My friend is dating a girl he met on myspace and see's her maybe twice a month when hes lucky. In previous relationships, he normally needs the gf to be living close by him. Both of them are starting college in a couple weeks, she won't even have a car and hes low on cash. I dont want to see him hurt but the chance of this relationship surviving sounds minimal. So Im wondering in this case scenario, will the long distance relationship work?
p.s. they've only known each other for a month
2007-01-08 09:32:14 · 15 answers · asked by J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
never doubt people, ldr's do work... and going into a ldr you know the consequinces. you know how often you will be able to see them, and for how long, but really it doesnt matter. but there has to be trust in this relationship. if they dont have trust then they dont have anything.. trust is the most important thing.
2007-01-08 09:35:30 · answer #1 · answered by luvme4me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you right now that I'm living proof that it can work. I actually met my guy one month before our highschool graduation. Straight outta highschool (literally) I went to North Carolina and he was shipped off to boot camp. When he got to his first station 2 months later, he was only able to see me every other week during weekends only. (and he lives 4 hours away btw) Then his car got totaled and there was a 6 month time period when I couldn't see him at all, he had no e-mail access, the only way we could talk was by 5-10 minute phone calls full of broken conversation and static because his station has close to no signal, and then the old-fashioned way of communicating..letters. It was hard but we got through it. Also every now and then I was able to scrounge up money for a bus ticket to see him for a day at a time. He finally was able to get a car and we see each other at least once a month if we get to see each other at all.
I think that yeah, it's lonely a lot of times, but if you really love someone it's not so much about how often you see someone.. but more about how great and alive you feel when you DO see them.
It's really hard to understand unless you're in the situation yourself, so until you are, you may never see why your friend is holding on so strongly to someone so far away.
Right now my guy Cyle and I are planning to get married this upcoming December, and I cannot wait! I love him to death and am anxiously anticipating a wonderful rest of our lives together.
oh and p.s. it doesn't matter so much how long you've known them.. there's this thing called intuition. when I met Cyle a month before grad.. somehow in some weird way I just knew he was going to be a part of my life and almost 2 years later he still is.
hope I've been of some help :)
2007-01-08 17:46:17 · answer #2 · answered by .:*giggles*:. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that its not likely. It's one thing to start off close, date for a while, and then go long distance. But to only be together for a month, then start college? College, in my opinion, is too much fun. Each of them will find others while there. The only way against that is if they see each other - which may not be the best thing anyway. I dated a guy for 3.5 out of my 4.5 years in college...one of the worst things I ever did. Devoted so much time to him - I could have had so much more fun. The fact that they just started dating AND will be apart is not good long-term.
2007-01-08 17:36:47 · answer #3 · answered by CG 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on how long it is going to be a long distance relationship. Obviously forever is just simply not possible. But for a few months to a year YES it can work (if both people trust each other).
2007-01-08 17:34:40 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can work, I married my long distance love, I have a few freinds on the net that did the same, hard to give you a yes or no as
its down to the individual situation, but you do need money to see each other. Its not easy,
2007-01-08 17:35:18 · answer #5 · answered by Leprechaun 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Through time, most of us move on to better things. Its more than likely that they wont be together for long. Distance is a bad mix in relationships. How much would you trust him/her if they lived 16,798Km away?
2007-01-08 17:48:16 · answer #6 · answered by jim_zindan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well relation ships starting on MySpace shouldn't start anyway but i doubt that it will work without ever seeing each other!
2007-01-08 17:34:46 · answer #7 · answered by Bobert 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if they really like each other then its possible that it will work out, and they can talk to each other over the phone, or on myspace and its not like they havnt met before or can never hang out, they probably will find a way to hang out with each other
2007-01-08 17:40:04 · answer #8 · answered by beautiful_disaster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can work if they both want it bad enough. It will take alot of work by both of them. Odds are, they'll eventualy go their separate ways. It really all depends on bad they want to be together.
2007-01-08 17:40:27 · answer #9 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they really like each other then they will make it work, even if things are a bit tight. the best things to do for your friend is at least help him understand that its going to be hard but if he likes her then he can make it work with her.
2007-01-08 17:35:10 · answer #10 · answered by Dory Ian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋