Should I ask my boyfriend what's going on with him?

Question

My boyfriend have been going out for 7 months or so and these past few days he's been more quiet than he usually is (he's usually pretty shy anyway, but he DOES know how to talk ;]) He hasn't looked very happy around school, and I'm afraid something's wrong that he's not telling me about. I was going to call him after school today but decided against it because I heard that trying to talk to guys about their feelings is sometimes a lost cause. I want to try to get back to our normal conversations and whatnot, but I don't know what's going on with him. I feel as if he doesn't open up to me very much.

I had a problem like this before with him and I emailed him about it and the next day he was 100% better and was like that for all of December and the end of the November. Now it feels as if he's back to what he was doing before. I emailed him asking him if there was anything wrong and didn't email me back. I just want to know how to talk to him about it without seeming overly nosy.

Answer 1

You're his girlfriend. Sometimes you just have to be a little nosy. Maybe knowing that you cared the last time helped him get over whatever he was feeling. Let him know you're there and if he ever wants to talk to you that you will listen with every intention of helping him out. Sometimes it helps just to talk. Just because he's a guy, doesn't mean you should give up on him!
You've been dating for 7 months so you should know him pretty well and he should have trust in you by now. Don't be afraid! He's your boy after all ;).
Also, remember that sometimes people just go through "blue" patches where they're going to feel a little sad no matter what. It's like girls and PMS, guys have something like it too, we just don't always notice it. So don't worry, maybe it's just a "blue" patch.
Good luck!

Answer 2

Guys are like rubberbands just like John Gray talks about in his books - Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. While many women process their feelings and thoughts through talking, us guys tend to process ours by going into our caves or getting away by ourselves to THINK and ponder things over. If our significant others try to push us into talking about it, even if it's out of a good motive, many times we'll feel controlled and disrespected. It would kinda be like if a guy tried to force his lady to undress in front of him when she feels insecure about her body. She may do it reluctantly but she'll feel very vulernable and may resist.

Give him some space and let him bring it up. He will when he's ready....if you back off and don't worry about it. He just needs to "process" it on his own. If you push for him to open up too soon, he may feel threatened and withdrawl even more or longer. I'm sure this is against how you are wired or how you would do it but trust me, we guys are different. Sometimes we talk it through but most of the time we think it through first and then we talk about it. Good Luck!!

Answer 3

tell him you've noticed that he's been acting different lately and want to know if everythings okay. if somethings wrong and he wants to tell you about it, then he will. if there's nothing wrong, don't push the issue.
make sure you talk to him in person too, because that way you can see his reactions and know whether or not he's being honest.

Answer 4

what u can do is keep emailing him and call him but don't be mean about it just ask nice and don't try to be rude about it and it might help if u tell him that u won't tell anyone about what is bothering him that might help and just keep trying to get though to him. just tell him that u care about him and u don't like to see him unhappy that might help.

Answer 5

if hes your bf dont email him just go and say. "hey you've seemed a bit down. are you ok?" if he doesnt want to talk he wont. if he does then he will be relieved you asked. just dont push him to talk if he doesnt want to

Answer 6

I think he is seeing someone else...