My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost two years. Im ready to have sex but she is iffy about it. Me and her have done everything but have sex. The first time we tried to I ended up hurting her. I wasnt going too fast or too hard. How can I get her in the mood & how can we have sex without me hurting her again.
2007-01-08 09:44:41 · 3 answers · asked by confused. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well first thing is first. She needs to realize that it will hurt the first few times because you are tearing her hymen. The hymen is a small, thin membrane inside of the vagina. There might even be a little bit of bleeding after wards. She needs to make sure she is relaxed and well lubricated. It might even be a good idea to get a bottle of KY or something.
Another little tip for you is when you go in at first, slide (gently) all the way in. I mean all the way, as far as you can go and stay there until her muscles relax. She will be able to tell you when she is ready for you to move. Then you can start slow in and out motions.
That should work for you. If not, have her get used to it (penetration) by her self with a toy or something. that will help her get used to the feeling. Also, if she uses tampons on a regular basis it will help to make the hymen less prominent or even tear it completely so it won't be as uncomfortable.
You both just need to relax a little, communication is key. Have fun and be safe. It will be uncomfortable / painful for her for even the first 10 - 15 times or until she gets used to it.
GOOD LUCK!!! :)
2007-01-08 10:24:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One word my buddy.. Foreplay. Get her so worked up she's begging for it. If she's in simple terms had intercourse some situations and that replaced right into a 365 days in the past? properly, she will't regrow a hymen yet that doesn't mean her equipment won't shrink back up. She needless to say hasn't had lots possibility for it to stretch very lots, so in simple terms be tender and affected person along with her. In time she won't sense something however the exhilaration intercourse replaced into designed for. in simple terms have exciting with it. in case you get her worked up with lots of foreplay she probable won't even observe the soreness.
2016-10-30 09:07:55 · answer #2 · answered by alyson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its going to hurt untill she gets used to it just try to be gentle and maybe try some lube other than that theres nothing else maybe you guys could try out talksexwithsue.com
good luck and tell her to hang in their it gets better
2007-01-08 10:03:41 · answer #3 · answered by advise_gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋