Do you approve of spanking children?

Answer 1

Spanking a child is never okay. The child does not learn from it. Hence the fact that you have to do it a few times for the same behavior. Spanking is usually done by people who don't know how to speak to their children in an age appropriate manner to get them to understand. I have a two year old whom I have taken the time to teach instead of hit. She has the voabulary, skills and comprehension of a four year old. I think she is right on target, yet everyone is telling me how advanced she is. In my opinion I feel that every child should be treated like my daughter and the parents will get the same results that I did.

Answer 2

Spanking a child is a big decision for a parent. You are also setting an example to that child as to how they should act in future.
And how YOU should act in future...it is way too easy for a simple spanking to go way over the edge-especially when a parent is stressed out themselves just trying to feed and cloth a family and then have a child make demands upon them.
A swat on the butt accompanied by a firm no when teaching a child that something is dangerous i.e., range, outlets, etc. might be alright once and only once.
I would rather use my voice so they might understand that I am not happy...when they are little...then they get to the teenage years when nothing seems to work...although it does really when they know you care enough to tell them no they can't go to Sally's party!
Children can be reasoned with, not debated with...time outs are appropriate for all age children. A time out for a mom or dad are good things too. If you can manage one.
Children don't come with a manual...parents do the best they can...and always remember to let your child in on the fact..that they are loved...ALWAYS! Good Luck parenting!

Answer 3

Only if there is danger present and repeated "NO's" haven't worked. For instance "Don't touch the outlets" repeated over and over and over. On the 4th time then a gentle swat and say "No! Don't Touch! Danger".
I did that with all three of mine and never had to repeat it.
Running into the street , leaving the house without permission, throwing things at mommy on purpose, breaking things on purpose (throwing glass, plates etc..) , These are all unacceptable behaviors. However, they are also rare and so spanking as a rule is usually not required. We simply used the "yes" means "yes" and "No" means "No" method. Always followed thru with that and our children have come to rely on that and don't nag us and are secure.
Sometimes it was really difficult not to say yes after saying no but we stuck to it.
Other than that spankings aren't really necessary. The children strive to please and love being praised for their good behaviors that it reinforces those acts.
We never bribe them. A firm tone or an expression of disapproval often works as well as any spanking ever could.
The key is consistency.

Answer 4

Only if it's life and death and it's not done in anger but for discipline. If you do it all the time it doesn't make an impression - it's just hitting. I remember a friend saying how stupid he felt when he saw his six year old son hitting his four year old daughter, pulled him into the kitchen and while spanking the boy said, "We do not hit." Duh!

I prefer using Parenting with Love and Logic which is allowing the natural consequence to happen (provided there's no serious injury in it). I just think it's the best way. You provide the empathy and the situation does the teaching. That way, you and the child have a good relationship and they learn the real life lessons.

Answer 5

Yes. When my sons were little, i spanked them. But they started to behave when they were around 6, because they knew what was going to happen when they were bad. Well now they are 13, and 12. And i dont spank them anymore, but sometimes i slap them. Only if they are really bad though. But my sons know not to talk back or anything like that.

Answer 6

Under certain circumstances, yes. Only if your child is really out of control, not listening, wilfully disobeying the parent, then yes. My children do not get spanked very often at all, but when they are spanked, they know I mean business and it stopped their bad behaviour once and for all.

Answer 7

Yes - old fashioned spankings as a last resort. My thought is, if you have to do them, make them count!

Answer 8

Yes I do. I only spank my kids when they have done something REALLY wrong. If you spank all the time it will loose it's affect on them. A simple wack on the hand devestates my daughters.

Answer 9

as long as you use your hand and youre spanking on their behind then i see it as ok. it doesnt bruise and its not abuse, its just a sting to help discipline. i think its somewhat needed, there are too many bratty children these days who's parents refuse to touch them...you know, those kids screaming at the store and nothing being done about it? yeah, you dont want one of those...

Answer 10

Yes unless you want to be on Nanny 911 or supernanny with some spoilt kids.