am nearly 28 and single, and i want a man but i have drawn up a list from what i want from my new guy and what you guys and girls thoughts, i what some one is is nice etc etc and easy to get on with and they must own there own house and have a good job and a nice car, am i being to picky??? or do i go for someone younger who is at uni still and doesnt own a house yet but is really nice and will have a goodish job one day, i dont mean to sound bad, just the way i am. thanks
2007-01-08 08:54:31 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You will probably end up with a fella who is none of those things just like the rest of us.
2007-01-08 11:36:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your own situation. Is what you've got to offer equal in value to a man AND a house AND a car AND a high-paying job? If not*, then you might be pricing yourself out of the market - the man of your dreams might think "well yes, she's nice, but this other girl here is nice as well only she has more money and better prospects". Or are you hoping to find someone who doesn't look at life in the same way that you do?
Speaking frankly here (and why come to the internet if not for honest advice?), the way you describe yourself as "nearly 28" tells me you think time's running out. And the calculated way you're approaching this tells me that - sorry, but - you need to get out more and get to know more people.
If you were getting offers from lots of different men who you liked and got along well with, then you wouldn't be drawing up wish lists. You'd be making choices between real people with personalities and other non-listable qualities that would make them more or less attractive to you as individuals and not as boxes to check.
My advice? Mellow out, forget about husband-hunting and build up a social life without any arbitary restrictions. Who knows who you might fall in love with? You might look back in two years time and laugh at yourself!
You can select your hobbies and haunts so that the men you'll meet are more likely than average to have money - as long as you can afford to move in those circles yourself, of course.
*(and this is a rhetorical question, since if the answer was yes then you wouldn't be having any problems and you wouldn't need to ask the question.)
2007-01-08 17:24:17 · answer #2 · answered by Snakey B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not being picky. Trust me! I thought the same thing, until I met my 27 year old mechanic. He was single, no kids, owned a house, has a 2003 lifted chevy silverado, a jet boat, quads, etc. He's an amazing guy! He treat me like gold and tells me everyday that I'm gorgeous, beautiful etc. I can't be more thankful considering I was in an abusive relationship for four years prior to this one. Hang in there girl! There are good guys out there! You just have to hold on and wait. You'll find him though... trust me! : )
2007-01-08 16:59:07 · answer #3 · answered by Lasa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you are too picky! You shouldn't wait for someone to have their own house, you should be trying to get on with getting your own house. You can't go out with a guy for what they have, you should be trying to get your own things. You will always be single if you draw up lists of what you want. Just go out and if someone is attracted to you, you should give it ago. Don't leave it too long or you will never be able to start a family. I was always looking for a partner to have fun with, I didn't really care what they had. I agree that they shouldn't be a total bum but people only usually can afford a house when they have a joint income. Please just losen up a bit or it will never happen for you.
2007-01-08 17:00:04 · answer #4 · answered by redikorus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, be picky...but be you. Take some time off from the dating/searching scene...for yourself. Don't spend your time worrying about a partner. Go do YOUR thing and everything else will fall into place. Who knows, you may have a little fun doing it and may even learn something new about yourself. You may even become a little less picky...or more. Neither one is bad, as long as you continue to make YOUR decisions, and not someone elses.
2007-01-08 17:00:53 · answer #5 · answered by Sam I Am 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me ask you this...
Do you own your own home? Have a good job and a nice car?
If yes to all the above then you are not too picky. If no to any of the above, then yes you are.
2007-01-08 17:00:44 · answer #6 · answered by I know for sure 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're being too picky. You shouldn't pick how you want your guy, but wait for the right guy to come. You're not as bad. My sister is also 28 and she is very picky. I believe she might be bisexual or even single for life ! =)
2007-01-08 16:56:34 · answer #7 · answered by craz34jason 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never be too picky, but you are thinking into it too much. You can invision the perfect man, but the perfect man might end up being none of these things. You can't be expecting anything. When the right one hits, you will know it.
2007-01-08 16:57:52 · answer #8 · answered by misscongeniality711 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you cant make people fit into a certain category. Everyone lives at their own pace. Maybe you could modify you qualifications to someone who is responsible and is stable. Not everyone figures out what they want as quickly as others. Give it a try. If it doesn't work, no harm, no foul.
2007-01-08 16:57:39 · answer #9 · answered by tking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think you are looking at this from the wrong direction.
why don't you go where you will meet people and when you meet a guy and your relationship takes off, your list of requirements will disappear anyway.
it's more important that you find the right person not the right list of things he has or not
2007-01-08 16:58:21 · answer #10 · answered by Star 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋