (but i married same man twice) and i have two children twins daughter and son that are 9 yrs old from my last marriage.I filed for divorce this morning from their step dad.How to tell them that we might have to leave the house and move again?
2007-01-08 09:55:48 · 5 answers · asked by Elizabeth S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Reason for divorce is my husband has 3 children from his previous marriage ages 15 , 10 , and 7.I was pregnant just about 6 months along and i just lost the baby.I was stressed out through the entire pregnancy because of his kids and mine fighting every weekend.Husband was no help in the matter in controling his kids!They broke things and fought with my kids no-stop.His ex.wife was a nightmare she harrassed me and called me racial slurs for being white.When i told my hubby i had filed for divorce he told me i should move out of our 5 bedroom three bath home when i paid half the down payment for the house!
2007-01-08 10:02:56 · update #1
Ask some things that they have always wanted in their house, take some ideas and create a house that yall will all love! so they will want to move.
Good Luck
2007-01-08 09:59:36 · answer #1 · answered by Kaity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there ANY chance at all that you can work with a mediator - you, husband, ex, kids and come up with some solution? If not, you might want to call the school your kids attend and speak with the counselor about a good approach to telling your kids about this.
Then maybe you can work with a counselor before you get into another relationship so you can avoid these problems in the future.
If you can see it coming maybe you can avoid it.
2007-01-08 19:09:34 · answer #2 · answered by Shrieking Panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no easy way to tell them but a lesson needs to be learned for your sake and theirs; you married this man twice; didn't work out the first time and then you traveled that road again? You owe it to your children to figure out the problems via counseling so you don't drag them with you again until you fix you; you can't afford to marry a jerk when you have children; you and your children deserve better than that ; with love anything is fixable just stand by them and don't drag them down this road again; get help because a pattern is here whether or not you are ready to admit that and own it ; I wish you and your children the best
2007-01-08 18:06:33 · answer #3 · answered by sml 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As honestly as you can. Kids that age are capable of understanding if you talk to them. Tell them why and answer any questions they have. Try not to bad mouth their step dad in the process (even if he deserves it)
2007-01-08 17:59:38 · answer #4 · answered by been_there_done_that 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know why parents think the kids dont know what is going on. Its harder when parents have disabled kids. Just tell them, " dad(name) and I aren't working out so we are getting our own place."
2007-01-08 18:07:12 · answer #5 · answered by Era 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋