Baby is nearly walking at 10 mos. and is literally into everything. Despite making our home as babysafe as possible, she can still get into trouble, attempts to access things that are taboo, etc. I find myself constantly saying "no" and redirecting her back to her toys (which she finds much less interesting than just about everything else.) She gets pretty mad, and it seems like most everything that interests her right now is off limits (usually because of a danger to her.) Anyone have a better way to dicipline that you've tested with children?
2007-01-08 08:53:59 · 14 answers · asked by monkeygirl 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
What is she generally drawn to? Boxes? Plug outlets? Cords? Try to find toys with similar elements but that are safer. For example, if plug outlets are it get one of the toys where she can match the shape to the hole.
Instead of saying "no" you can say, "Let's play with this instead." You can also gate off unacceptable areas or create a very large playpen with gates where everything in that space is okay (Or you can make her room completely baby safe and put her in her room with a tall gate).
2007-01-08 11:55:09 · answer #1 · answered by Shrieking Panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What things is she getting into? Can they be moved/put away so they are not in her area of play? If it's a stairway, can you get a gate across it?
We have a 12 month old who started walking at the same time as yours and she was into EVERYTHING too. We literally packed up our entire living room except for essential furniture, a rug and toys. She still goes for the TV remotes and stray items we happen to drop on the table. But it does cut way down on the amount of NO we are saying. She still doesn't say the word NO at all which I think is a sign we don't use that word very much around her!
I think you are doing the right thing with the redirection, but perhaps scaling your play area down to the bare minimum would help eliminate her desire to get into things she shouldn't be getting into.
2007-01-08 09:00:04 · answer #2 · answered by harrisnish 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Plan her environment so that you have to intervene is little as realistically possible. You dont have to repeat "no", once you have told her "no" a couple of times for the same activity, you can simply redirect her without saying anything. She is very young and does not understand choices or limits yet, only around age 2 do they start to really understand limits and choices. One of the best books on parenthood I have seen so far is The New Parent Power by John Rosemond. It will serve you well both now and for many years to come - invest in it and get a copy. Good luck.
2007-01-09 01:26:33 · answer #3 · answered by shakespear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's too young to understand that something is off limits absolutely. She's exploring boundaries so she's going to have to try again. To you she's into the same thing over and over. To her it's a different experiment each time. Can I touch the stereo when Mom's in the kitchen? Can I touch the stereo if I'm crawling? Standing? Can I touch the stereo in the morning? What about if I'm naked? When Dad's home? The human mind loves problems!
I'm afraid that at her age you're stuck with simply redirecting her. Try redirecting her to different toys each time, try giving her pots and pans instead of toys. Put a scarf inside a Kleenex box to give her something to "figure out". But mostly, be patient.
2007-01-08 09:04:24 · answer #4 · answered by Gretchen C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My daughter started walking @ 10 months old and we had the same problem.In fact I was also worried about the whole "NO" thing.
When she would go towards her favorite place the barred stairs and attempt to climb over the baby gate,we (hubby&I) would pick her up and show her a toy that was both visually and sound stimulating.We'd sit with her and play with that toy with her.
Most things that babies want to touch is because they see mommy&daddy touching it without any bad effects...But it is about touching with a baby @ that age.So find toys that are stimulating in sound,visual,and touch.Or with your hands oh top of hers show her the things she wants to touch (nothing that can cut of course or cause serious harm) but the things that are relatively safe to touch with mommy or daddy there touching it with her...On the harmful things pick her up walk over to them show them to her and say things like "ouch" or "owie" and pretend to cry so she understands on the basic level that they can hurt her because they hurt you (pretend style).
I hope This Helps and Good Luck,
M.Gard
oh and this too will pass pretty soon you'll be wishing for this stage all over again lol next is climbing and that whole stage is scarey as all get out...
2007-01-08 09:06:23 · answer #5 · answered by Malia G 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Babyproff until you can't babyproof anymore. I moved everything they couldn't touch out of the way, and put locks on doors, you name it I did it. They only go through this stage for a little while, then you can bring your stuff back out. Babies don't generally begin to understand being disciplined until they are about 18 months old. So just keep redirecting her to toys and spend lots of time with her on the floor. I know what you are going through. It gets worse when you go to someone else's house and have to tell them, if you like your things in one piece, I suggest you move them. lol.
2007-01-08 09:00:41 · answer #6 · answered by breezymourn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My son is 12 months and I had the exact same problem. His first word was actually NO. LOL Well anyways, I started saying Don't Do That. or say something like You Know You Are Not Supposed to Be up There. We never hit him or smacked his hands. We were just firm and would take his arms and sit him down on his butt. So that he absolutly knew that it was off limits. Now he completely stays away from our glass table, our TV, the book case.
We just had to be firm and stick to it and make sure we always, always said not to do it. I don't think that what you say when discipling is important, it's more your manner and tone of voice that your baby understands first.
Best of Luck. :o)
2007-01-08 09:01:55 · answer #7 · answered by I Ain't Your Momma 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think of how you can rephrase the "no". Like with the kids I keep in my home day care I say "use walking feet" instead of "no running". Think of how you can turn it into a positive action instead of no. It's hard to give more examples because I don't know what all your little one is getting into. One thing my mother in law did, that really bugged me at first but turned out to be a really good idea, was she filled one of her lower kitchen cabinets with plastic containers and let my daughter get into that one cabinet whenever she was in the kitchen with her. Whenever my daughter would go for another cabinet my mother in law would point her to the one she knew was safe. Good luck, I know it's not much but I hope it gives you some good ideas.
2007-01-08 10:58:49 · answer #8 · answered by disneychick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with further babyproofing-our entertainment center was bare by that age! I also point at what he shouldn't do. When he got a little bit older, I would tell him why we don't get into things, etc. I count to three (he's now nearly 1 1/2), if we get to three he goes to time out.
2007-01-08 09:32:30 · answer #9 · answered by me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure i will, I penetrated the edge of the homestead and from the rooftop and climbed interior the 2d floor window, broken shards of glass all over the floor below the window, as I crept interior the path of the abandoned homestead searching for any clues as to the homicide in undeniable huge black letters sprawled throughout a door an illustration mentioned: "NO PENETRATION surpassed THIS element" thats while it hit me this is the place she died.
2016-10-30 09:01:09 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋