Sex with no strings attached?

Question

I went out with this guy for 3 months and we kind of decided to become friends. It woudn't work out for us as a couple for now (I recently broke up with a guy with whom I was 2 years with and I need some time alone to think about school, myslef and what I want out of life). He also thinks we should just be friends. I know though that he would want sex with no stings attached with me. I know he still likes me and this would just be between us but I'm wondering, would this be a good idea to do? I never had sex with no strings attached. he was the 3rd guy i slept with. will i develop feelings by just sleeping with him? will i be ok if someday he finds a girlfriend? will he if i find a guy? what would you do?

i'm 21 he's 25 if this helps

Answer 1

Unless you can seperate you're feelings, then you indeed will fall in love with him. And since you were dating him before, I would say that the probability of you falling in love with him is extremely high. Be careful with your heart.

Answer 2

This is kinda of a catch 22 question. For me I have had a no string attached sex relationship with someone and it was hard for me, I did end up developing feeling for the guy after being intimate with him so many times. You also have to weight you options too if you really want to get a little here and there, there is no problem with that you just have to keep your heart out of it. But if you think you might not be able to handle that them I would say don't do it. Women when sexually active with a man do tend to open up there heart with them since they feel so close to them in the heat of passion. Men on the other hand are just like hey great I'm getting sex and nothing else needs to be done so they love it. It really comes down to what you want and need at this point in your life so think it over and do what you feel is best for you right now. And always express to the guy where you stand and know where he does before you do anything. Good luck be safe and have fun too.

Answer 3

You are still young, you better be aware of the contraceptives and if you actually engaged in sex without love is that horniness???

I consider sex as sacred well i do it if i really love the person and it is the best sex but i havent tried making out with someone i dont love, say have a friend with benefits...

The frightening thing is that you are not sure if you are going to develop a feeling sooner or latter what if you do??? and he find someone else? it would really hurt and would he care about your feelings??? HELL NO!!!

MOst probably if i were you i will asked him first of our status and go out of it if he's not sure where were going?!? Leave him

'cuse me im not made to be used or use someone just for sexual satisfaction.... I want respect and that is by respecting myself.

Answer 4

Rarely is there ever sex with no strings attached. I wouldn't get mixed up in that it will only cause problems if one of you gets feelings for the other. There are other ways to fullfill the urge ya know!

Answer 5

I wouldn' do it personally...it will cause drama from HELL. I was in the dude's position according to your case..the girl got out of a 3 year relation...still madly in love with the ex..and i became the damn rebound with sex w/no strings. Bad bad mistake, mainly cause it was ME that started getting attached....to this day i have no idea why now that i think about it...but yea.

Well like i said she was still madly in love with her ex....and the ex apparently liked the idea of sex w/no strings....so she'd go back and mess around with her ex while messin with me,.....which is straight up nasty to me....then she'd get pissed cause I was just to be a 'friend' and she's still trying to get over him, yet she'd screw him whenever he'd get antzy and need a quicky...cause he knew she'd give in.

SO....if you are still getting over your ex...don't do it...not for his sake..but for YOUR sake...he'll probably be different than me...I'm not one to have casual sex i've learned. (the hard way), he may be all for it....but if YOU GET attached, and then get played....then that will only hurt you more.

Then you'll end up being like all the other biased women who all of a sudden think all men are dogs and think only about sex....please don't make yourself into that ignorant category....your body is your domain...respect it with someone who will RESPECT YOU for you ..not your p*ssy.

Answer 6

keep your legs closed if he can't accept your decision then hes not much of a friend.
more than likely you will develop feelings for him.
Men have a tendency of just wanting a booty call so the only problem he'll is if u get with another guy he'll loose a call. but then again he might develop feelings for u as well.

Answer 7

I guess you will do what you think is right....I don't think most young women can handle this kind of relationship and I was never able to find a man that didn't get totally attached to me within days...good luck

Answer 8

Hey it's called friendly sex. I had this wacky boyfriend 2 years ago and sometimes things just went off for the nite, My neighbor and I Have been friends for years.... sometimes I would Just knock on his window! Sometimes he would knock on mine too but I did not always answer! Her girls get more privileges!!!

Answer 9

I'm going thru a similar situation. There's nothing wrong with casual sex. and no one can answer your questions. Only you can find the answers within yourself. give it time and you'll figure it out.

Answer 10

I'd tell him I don't do no strings attached relationships. I will be a platonic friend only. Take it or leave it, it doesn't matter to me.