My ex also my daughter fathers...is M.I.A for the moment. He knows that our daughter calls him everyday generally around the same time. So our daughter went to call him today. And She can't get threw to him. Not just like he didn't answer. She called His cell and there was a message on there that said it was disconnected. But that is werid because him and I share a cell plan...my phone works, anyways my daughter called his girlfriend to see if she knew where he was, and her cell is disconnected also. So then My daughter tried to call Her dads house...and that phone is disconnected as well. My daughter is really upset about this, and is afraid that something happened to her dad. I don't know what to tell her about the situation...she is 5 years old. She keeps telling me "dad left her and is not coming back" What should I do?
2007-01-08 09:44:53 · 7 answers · asked by harmycj 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Assure your daughter that her daddy loves her, and that the phone just isn't working right now. She needs security more than anything else, and hopefully he will come through for her. If it continues to be a problem, you will have some tough days ahead of you. She's very young to have to deal with this, but if she's already sensing that her dad "left and is not coming back", she is already traumatized and may need professional help. I would suggest you spend every moment you possibly can with her, giving her attention and things to do to divert her anxiety. I'm not suggesting you buy her things, but include her in your tasks at home, and then make time to do special things with her--bake and decorate sugar cookies, color pictures with her, read books to her, go for a "trip" somewhere exciting--even a pet store, or go watch the fish at Walmart and make up names for them. At her age, all you can try to do is love her. I don't know what else to say.
2007-01-08 09:54:16 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, since the average five-year old doesn't have her own cell phone account , would likely not know the definition of 'disconnect' and may or may not logic it through to calling the girlfriend, I'm guessing that you are involved in all the calls and your ex and his new lady are avoiding YOU, not the daughter. Give it a rest. You might not like it but back way off on the frequency of you and your daughter's calls to him, meanwhile reassuring your daughter that Dad is fine; just busy, and find lots of activities to keep her mind on positive things. Resist making disparaging comments about your ex and wait him out. He will call her.
2007-01-08 18:02:30 · answer #2 · answered by Jeanne M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a new girlfriend. He will probably be getting a new cell number. Just wait until he makes contact with you. Reassure your daughter that daddy is just unavailable at the moment and as soon as he is able he will call her. There isn't any reason to make hurry worry. He's an adult and more than likely a jerk too. What if something happened to your daughter or God forbid you and the authorities needed to contact him. It was very irresponsible of him. Just wait it out.
2007-01-08 17:53:52 · answer #3 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is really nothing you can do. if you have been having problems with him paying support, etc, then you can take it up with the court. if his cell is disconnected (why are you sharing a plan with an ex?), then call the phone company. there would be charges if one was cancelled. all you can do is be there for your daughter. just because he "disappeared" doesn't mean he's gone for good. if you have cause for concern, call the police. he is an adult, so it might be pointless. hope i helped a little.
2007-01-08 17:54:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that is very odd I really think you need to go or have someone go and check on them they could really be something wrong or even worse.You could also call the Cops and explain it to them and send some one out there and check around.If he calls her everyday at the same time and has never missed a call well I would be worried.Don't lie to your Daughter tell her the truth at the moment you don't know why he is not answering his Phone.
2007-01-08 17:56:15 · answer #5 · answered by Dew 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is 5, then you can tell her almost anything and she would believe it. So tell her that her dad is somewhere where no one can call him.
Good luck!
2007-01-08 17:55:04 · answer #6 · answered by xFrozen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reasure her that you are here for her. Tell her that her Dad went on vacation and will be back soon.
2007-01-08 17:51:13 · answer #7 · answered by Honeypai 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋