I need to know if this is a common practice. I don’t want to have my wedding in the church that I am a member of because of location, size and décor. I really need help I don’t know the first step in asking a preacher if I can rent their church and if they will perform my ceremony. Please help me so I can start planning. I would prefer to have a church wedding and church reception any suggestions? (I live in Kansas if anyone knows a church in this area)
2007-01-08 09:25:51 · 8 answers · asked by Amy T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes, this is done quite often, for the very reasons you listed - just call the church and ask the receptionist for their policies on wedding rentals and ceremonies (each church sets their own policy as to what types of weddings they will allow, what conditions must be met, who can do the cermonies, etc)
2007-01-08 13:22:06 · answer #1 · answered by Chrys 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is very common - and we did it for the same reason.
You should visit a churches, in you our your fiancee's denomination, and talk to the minister once you've settled on one. All you can do is ask. You may get turned down. but then move on. If there is a church where you know someone - that may help a lot to have a "sponsor."
Explain the situation and they should work with you. They may require you to attend their wedding counseling etc., but it shouldn't be a problem in the end.
Each church is different in terms of fees - some have free will donations, some have set fees, some ask you to just cover cleaning costs. Be wary of "hidden" fees. You think you are okay - then you find out you have to use THEIR organist at another $100, whether you want organ music or not, etc. Just get everything up front.
There are a few more loops to jump through if it is a Catholic wedding, but it is still fairly common.
Good Luck!
2007-01-08 19:30:46 · answer #2 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually the churches dont like to call it "rent" They like to call it a "Donation", however, even though its called a donation it isnt optional. Just be aware of that.
I would say pick a church and go in and ask. It hurts no one to ask a question and if you get a no, then move onto another church.
They can deny you though, so dont expect that every church will say yes to this. But keep trying if you are turned away, you will most definitely find a church that will take you.
Best of luck!
2007-01-08 19:30:40 · answer #3 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't you think it is kind of awful to be turning your back on your very own religion and own place of worship becuase of different taste in DECOR? If I were your pastor I would be truly and deeply offended. Are you even HEARING what you are asking?
At least find the nearest church to yours that is exactly the same religion as yours but which is just a larger structure to fit all your guests.
The thought that you would pick ANY church in Kansas just to be fashionable is just outrageous. You should have some connection to the religion of that church, and not just pick it because it's cute and it's the size you need.
2007-01-09 08:37:16 · answer #4 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm assuming you are speaking of a Catholic church so if you aren't, it could be different.
I'm getting married in a church. I currently wasn't registered anywhere so I called around until I got a church with my date available but it ended up being a city away so the priest did it on one condition, I had to register at a church and then my new priest had to write him a letter giving him permission to marry me.
Catholic churches also make you take a marriage preperation course ($150) or you can take a weekend retreat but its more money.
You then have to take a Focus test with the Priest to test your compatibility and then they meet with you to discuss the results and then they schedule your wedding.
At least that is how it worked for me.
2007-01-08 22:05:29 · answer #5 · answered by amor1954 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Check the yellow pages in your area - we have a chapel that seats 125 people that is for weddings & funerals only. It was too small for my daughter's wedding but was lovely. My church only allows members but some will allow others - call the church secretary & explain what you need. They can proably let you know what churches in area will rent to you. Good luck!
2007-01-08 17:55:48 · answer #6 · answered by Wolfpacker 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Find a church that you like and speak to the paster/preacher if you could rent their church. Easy, just like that.
Good luck
2007-01-08 17:38:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have never heard of this.
Why don't you ask the person in charge of the Church you go to if there is a more suitable building in another parish that he can recommend & possibly arrange for you.
2007-01-08 20:36:40 · answer #8 · answered by ee 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋