My brotherr hurts me?

Question

I'm 13 and he is 19....he instigate it then if i throw somehting at him he either suffocates me, stands on my back and tries to "squish my insides", punch my head, bang his head off mine, pinch and drive his fingers into the side of my face, and punch me. It hurts so bad and I always threaten to call 911, but he says if I do, he'll punch me in the face or kill me. My dad said if one time he does when he isn't there....that's usually when he does hurt and abuse me, I can call the police. But I'm scared cuz I don't want him to hurt me or murder me in that time when I pick up the phone. What should I do? If I call the cops, what will they do to him?

He went to Catholic school from kindergarten til he graduated....and i goto Catholic school too but we dont have like conselors...and also we think hes on drugs...well I know he is... he says anything to get me mad

Answer 1

well you should call the cops and then if you want to press charges then they will arrest him i think you should sit your father now and tell him whats been going on while hes away and if you are going to call the cops then go to a friends house or somewhere and use the phone he shouldnt be hurting you you should tell your father that he has said that he would kill you if you called the cops it sounds like to me one way or another your brother needs help and you shouldnt be the one thats getin hurt
good luck and stay strong

Answer 2

This is a very difficult problem you have.
If you are in Australia Phone kid's help line on 1800 551 800 it is a free call from any home phone in Australia.
You can also look them up at www.kidshelp.com.au for some advice
Depending on where you live can make a difference to what you should do.
There are places and people who can help, other than the police.
It is important that your brother doesn't find out that you are trying to make contact with them.
Some of the people you could try are
The Salvation Army they have branches in many different cities and would try to help someone in your situation regardless of what your religion is even though they are Christian.
The Smith Family they are an organisation in Australia but I don't know if they exist in other countries.
Sometimes your local church/synagogue/ religious house of prayer may be able to help but some of the leaders of these intstitutes believe it is better to keep it within the family so they will 'talk' to your brother and this could make things worse.
If you live in Australia, go to your doctor when you have bruises to show and tell the doctor what has happened and that you need help. The law requires the doctor to report this and the doctor should provide backup for you.
It is likely that your brother will go to prison.
You may have some other older friends who can help but you and they have to be careful about the law etc.
I had a friend in this situation but her parents were out of town for 2 months. She came and lived with me and We didn't tell her family where I lived but we made sure that we told her parents that she wass with me and safe. This could have been a problem because I'm an older guy and she was just a child but I gave her her own room and it was all ok 'til her parents got back and then they sorted it out.
It sounds to me like your dad may be worried about stepping in because he doesn't want to see your brother go to jail (or he may even be scared of your brother.)
If your dad is big enough to thrash your brother then maybe, when your brother is not around you could suggest to your dad that he 'disciplines' him if your brother does this again.
I know this last bit is not politically correct but you are in danger.
I hope this is able to help you.
If you are in Australia Phone kid's help line on 1800 551 800 it is a free call from any home phone in Australia.
You can also look them up at www.kidshelp.com.au for some advice

Answer 3

Spend the night at a friends house and tell her of what you plan to do and call 911 from there. So that way you'll be safe from your brother and hopefully they'll catch him unguarded, and charge him. I can't believe your dad is being so irresponsible about this, that's so unfair to you and makes me so mad, I hope this plan works for your sake, and don't take this much longer than you have to. But you could always tell a trusted teacher and they won't let you go home that day until he's charged and in jail. My dad was abusing me and the school system wouldn't let me go home until they were sure he was under control.

Answer 4

okay, so i went through the same thing...but not THAT bad. i did get abused like hell while growing up and my parents say it was my fault because i'm the younger one and i should respect him. so, now it's been about 7 years, and i haven't spoken to him since, and i refuse to call him my "brother" but rather my parent's son. i show no sign of respect or act like he's even alive. best thing to do, i understand about the threats and stuff, but you really should just go for it. call the cops the next time he puts his hands on you. don't yell back or throw something at him, just quietly walk to the phone and call the police. he's legally an adult, so he will get charged for abuse. you can go as far as restraining orders and such. i threatened to call the cops on my parent's son, and he knew i was going to do it if he laid another finger on me. i'm surprised he treats you like that knowing how far apart in age you two are. but no retaliation, just don't be scared and call the cops. good luck~!

Answer 5

Ok, get help now. Any kind of police unit will do. Or family and friends who care.




Listen, if he tried anything again, or gets to you before help can arrive, this is what you do.

Grab something heavy, something sharp.

Use your imagination.

I'm not saying bang him up till near death but smack him until he can't stand. Remember this even if you can't fight: If your opponent can't breathe, they can't fight; a quick, hard jab to the throat will solve that. If they can't run, they can't fight: kick the shins, knee, or behind that area,(or his you know what. ^_~) really hard and he should fall. If they can't see, they can;t fight; gouge his eyes. At last but not least, smack him in the temple, that will cause him to become unconcious for a while, then make a getaway.

Do what you can.

Answer 6

Since your father isn't likely to step in, you can still call or go to your local police, without anyone's knowledge, explain the situation and tell them EVERYTHING your brother said. You don't have to have him arrested, they might not even do that. Ask them what you can do for your own protection. You need to get this Airhead Warrior off your back!

Answer 7

Well thats really sad. Try doing stuff your brother likes to do and when he's watching TV or something try to call the police and talk to your mom/dad and tell them that he's hurting and threatning you. They will probably lock him up for 6 months+.

Answer 8

Dont wait till he does it again. Go to the police and make a report before it happens another time. Next time you could end up in hospital... or worse.

Answer 9

Don't worry about what they'll do to him, you need to be kept safe from your brother. Please, tell an adult at your school, or do what your father advised, and call the police. Your brother needs some serious help. You're not helping him if you don't tell what he's doing to you!

Answer 10

it sounds pretty abusive... don't be afraid to talk to somebody if you are being hurt in any way. if he does get punished for it, it's probably because he deserves it. don't be afraid to stand up for yourself! probably a fine, or a warning, or maybe a few days in the slammer. maybe a show of authority would stop all that. i wish you the best!