Should i give her both mine and her fathers. Me and him arent married, nor' are together anymore, but are still very close and this pregnancy ment the world to me and him and we love our daughter already, and i think that he has the right to have his name in hers as well.. but we are talking about trying to work out our differences with being friends, and getting things back on track with me & him and seeing how things go and if this is really what me and him both want.. but we are still a MAJOR part of eachothers lives..
what do you all think i should do??
2007-01-08 09:04:52 · 11 answers · asked by Michila Noell 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
that is totally up to you, my daughter does not have her fathers last name....she has mine.....he had nothing to do with me or his child during my pregnancy or after.....he in fact has never seen her and she is almost 3 years old......so for her protection she has my last name and no father on the birth certificate....but seeing how you two are on such good terms then i think it would be quite appropriate for your child to have his last name....i just think having two last names is a bit much....but hey just my thoughts....good luck.
2007-01-08 09:09:35 · answer #1 · answered by blah blah blah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that first you need to work on your relationship with each other,and see where you are both wanting to be long term ,as in look down the road ,and talk it out.see what your goals are,and if it is possible that you are heading in the same direction.but the child you have created has the right of knowing both of you no matter what.dont make it about financial reasons,try to make it abuot being good parents to your child.remember a name can be added at anytime,but a good parent needs to be for life.try to seek some counseling in your area,alot of good will come from it,and help is there if you seek it.good luck to you both.
2007-01-08 17:14:16 · answer #2 · answered by vance w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that the baby should have your last name. that doesn't mean that she's can't still be a big part of her fathers life, but since you two aren't married, or even together, you don't know how things are going to work out with the two of you years from now, and if you'll even want him around.
like i said, giving him your last name only doesn't mean that he can't be around and just as much of a part of her life as you are.
i honestly would try working things out.
2007-01-08 17:08:17 · answer #3 · answered by john_deeregirl07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think having two last names is a great idea. This way she can identify with you and her father. Just because you are having issues with her father doesnt mean she cant be loved equally by both of you. You thinking clearly indicates you are thinking about you child with love. Good luck!
2007-01-08 17:08:19 · answer #4 · answered by tking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked him what he wants? It might mean a great deal to him to give his child his name. You could give her both last names if it wouldn't be too long. It sounds as if you really want to do the right thing so talk to him about it. Good luck.
2007-01-08 17:12:30 · answer #5 · answered by hoosiergal0946 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is totally up to you, but if you use a hyphen, make sure you are not giving her the hardest name in kindergarten, I have a 26 letter last name with ahyphen thrown in, so if you can quarentee that her dad will be there for her every step of the way, then by all means give her both, but remember, that it will be there forever, or at least til she gets married:-P
2007-01-08 17:09:50 · answer #6 · answered by blank_red_rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, this is a stranger giving you advice on something that is so sacred, but give your daughter your last name as a middle name and make sure she carries her fathers last name, if not there will be questions down the road. and who knows maybe you will come full circle and be together one day. he deserves to have his name with his daughter. and oh congratulations
2007-01-08 17:08:32 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can give you the idea my sister did, she gave her daughter her last name - so no one would ask questions why they had different surnames, and she gave the fathers last name as a second middle name.
2007-01-08 17:07:58 · answer #8 · answered by Carrie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally have been in this situation. I gave my daughter Her fathers last name. I felt this was important and also to make it easier and less questions asked when she grows up. I hope this helps.
Flo
2007-01-08 17:09:31 · answer #9 · answered by greenpurplejersey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you gave her BOTH of your last names that would be wonderful! That way it shows that both of you were invloved in not only making her but raising her.
Good luck with reconciling hun!
2007-01-08 17:08:24 · answer #10 · answered by TTC Cycle#20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋