can anyone,anyone at all restore my faith in the male species?

Question

*sigh*me and my mum have just been talking about the 'whys' why my brother did what he did.
then somehow we went on about my dad.he used to hit my mum when they were younger.dont know why i was suprised.he did have a temper and used to hit me for the stupidiest things.and my sister once and twice,she even had nose bleeds cause of it.i guess i love my brother still.but right now all men are assholes to me.can anyone help me restore my faith in men?
i've never had a boyfriend..dont think i ever will.

after sleeping last night..i know its not all mean.my uncle,though i dont see him is a nice guy.and so is my cousin(once removed or something),funniest guy ever.
maybe my 'dad' is just a class A asshole.
thanks for all the answers.

Answer 1

I can totally relate to what you're saying about how the Guys closest to us can influence the way we feel about other Guys in general......My Father was such a player & in turn so was my Brother….I've watched my Sons...well 2 of them...behave badly toward their g/f's (cheating on them) & have at times thought...my God, even my own Sons do it...then I hear them talking sometimes & the way they view some women is beyond me...They tell me I don't fall into their category of badly behaved Women, then I realise that if I don't fall into their idea of badly behaved Women then not all Guys can fall into the category of badly behaved Guys.
I'm not comparing Men to Dogs at all but here's an analogy....if you knew 2 dogs that were known in the neighbourhood for biting you wouldn't think that all dogs were going to bite you would you? Of course not, but you would be wary of dogs, there’s no doubt in that.

I can understand your concerns about Guys but honestly sweetheart, they're not all bad...it's not possible. A lot of Guys have a bad image of Women as well I'm afraid, there are a lot of women out there that give a very negative view of the female species.
When you're ready to start having a b/f just make sure you don't settle for Guys that are portraying the kind of traits that you've witnessed in both your Father & brother.
It may be helpful for you to do some research on the net about what makes for a healthy relationship so you'll be able to sort out the good from the bad....you should also research what would make you a good person in a relationship as well. That way, you'll know how you should behave & how you should be treated.....Don't allow a few examples out of millions make up your mind for you. There are a lot of decent Guys out there just as there are a lot of decent Women.
It’s good that you’re questioning it because that means deep down you have the hope that they’re not all the same…..Be careful you don’t treat Guys badly by thinking you’ll get in first with the hurting before they get to you, you don’t want to go down as someone that gives Guys a negative image of Girls do you?

Answer 2

The way you feel about men right now is how a lot of men feel about women. Us humans are far from perfect and we do hurt those closest to us Try not to become too jaded by the males that you have been closest to. Avoid the trap of picking partners that resemble the characteristics of your brother/father. Dont try and justify the awful behaviour of them.There are men out there that will restore your faith in men.Just be careful you dont miss them!

Answer 3

Not all men are a-holes.You need to learn not to put all us men into that group just because of a few bad ones.Just like all women are not b---hes.There is good and bad in every race on this earth.Believe me there are some really good/great men out there.I'm sorry that you have had some bad experiences.I wish you & your mother the best & keep trying cause there are good ones out here.

Answer 4

sometimes it shames me that i am a man.
I have only hit in defence.
I have and will never hit my wife or children
Please don't equate males with violence. These neanderthals are the throwbacks to a different era and don't realise that what they do is wrong until the 'punchbag' rears up with the carving knife!
All I can say is.. if I did Jury Service and a case came up of domestic violence to a woman and her retaliation..... she'd be innocent before I even heard the facts!

Answer 5

*sigh* right back at you, coming from a man who wishes sex had nothing to do with marriage and relationships. Women seem to think that sex is something you do outside of your marriage or relationship, and it stops for the married partner. The grass is always greener for women.

Answer 6

I'm so sorry to hear your story,it made me sad.I hope in time you will get the chance to see that not all men are like that.

Answer 7

We're not all like that I promise. It sounds like he had some anger issues. I can't understand men, who use women as physical or emotional punchbags. don't give up.

Answer 8

This is truly a sad sad story, all i can say is sorry on thier behalf and that we are not all like that.

Dont give up hope

Answer 9

this suggestion is amazingly geared in the direction of someone previous adequate to have sex and does no longer condone below age sex. once you're saying he woo'd you, saved dropping "subtle" (like dropping a lead breaking point) tricks about sex then once you ultimately gave in and positioned out he dumped you accurate after he's unquestionably one among a very low percentage of men who're actively notching their belts and also you've been unlucky yet he's no longer representative.often such adult men received't get too obsessive about one woman although and so somewhat resistance is going far to protecting them at bay. once you're saying he woo'd you, saved dropping "subtle" tricks about sex and then you got uninterested with it and dumped him then he would were a more effective ordinary guy below the age of 25 for whom sex is unquestionably significant yet who's likewise attracted to a courting. reality is that from an early age maximum conventional adult men pick sex; after round 25 the sex rigidity starts to drop off in a good number of adult men. Many conventions have it that sex in the previous marriage is incorrect yet sexual compatibility is as significant as compatibility in different parts, fantastically because sex is portion of the mating procedure. imagine about your human being sex rigidity because many women folk are constrained by way of convention particularly than by way of what they extremely pick deep down. the concern right it truly is in case you carry out for a "helpful" guy you'll locate that the reason the "helpful" guy isn't "basically" attracted to sex is that he extremely is in no way or he has some severe carry close united statesabout sex that may teach attempting once you're honestly extremely prepared on sex yet are basically waiting for the dedication first; a straightforward type of ladies i have met over the years have complained that when the preliminary era of the courting the guy is honestly no longer providing adequate sex so imagine about this very heavily. do not choose a guy by way of his favor to have sex. don't have sex basically to keep a guy yet also do not carry off sex searching ahead to dedication. basically do not get too hung up over sex, it truly is portion of a healthful courting and with divorce operating at over seventy 5% it truly is sparkling conventions are literally not some thing to be taken too heavily.

Answer 10

Not all men are monkeys, you have to hunt around until you find one that fits.