He is three years older than me. He gets annoyed quickly and he acts like he is perfect and he always acts superior. Whenever I talk about something in front of him with someone else, he always wants to know what's happening, and then usually makes fun of me for it. He also makes fun of me for being overweight.
2007-01-08 09:05:16 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Lose weight, and talk back to your brother when you are right. In a pinch, you could spot one of his defects and make fun of him when he makes fun of you. They usually get reform very quickly, it you refer to a weakness which bothers them.
2007-01-08 09:08:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are talking about something with another girl while he is there tell him that if he does not get out of the conversation you and the girl you are talking with will start talking about him and talking about things that embarass him or you and the other girl will carry him home if he makes fun of you for being overweight.
2007-01-08 09:56:13 · answer #2 · answered by M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was in HS I used to love my sister so very much and would have done anything to protect her from another.
However, when it came to our sister sister relationship (she was 4 yrs younger), i acted somewhat like your brother in some respects. I used to always tell her she was weird. It didn't matter what she did, i would say it again, "your weird", and again... One day she came to me sobbing, just before she was to go into High school as a freshman.
She was crying so hard, .... "am I really so weird?" . WOW what a blow to me as her sister.... my heart went into my stomach. I then realized I should be encouraging her and building her up.
I never called her weird again and I, from there on out, loved her dearly and always tried to be uplifting and wise as her older sister. She was good in math .I encouraged her to go to college and become an engineer. She finished school and went on to have an exceptional life for her self. I can cry today when i think of how i called her weird and regret it. I know i was foolish as a teenager as i did not realize how my statement (which i thought was harmless) affected her entire mind.
Please ask you brother to read this as I am certain he loves you very much and would never really want to hurt you. You are his sister forever and will share your future lives together with your own families one day at the holidays. For you, realize his weakness in not realizing what he is saying affects you greatly. You have much courage by coming on here asking this question and you have done it because you love your brother also. What an amaizing kid you are!
I encourage you to read one of my answers by clicking on my name next to the fake photo. Scroll down and click on
'best answers' and scroll to the one about the overweight girl.
Whether or not you are a boy or girl, it will make sense to you
I hope my response encourages the both of you. If you need to print it out for him, do that with a note telling him you love him so he realizes you forgive him and are not really angry at all... I hope this also helps you in the understanding of how you yourself should treat others. The golden rule from the Bible said it just right, do unto others as you wish other to do unto you.
2007-01-08 09:27:54 · answer #3 · answered by lindasue m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kinda what happens with me but I'd change a few details.
my brother Peter is living at mom's again after 15 years he left. he thinks he can call me names and act stupid around me. well, i have news for him, even though he is 7 years older, I have a better job, I'm not the fat in the family anymore and I'm a successful person. he feels like I'm trying to make him feel bad and rub in his face that I made right choices in life (he is a drug addict and just came out of jail) but is so not true. and how can he pretend to have that "special bond" if he left the house 15 years ago when I was only 13 years old! we grew up apart and now he is like: you are so proud of yourself and shallow blah blah blah. whatever, he is not going to turn the table around so he can make me look like the bad one here. my younger brother in the other hand thinks that I'm pretty much like you say your brother is with you but is no true either. I get annoyed quickly because he asks me stupid questions all the time! that doesnt make me perfect but COME ON, the stupid questions are so obvious that he shouldnt even ask them! I act superior than him because he needs a role model, because my dad died and my mom spoils him so much that he cant do anything if she doesnt help him but I dont make fun of him in front of anyone. you gotta "study" your brother to understand where he comes from. that's what I'm trying to figure out with the help of one of my brothers (i have four) but my two oldest and my youngest brother think I believe I'm superior than them and it took me a while to realize that they felt so little next to me and especially because I'm a woman that hurts their "macho ego".
they made fun of me for being overweight my whole life, and now, when they are the ones who are fat as cows, they have the guts to keep calling me names when I'm far from being a cow! it took me forever to recover but I finally accepted that they are idiots who never knew that making fun of me the way they did is called:mental abuse. Now I dont let them walk all over me, now I'm the one with the pants!
2007-01-08 09:31:48 · answer #4 · answered by chikis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he is a ego bearing sorry excuse for a brother and a man. And if he keeps on teasing you for being "overweight" tell him he needs to get a life and stay out of yours! That's what I tell my brother all the time. It also helps if you slap him once and a while!
2007-01-08 09:09:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 5 (yes count them 5!) brothers. I am the only girl and the oldest. We almost killed each other while we were growing up, and YES we hit each other. Let me tell you, now that I am 40 and they are all in grown years I wouldn't trade them for the world! Right now you just have to OUTWIT them because "boys drool and girls rule"
they will come around and they will never let you go!
2007-01-08 09:23:17 · answer #6 · answered by renee m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, sounds like a big brother.
The fact of the matter is that in spite of the fact that he loves you, until you are well into adulthood he will view you as his annoying little sister.
My son has a brother that is 3 years younger and, yes, he often treats him as though he is somehow sub-human. In spite of this, I know him to care very much for his brother as well.
As a big brother myself, I would like to formally apologize on behalf of all big brothers for treating our younger siblings like dirt throughout our childhood.
2007-01-08 09:14:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely need to tell him how he's making you feel. He's your brother and he should understand. If he's not willing to listen, write it to him in a letter. That always works for me and I feel much better because I got it off my chest. As for him making fun of your weight, tell him to kiss your booty. He's not the one you're here to please. If you're happy with the way your are, that's all that matters.
2007-01-08 09:10:30 · answer #8 · answered by dottieinNM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're both teenagers; be patient, things will get better as you grow older. Sorry I couldn't give you a quick fix!
2007-01-08 09:07:28 · answer #9 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe you should. Do you have anything to insult him about? Look for something that he does that he's kinda ashamed of. When he insults you always hit him with something harder and he should stop.
2007-01-08 09:12:36 · answer #10 · answered by petra_sweety 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋