My mother-in-law is martha stewart II, and is very aware of manners and keeps an immaculate house. However when we attend events with my brother-in-law and my sister-in-law these two act like monkeys just let out of the zoo, and she seems completely oblivious to it. They whine and fuss and scream and talk with their mouths open and make rude comments and antagonize my husband and are otherwise just annoying and, quite frankly repulsive. Mind you they are 22 and 24 respectively. How do I handle this? I have ignored it for a long time, but now it is beginning to rub off on my daughter, which I do not appreciate. They also tried to rush my husband's birthday celebration along so as to go out with friends and get drunk, as if their brother is nowhere near as important as their drinking habits. How do I address this?
2007-01-08 08:55:06 · 6 answers · asked by bensbabe 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
sorry, they CHEW with their mouths open
2007-01-08 08:55:33 · update #1
Why do the festivities have to END when they LEAVE????Gosh, I say LET them go and drink with their friends, bid them farewell (making it look quite obvious that you are going to continue celebrating, so they will know the world DOES NOT revolve around them) , and you and your husband should just enjoy yourself with your in-laws. The adults can finally be left alone to socialize.
As for it rubbing off on your daughter, you should just talk to her and tell her that her behavior is unacceptable. For example, If she eats with her mouth open or gets really loud and crass when they are around, reprimand her in front of them. Hopefully they will be embarrassed (what makes me think they wouldn't be....?)
But at least your daughter knows what behavior is expected OF HER.
2007-01-08 09:13:26 · answer #1 · answered by * 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let her know that their behavior is influencing your child and that it is unacceptable. They will not be allowed to interact with her until they can behave appropriately. And then follow through.
If you consider that too harsh, merely announcing to your daughter that their behavior is unacceptable and why will not only embarrass the guilty parties and their mother, but will also teach your child that the behavior is unacceptable. This should be done as soon as the offense occurs for everyone to hear.
Good Luck.
2007-01-08 09:04:12 · answer #2 · answered by Michele B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pass up invitations from them and let them know that you will be in better company elsewhere. If you can't get out of inviting them over for your husband's birthday, invite many friends over as well. Make it obvious they can easily be put into second place just as easily as they have been doing it to others.
2007-01-08 14:59:53 · answer #3 · answered by Alletery 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to address this is to simply stop having social interaction. Politely turn down invitations where they may be present and never invite them to your home. I am puzzled as to why anyone else in your family would want to be around them either.
2007-01-08 09:56:58 · answer #4 · answered by castle h 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say address their behavior as it pertains to your daughter. Talk to them about the way that they are acting in front of her and that you are trying to teacher her certain things and they are not helping reinforcing these good habits.
2007-01-08 09:03:57 · answer #5 · answered by onefootnaked 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid you're just gonna have to be blunt with those two and tell it like it is. Flat out tell them that they're disguting pigs.They obviously have no respect for you or your husband so they deserve none in return.
2007-01-08 09:03:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋