Could you bring yourself 2 love someone if the love was unrequited?

Question

Silly question – but here goes

My friend of mine has been on and off with a man for 10 years, meeting in their 20s. She is not attracted to him physically, but the man has been very good to her. He cleans, cooks, runs errands, and has been physically satisfying...But he can be sloppy, irritable, insecure, slothful, lazy, forgetful, unambitious, careless etc. He works, is very smart, but he will help you through your dreams, but he doesn’t have any of his own. She is alpha and he is beta.

In their 30s, they live together, and she is starting to develop an aversion to marriage. She is old fashioned, and believes love is a bumby ride. We have a lot of choices today. She has dated many others, but she always come back to him, and she seems to be unlucky in love with all others. She is attractive and smart - but the fit never seems to be right.

So the question is: would you stay with someone you weren’t really digging – if they truly, deeply, unconditionally loved you?

Answer 1

yes cuz its hard to find someone like that...obviously he does make her happy in other ways to always come back to him

Answer 2

I don't see the problem. My friend was not phisically attracted to her lover, but in time, the love will grow and she will find him attracted by his insides. Sometimes in rearranged marrages they learn to love ine another because they are compattable. In life that is all that matters. Screw look's, I look exactly like my avatar, I am pretty attractive and the kind of guys that I go for the geeks. In my family the woman have gone for looks and end up being miserable. Marrage is a big step, but everybody has there flaws and him just happen to be more threatning to himself then her. Take the chance.

Answer 3

Wow i am myself going through that right now, and i would have to say YES, because its what your used to... and you feel safe what that one person.... If i was to leave my BF right now and get a new one, the new guy and i would date for a while everything would be good for a little bit then something would go wrong we would break up and i would find myself looking to the X for support and we would end back up together... get it. its just what we know and feel comfortable with. If YOUR friend is OK with it. then maybe you should be also

Answer 4

it needs to be there on both sides. and i seems to me they may just be meant for each other. looks aren't everything. they both need to make some changes to make this work im sure, but thats the way its going to be with any relationship. my baby is good to me, maybe not brad pit, but he loves me so much. would do anything for me, and he literally takes my breath away. im in love and i put all the little things that most people think matter aside. my number one goal is to make him smile everyday. thats it, and i know im number one on his list of priorities as well. its just there. no matter how many people tell me we arent right, and i could do better.......... I AM NO BETTER, i dont feel like i am better than anybody..... and he is definately in my league. this should go for everybody. make yourself happy......... your only here to please you and the people you let into your life. everyone else has their own, if they wanna talk sh!t....... so be it........ they are the miserable ones.

Answer 5

No, just out of caring for the other person. One of the main, and hardest, part of any relationships is to make sure you are both on the same level as far as how you feel about each other

Answer 6

Well he does have flaws but everyone does.As long as he is not abusive and he does love her and he he don't drink or do drugs, I don't see the problem.

Answer 7

no - because those little things will get annoying after a while.