can a relationship out work if?

Question

your attracted to the persons personality, but not physically attractive to them?

Answer 1

i'll give it a try

Answer 2

In an ideal world, yes, absolutely, one hundred percent!
OK, lets go back to the big bad real world.
First off, it depends on the psychology of the beholder. How much emphasis do they place on visual aesthetics.
Now, lets look at the person.
Could they ever be attractive to you (for example if they lost weight, got a new haircut, grew or shaved off their beard, changed their style, got a nose job...etc) Or are they irretrievably deformed and ugly?
I ask this because I have been on both sides of ugly (I used to weigh 245 pounds, I now weigh 165). And I can tell, not only do people act differently towards me now (nicer etc), I also act a bit different (more confident, outgoing etc)
I know it is not a lot to go on, but sometimes looks and personality are not so far from eachother.
There is very few cosmetic issues that cannot bechanged (barring serious deformity).
So I guess what I am saying is only you can answer this question.

Answer 3

That's like asking...Will I like my Christmas present if its wrapped in newspaper and not gold foil?

How the frell would we know? That's a question you would have to answer for yourself.

But epirically, physical attractiveness is only important with initial dating scenarios. If you like someone enough for whatever reason to continue seeing them even though there is a factor you are not attracted to, you will eventually ignore the thing you don't like for the things you do, unless you have more conviction than a slug and assert what you want to yourself and those you are with. You should know within the first month whether you are attracted enough to stay with someone. If you aren't, let them know and move on...plenty of fish in the sea. But, if its a social thing, you like her, but you don't want to be seen in public, then you are a slave to society and you should probably move on and let them do the same. Go find some pathetic high self monitorer who will pluck and shave and prune three hours a day just so they don't look any different in any way from the cookie cutter girls who look more like prepubesant boys than woman.

Answer 4

Looks arn't everything, of course a relationship could last with personality. After you look into him he'll become more attractive everyday.

Don't get hung up on looks, they're just a fork in the road!

Answer 5

more than likey it be better to keep a friendship and see if a physical attraction comes later.

Most of the time if theres no physical attraction then the reltionship wont work.

Answer 6

Ya a relationship can work out that way if you want to work for it then it can you just have to try hard enough and you want it to work out ......... yes lot of people do that now and days to many people judging them by they look how a girl suppost to get a boyfriend that way..i mean come on not all girl are going to be drop dead sexy

Answer 7

Yes it can, beauty is only skin deep. If something about their personality attracted you, how they looked wasn't important. Someone can be beautiful and have a nasty attitude, but that can make them unattractive. So whatever makes you happy.

Answer 8

Yes, of course! We have very good family friends who are more "companions" than lovers. They are not married, do not have kids but have been together for 27 years!

They love each other's personalities - they cannot live without each other. They do not show any signs of love but just companionship.

Answer 9

YES YOU CAN. THATS THE PROBLEM WITH SOCIETY THESE DAYS, EVERYONE JUDGES A BOOK BY ITS COVER. WHEN I MET MY BOYFRIEND I WAS NOT ATTRACTED TO HIM PHYSICALLY WHAT-SO-EVER. PEOPLE DONT EVEN THINK THAT IM HIS TYPE. BUT LET ME TELL YOU IF YOU CARE FOR THEM, AND HAVE FEELINGS FOR THEM... DONT WORRY ABOUT THEM, WHEN YOU REALIZE THAT YOU CARE FOR THEM, THATS WHAT MAKES THEM HANDSOME OR BEAUTIFUL. GO FOR IT, BECAUSE YOU MIGHT MISS OUT ON SOMETHING AMAZING IF YOU DONT. TRY ANYTHING ONCE... THAT WAY YOU CANT SAY YOU NEVER TRIED.

Answer 10

Nope. Attraction is what creates tension in a relationship. Without the tension, there's no sex life. Without sex, the relationship is platonic.

Answer 11

I would suggest you keep it as friendship and nothing more. You may end up hurting the person's feeling if they start developing feelings for you. Then you'll end up losing a good friend.