Sad girl...?

Question

I am so depressed. I thought about suicide. I hate my life. My Parents are christian, but they are too overprotective, I dress how they want, Listen to the music they want, i try hard in school, but its never good enough. I try hard with them,that i dont know what i want. I am always crying, and i started to cut, but i stopped. I dont know what to do. I just want to run away. Im not aloud to do anything. I cant wear pants, cut my hair, no makeup, no rock music(even if its christian).And to make it worse my beloved cat just died. I cant go anywere. Im 16, and turning 17 really soon. I hate it, i dont know what to do! if you have any advice, then bring it on. Just please dont make fun of me. The other thing is, is i dont have any friends to talk to. Seriously, i tried to tell them, they got mad at me, and wouldnt talk to me. I dont have any real friends to just talk to, I just want to know someone cares!

and my parents dont belive in counceling.

Answer 1

I am too, i havent gone to work in several weeks. I hate working with people that are so wicked they would seek any moment to hurt me.
I tried to hang myself but i pulled myself out of it. If i had been sent to a portion of hell where those who commit suicide Iwould find myself in a place of worse despair than it is here in this mortal toil.
I sympathize with you, but my mother let us, her children, do whatever we liked, but she was also at work most of the time, so we kept some things secret from her. Just remember, you are not missing much with those few things. However, if they have ever Hit you or abused you, you can justify getting yourself Emancipated in most states legally at the age of 16.
that is an extreme solution but it will get you out from bondage and unrighteous dominion of your parents.
but remember this there is a God in heaven and I have seen an Angel appear in my room and i have seen the glory of jesus christ, so i know there is a God. ! what your parents are doing does seem exceissive, but if YOU Go to them and discuss the topic of you becoming More mature and not show any signs of childish whimpering Maybe you can Allocate more discretional responsibility for yourself. but if nothing happens you only have 2 years where you can legally make your own decisions and leave at anytime. I suggest getting a job and saving all your money for a downpayment on a small mobile home or an apartment. I also suggest you dont go out in a rebellious rage and start doing all the evils of the world, some people do get killed for doing the things that ought not to do.
I suggest you start praying to God also, maybe a Higher power can influence your Dad and moms spirit. Maybe leaving a highlited verse about parents NOT PROVOKING their children to Anger which ends in rebellion is somthing you can leave behind or on a countertop.
Worst case scenario is YOU Suck up for 2 years.

Please email with what you decide. but above all seek out God in prayer

Answer 2

You can join the army or find a university that is far away from home. Dont cut or hurt your self just to get back at your parents. Your childhood will be over before you know it. When you are on your own you will be able to do what every you want. As long as you can support your self financially. You can call your parents and tell them your an Atheist and you think God is a delusion. There will be nothing they can do about it. For the time being you can just go along with there rules and plan how you are going to get away. Or you can tell them you think they are to strict and you are suffering from it. I know it seems like its horrible now but you have your entire life a head of you. Dont worry you can always make new friends! and you will I promise!!!

Answer 3

This may not help right now but it probably will ring true sometime in the future. Nearly everyone goes through some very hard times in life. The teen years can be very tough. You'll soon be old enough to make all your own decisions. Maybe ask your parents if you could see a therapist to sort some things out. The good news is...it won't last forever. There's a much brighter day around the corner.

Answer 4

I care alot. I know how you feel i can where pants but my good friend cant.She is the pastors daughter.I am16 almost 17 too and am a Christian. I want you to know that even when they seem overbearing or wrong Jesus put your parents there to guide you and help you.I know how it feels to have your parents be over protective. Dont be depressed though. The joy of the Lord is my strenghth. Suicide should never be an option you were put on this earth for a reason, and if you kill yourself Satan will win and will have claimed another soul. If you ever need someone to talk to you can email me. Were alot alike, i love cats too i have three now we just adopted our third after losing my other cat(its so sad:( )this past september. i want to be your online friend i can give you encouragement when your down in the dumps.and i will never laugh. my emails [e-mail]

Answer 5

This is what I told my Nephew who is about the same age and experiencing the same feelings (more because of his parent's divorce):

As soon as you can, move out!

If you're doing good in school that's great, because that's your out - going to college and moving to some dorms or something. Keep that hope alive as you study and save your money that soon enough you'll be moving out, and live your own life.

Also, your parents may not bring you to a counselor, but school counselors are always available, and free - and can keep secrets from your folks.

Believe me, there are people that care, and chances are, there are some other very depressed kids running around your school that you wouldn't even suspect. You are not alone.

best wishes

Answer 6

It will get better and you can help. You talk about what you can't do but think about what you could do. If your "friends" don't want to talk to you about it, see if you can make new friends. If you are in school try and find something that you like to do and join a club or start a club. Maybe your parents would let you do volunteer work. You might be able to help out at the local animal shelter.

In a few years you will be able to go away to college. Try to get out of town and out from under your parents' thumb. You can build a life for yourself as long as you do it for yourself, not for your parents, not for their god, for you. While I don't believe in the Christian's concept of god, I think that Jesus gave us many things worth remembering and one of the most important was: "Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself." You sound like you need to love yourself a bit more.

As far as suicide, I've thought of it myself. I do, however, think you are too young. There's a lot out there that you haven't experienced and much of it is good and some of it is wonderful. On the other hand, some of it bites. Still, give yourself a few decades without mom and pop running your life to see what's out there. Suicide is always an option, but it's only an option once. Don't choose it too soon.

And, as others have said, you might try talking to a counselor. Not that they can solve your problems but they can listen, and it sounds like your parents don't do that.

Good luck.

Answer 7

You know, you've probably heard this a thousand times, and I'm sorry for that, but, I kinda know how you feel. My parents are not as extreme as yours are, but my family is also christian, and basically the rule is no non-christian music. It sucks, but after awhile we worked out a way to get along about that. My parents sometimes sit down with me, and we look through the music and make compromises. I don't always get to listen to what I want (he he but I do anyways!), but at least I get some of the music I like. I've been depressed before too (heck, I'm getting close to it right now!), and I know how bad it hurts when you don't think anyone cares. I couldn't imagine not screaming all my problems to my friends, and I'm sorry that all the people at your school are a bunch of losers who are alienating you, I know how bad that can hurt as well. But hey, you can talk to me anytime, my name is Marco by the way, my AIM screen name is Marcolo205 (its tacky I know, but I've had it since like fourth grade), and my Yahoo messenger screen name is Marcolo208. I don't usually get on my yahoo one, but I will if you want me to. my email is [e-mail] (obviously) and you can email me at anytime just to talk or whatever. So, I hope I helped you in some way, and I look forward to talking to you.

Answer 8

Please do not think about suicide--that is NOT the way to go.Your life is too valuable. I can understand by what you described why you are miserable. Your parents do seem a bit strict, but you are almost 17--a year from now you will be free to do as you wish. It is not worth it to take your life since you have so much ahead of you. I am glad to hear you stopped cutting--that is not healthy either. Is there a counselor at school you can talk to?? I am sorry your cat passed away--that must have been hard for you. Please consider talking to someone who is going to listen to you. Good luck.

Answer 9

The good news is that it can pretty much only get better from here.

In a year or so you'll be free to do anything you want...

Friends who turn out not to be friends aren't worth obsessing about.

One thing the internet is great for is for finding like minded individuals. Whatever you are, whoever you are, as long as you're a decent person there are always people who care.

If it helps, you can consider me a friend.

(you can email me if you feel like it)

Answer 10

You do not a counselor, you've already got Jesus Christ. I know that you are going through a tough time right now, but Jesus said that even in times of trouble, to count it all joy. For what you're going through right now, will only make you stronger. Keep praying to God, for that's the only way you'll be healed of your pain As for your parents, try to talk to them, and reason with them with rules you both agree on. If they don't change their minds, don't be angry, just obey their rules, no matter what they may be. But if they go against God, be sure to make the right decision as to what you should do. Keep praying to God, give all your anger to Him, becuase He'll take it away.