I am literally marrying my best friend. I have no sisters, just three brothers. This is a more traditional wedding, so no boys as "man" of honor. My closest friend is a guy, and I have a friend that is really nice and totally helpful (who is a girl). I have three cousins that could be... one is my roommate, but I don't really feel that close to her even though we are friends, and I'm even less close to her sister (cousin #2). The third cousin is my closest cousin, but I never really talk to her much, just on family occassions and we enjoy each other's company then. I'm also close to my mom, but I want her to watch the ceremony rather than be in it, even though she's helping with plannining everything as well.
Is it permissable to just have a bunch of bridesmaids rather than one maid of honor and some bridesmaids? Or who/how should I pick my maid of honor?
2007-01-08 09:41:57 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well, even though I know you want your mom to watch, remember that it the pews she will mostly see the back of your head, maybe an up close view of you and your fiance would be the best thing she could ever dream of. To see his face as he says the most important words of his life to her beautiful "little girl" and to see your beautiful face and see you glow as you leave her arms to live in his.
If I were the mother of the bride, I couldn't ask for more, or to be honored more than to be asked to be your maid of honor.
Think about it, ask her about it, I bet she would be thrilled!!!!
Just remember, a wedding is a celebration, a rite of passage, a holy communion, but no one says you HAVE to have a maid of honor, or a female maid of honor. It's your family's event for you, do what feels right.
Good luck and God bless your marriage.
2007-01-08 09:58:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being the Maid of Honor is A LOT of WORK!!! Meet with all of them and explain your situation. Most likely they will decide amongst themselves who will be the maid of honor (usually the person with the most time to focus on the wedding- and by wedding I mean 'YOU') If you already know that 2 or more of your girls want to be the maid of honor, make the decision-maker something fun, like a scavenger hunt. You all meet up for lunch, then you give them all a list with weird wedding related things on it. Give them all an hour to find as many of the things on the list. The winner is the Maid of Honor. That makes it fun and you are less likely to hurt someones feelings because "you had to pick this way... you wanted them ALL to be the Maid of Honor!!"
2007-01-08 11:44:26 · answer #2 · answered by baby_girl_8881 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my best friends wedding her husband had a female best man so really it was a best woman. there wedding was very formal as well. It worked out great I was the maid of honor and I walked down the isle with a girl.
My suggestion to you Is To maybe ask a aunt or female cousin that you feel close to I don't see any wrong in asking one of your brothers to be your witness man of honor in your words he can ware what ever the guys on your fiance's side are warring
I also don't see in any harm needing a maid of honor just use brides maids but in a formal wedding you may want to ahve a maid of honor good luck
2007-01-08 09:52:13 · answer #3 · answered by Heather 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My cousin who is like my sister was my maid of honor. She's one of my best friends. You can just have bridesmaids if you chose too, you don't have to have a maid of honor, its your wedding do it as you would want it. My mom and aunt helpped me plan my wedding. I was glad I had there help I coudln't have pulled everything off with out it. Does he have a sister? Maybe ask her? I had my husband's little sister as a bridesmaid but thats only cause she was 10. Good Luck
2007-01-08 10:24:25 · answer #4 · answered by msoutherngirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not see why you would not want your third cousin that you are close with to be your maid of honer, it does not matter if you do not see or talk to her much. It does sound like you care for her and are close to her and I think that she would be very happy you picked her even if you do not talk to her much. Just going by what you wrote about yourself to answer this question. I feel the way you want your wedding is up to you and your to be husband and what you and he want should be alright, unless parents are paying for it and then you have to be more carefull as to how they feel about your plans and work things out with them. Now days there really is no wrong way to do things, that changed many years ago. The most important thing is that the two of you are happy the way you get married.
2007-01-08 09:54:22 · answer #5 · answered by Ginny 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is totally acceptable not to have a Maid Of Honor, though you will need to pick someone to be a witness and sign the marriage license. That might be a special honor you can give to your mom - she doesn't have to be in the wedding party to do that, she just has to be able to hear you say the vows:)
2007-01-08 13:27:06 · answer #6 · answered by Chrys 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, instead of deciding on a maid of honor, just have all bridesmaids. It is your wedding and you can do whatever you want too. This way no one will feel left out if they are not chosen as the maid of honor. Good luck
2007-01-08 11:07:04 · answer #7 · answered by nemopuppy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a traditional Mexican wedding and that's what I did. Had 6 bridesmaids and no maid of honor. They were all special and that's why they were a part of it. I was unable to single any one out as a better friend.
2007-01-08 10:32:45 · answer #8 · answered by Hotcakes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding. In the past, there was no such thing as a "man of honor", and her we are today, recognizing that women have male friends too. So, my advice is...do what you want to! It's your day, and you get to have it your way. All your own way! It's a once in a lifetime, so take advantage of it. If you want a "man of honor", traditional wedding or not, then have one! If you want bridesmaids with no "maid of honor" then do it. It's your day, and your day alone.
2007-01-08 09:44:33 · answer #9 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should pick the one that your are the absolute closest to, whether it be your friend or one of your cousins. Remember that your MOH is also going to be the one that you will be able to go to for anything. She is also the one that will plan your bridal shower and your bachelorette party. She is the one that is going to keep you calm on your wedding day. She will also be the one that makes sure your dress is perfect and never messed up. Pick someone that you think is the best for that role. And no their is absolutely nothing wrong with not having a MOH. They would just stand tallest to shortest at the alter beside you. Good Luck!
2007-01-08 10:03:14 · answer #10 · answered by Heather 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋