my son is 9.5 years old - is it too late to have another child ?-also ,is having one kid a good idea?

Question

one kid or more than one kid - what is the right size for a good family ?

Answer 1

The size of family you should have if totally up to you. It should depend on your finances and what you want. If you want a big family, then have one! It is never too late to have more children. My brothers and I are 12 years apart and we are still very close.

Answer 2

Since your son is already 9.5 you need to understand you will be raising 2 only children. My sister was 8 years older than me we grow up in two different times and two differ net ways We were both an only child. As I got older ( in my teens) we started to become close, she was more like a mother at that time to me. So to answer your question if you would like another child go for it, only you can make this choice. As for the family size that all depends on you as well I only have one child and that is enough for me are family size is 3 and is big enough. My experience with my sister's age difference and that fact that I can see the end when I don't have a child under my wings and a chance to go and explore tells me that I do not want another child, but you may be differ net.

Answer 3

it's up to you and your family how many kids is enough...
i can tell you this, though, as of right now, your son is at the point where he has already developed the personality of an "only child" and so will your next child if you have one.

carl jung, a well-known psychologist, has done studies on ordinal birth positions. if i remember correctly...if there is more than 10 years apart between siblings, it could be less i'm not sure, that each child will develop as if the only child in the family.

imagine that once your 2nd is starting school, your first will be driving.
that's a big age difference and will most likely cramp your first's style if he has to babysit all the time.

i was the youngest and i idolized my brother when i was a kid. he is about 10 years older than me. however, now, we don't speak very often and if we do it's a bit akward b/c we just don't have that much of a bond.
now, my sister and i were only about 5 years apart and fought like cats and dogs when we were younger, however, now she is one of my best friends.

i will say that it will be hard for them to form a really tight bond, however, it's not impossible...just depends on their own personalities.

even if they aren't that close, it's o.k. they will still both have plenty of love from you and your husband.

take care.

Answer 4

I also have a 9.5 year old. We had a baby when he was 8 and have another on the way. He's very happy to be a brother. He's also very happy that he had us all to himself for 8 years. I was content with only having one child. I don't think there is anything wrong with it at all if that's your choice. I think people should only have what they can afford and handle. Too many times I've seen people with three or four kids that are out of control because they're too much for the parents to handle.

Answer 5

It's not too late for another child. I have friends with 12 years and 18 years between kids. However, it would be unreasonable for you to expect them to be close friends - they're essenitally two different generations.

As for what is the "right size" for a family - no one can answer that but you and your spouse. Some feel one child is enough, some feel the more, the merrier.

Answer 6

A good family is the one that you want (or the one that God gives you). Our 4th child was born when our older kids were 18, 15, and 12. She was a surprise, conceived while I had been on birth control pills for 11 years. It was not a planned addition to the family, but now that she is here, we couldn't imagine our family any other way. My husband and I have been married 29 1/2 years, our kids are now 27, 25, 22, and 9. We are expecting our first grandchild in April. It is a good family for us. My aunt and uncle have one son who just turned 30 and isn't married nor has children. Their family is small, but it is a good family for them.

Answer 7

There is no 'right size' for a family. Whatever works for you is the right size.
No, 9.5 years old is not too old to become a sibling. However, I think what you need to realize is that they will be raised more as only children than as siblings. Siblings play together, get in trouble together, share, fight ETC. ETC.
I dont think having only one child is a good idea. I personally would never just have had one. Then agian, for others that is what works.
You need to do what is right for you!

Answer 8

The right size for a family is completely up to you.My hubby was an only child and hated being so-he said he always wished he had a brother or sister to grow up with and play with-he was very lonely.We have a 20 month old and I am due in about 5 weeks with my 2nd baby.We would like at least 3 or 4 kids.
If you feel you want another baby and are ready for one-I say go for it!

Answer 9

I don't think that's is wrong at all I have 3 brothers I'm 14,
One would have been 25 so that's 11 years
One is 21 so that's 7 years
and the youngest is 19 and that's still 5 years.
I am still very close to all of them and I was very close probably the closest to the one who is no longer living and that was 11 years. I love my brothers and I couldn't stand being an only child.

Answer 10

Personally, I think that kids do a little better when they have siblings, but not too many. Two or three is a good size. I don't think its too late-my friend has a brother 12 years younger than her. It also depends on your age, too, and if you feel like you have enough money to support two kids right now in your life.