you had been going out with a guy for 3 years and he hadnt moved in with you or asked you to marry him?
2007-01-08 09:47:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ive asked him
he says he wont ask me to marry him until we live together but he keeps putting the moving in date back.
i live by myself and im getting worried that im getting 2 used to it.
he still lives at home with his lazy parents. he says he is going to move in he sets dates and then it doesnt happen :-(
i really dunno what to do.....
2007-01-08 10:00:12 · update #1
im 24 he is 27
2007-01-08 10:00:49 · update #2
I would feel like I needed to bring it up myself. Waiting for him will get you nowhere, but at the same time 3 years isn't that long. I knew my second hubby for 5 years before he asked me. Bring it up. If you are mature enough to marry, than you are mature enough to talk about this with him. Be the one to make the move, and get an answer for yourself so you can decide what you want to do next. Don't just wait there like a mouse. Ask him what your future holds.
2007-01-08 09:51:39 · answer #1 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sadly it sounds like hes not ready and wont be ready anytime soon.
when someone repeatedly putting off moving in with you- its time to take stock of your relationship and ask if this is all you are gonna get from this person, will you be happy.
im sensing that you wouldnt be as happy as if he would commit.
it doesnt sound like you are the one in his eyes.
most blokes just move in, etc etc when they want someone.
however he could feel a bit suffocated in the fact you may go on about it alot. who knows?
if you are not happy.....
give him an ultimatium- one you will stick to- otherwise it wont mean anything and he will always have the upper hand in your relationship as you will always in his eyes, give empty threats.
hope it all works out.
2007-01-08 10:41:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd want to know where the relationship was going. If you want to get married, have kids, etc., eventually, then you should work toward those goals. You need to know where he stands - if he doesn't want kids, and you do, or he doesn't ever want to get married, and you do, you are wasting your time with him. Talk to him.
2007-01-08 09:51:08 · answer #3 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont u ask him?
men can be real useless sometimes, maybe he's scared to take the next step?
if he's lived by himself for a while it can be hard to give up that way of life
2007-01-08 09:51:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WAIT.....obviously the timing isnt ryt for him at the moment .. leave a few hints talk about the future as him what he sees you both in the future??
2007-01-08 09:50:56 · answer #5 · answered by Abbey 2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends..If I wanted to marry him or move in with him, then I would be worried. If I didn't then I wouldn't be worried.
2007-01-08 09:50:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a guy but I would not be too upset about it! What are you doing wrong? Ask yourself and then sort it!
2007-01-08 10:09:37 · answer #7 · answered by Saudi Geoff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe his life at home is so easy he doesnt want to leave.
2007-01-08 14:33:56 · answer #8 · answered by lizard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
add a year on and u have my relationship lol
2007-01-08 09:50:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋