My sister was drinking after the funeral of my step father. My step-dad & I didn't always get along especially when I was a kid. He didn't like me because I told on him when he tried to molest us both when I was 5 she was 6. When she told me he was still doing it to her I told again. This went on for years, but she always got to do anything she wanted and they got along just fine. I was always grounded for some reason or another. I was the babysitter to my two younger half brothers (his kids). My sister let her two younger daughters spend the night at my parents house, which I couldn't understand. My mom knew how I felt about not wanting to be there at the funeral and understood. My sister didn't like the fact I didn't go and was yelling at me, and I removed myself from the situation and sat in the office, but she had to continue by finding me. She hit me upside my head with a full swing and I jumped up and punched her face 6 times. Her husband saw it all and pulled me away.
2007-01-08 08:59:08 · 11 answers · asked by whitegirlwithlegs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I was all set to say that the one who is right should always apologize first, it helps keep the relationship smooth. Then I read the details, and my head is swimming. Never mind who should apologize. Just get the hell away from those freaks and live your own life.
2007-01-08 09:12:58 · answer #1 · answered by cruztacean1964 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister was wrong by hitting you, and you were wrong for punching her six times. Does she drink often, or was this just one of those rare times? Molestation occurs a lot in alcoholic families....for some reason the majority of my teenage friends who were molested were from alcoholic families. She should apologize to you, and you should apologize to her. Hitting her 6 times seems extreme. Perhaps you should get some counseling regarding your anger issue. And if she drinks often, she might need Alcoholics Anonymous. It saved my life, and improved my relationship with others immensely...especially with my parents.
Good luck!
2007-01-08 09:11:38 · answer #2 · answered by cey12000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree about not wanting to go to the funeral ..... but I'm having trouble with the hitting your sister 6 times...I'm a woman & I know that a man's hit is a lot more powerful than a woman's hit. Although It wasn't right for her to hit you, you should of held her down or walked away but not hit her....P.S. I don't understand how she could let her girls stay at a child molester's house either...What's with that!!!!!!
2007-01-08 09:13:51 · answer #3 · answered by quiz buckler scoop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to apologize and come to some sort of understanding. She should know how you feel, and you should let her know why you acted out in such rage. Work it out, don't let this ruin you too, or the relationship you may have. And don't take the husbands opinion to seriously, he's only an outsider looking in.
2007-01-08 09:06:07 · answer #4 · answered by Lasa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, she's put the whole situtation in a special place in order to go on in her life. to take her children there was just sick, she knew she had been done that way, then maybe she wanted to hurt her children somehow. don't understand. very sick sister you have. she used her body to get fringe benifits. boy, who did you tell? children family services, or who. maybe your mom was glad this man didn't touch her, sounds like now that he's dead you will be able to start to heal, but to confront your sister, no don't waste your time, she has memories hidden and doesn't want to expose them. go on with you life and enjoy each and everyday. maybe in time life will get easier. sorry for your past and your present, good luck
2007-01-08 09:06:02 · answer #5 · answered by sweetgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is wrong for thinking you should go to the funeral of someone who molested you.
2007-01-08 09:07:20 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine it is a habit challenge. even as the strain heats up it style of appears like he might want to get out of control. perhaps even as he change right into a baby, something had befell and it truly is the really way he can take care of it. My exhusband might want to do slightly extraordinary issues like you suggested, even as the strain change into extreme. I requested my physician about those behaviors and suggested it wasn't accepted. I talked to a counselor about what he change into doing and attempting to ascertain out. My ex change into scared to get help because he idea that they could deliver him to the looney bin. We ended up in divorce too because i could not take care of his issues and mine at the same time. perhaps there is something incorrect with him, and what he's doing is accepted to him, yet might want to force you to the point that you supply up on the marriage. Been there earlier. wish you exercising consultation what's inaccurate.
2016-12-02 00:34:18 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PERSONALLY I THINK THAT SHE SHOULD APOLOGIZE BECAUSE SHE SHOULD UNDERSTAND ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL...YOU KNOW NOT WANTING TO GO TO THE FUNERAL... SO I THINK SHE SHOULD APOLOGIZE BECAUSE SHE OVER-REACTED....
2007-01-08 09:04:04 · answer #8 · answered by dale08babe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both need to apologize to one another. she started it but i think you went overboard.
2007-01-08 09:04:44 · answer #9 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was in wrong and had it coming.
2007-01-08 09:12:14 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋