we were dating for 2 years and it was so perfect until we gotten into this huge fight.... and we both equally disrespected each other and yes he did hit me after i hit him too.... he felt really guilty afterwards and after a while he wrote a letter to me and my parents saying sorry and how that wasnt him that it was build up and i can understand that because it was my fault too... no one me or women should put their hands on each other, but anyway he is always constantly changing every day and i think i should give him another chance, i am a very forgiving person since i am not perfect myself, do you think i should continue on?
2007-01-08 08:33:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Fights can cause 2 things in a relationship. They can either destroy it or cause the couple to become closer and strengthen the bond between them. All couples argue, sometimes its so rare that you may think that they don't fight. Fights are normal, they show that each person believes in different things. You need to sit down and think how you have felt over the past 2 years. It sounds like you have had a very good relationship. Seeing that he has felt very sorry and how he even wrote to your parents telling them that he is sorry takes a lot of guts. (I don't know how old you are but no matter what that is very encourageable of him to do). I would say yes to give him another chance, but I would sit down with him for a while and talk about what happened, how you were both wrong, etc. Mainly focus on how you were wrong when you talk to him, let him explain to you how he feels. Also focus on his sincerity of his apology and make your decision from that. Use your heart when trying to decide!
(Since I dont know what you mean by "he is constantly changing everyday". Does that mean that his mood is different every day? That means that there is something wrong and he is hiding it from you. If this is what you mean, ask him what is wrong when you sit down with him. If he askes you what you mean tell him what you have noticed with his behavior. Also consider his explination when making your decison.)
2007-01-08 08:50:01 · answer #1 · answered by jsygrovehpi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a forgiving person myself too. But sometimes you gotta draw the line.
Now, if he's always changing everyday and stuff then I'd be EXTREMELY careful. He may hit you again or something in the future. With that said, if you'd like to give him another chance feel free to.
Just remember that if something like that happens again you might want to think about your relationship with him. Yes, couples get into fights-but it shouldn't include people getting hit and stuff. Soon it could result into manipulation if you guys don't talk out your fights. If you haven't spoken to him since the fight, you should. If you want to give him another chance talk to him about the fight and let him know that you want to give him another chance and how you are sorry too.
I hope I helped! All the best!
2007-01-08 16:41:31 · answer #2 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you should not. if he hits you once in anger he will do it again. and it sounds like you are making a lot of excuses for him "i hit him too" "he felt guilty" they always feel bad afterwards and try to tell you they will change because they dont want you to leave. i would get out now before it gets worse. hitting is never acceptable, no matter what the circumstances. it was not your fault. he is a guy he could have walked away if you hit him, not hit you back.
2007-01-08 16:37:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think you should forgive him cause if he is willing to say sorry and change for the good then he must really love you and feel really guilty right now but if he hits you again maybe you should dump him don't put your self in danger cause he may not mean it but it could turn out bad
2007-01-08 16:44:38 · answer #4 · answered by ashley19948 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems you two have been together for two years, and i think you need to ask yourself, do you really love him? i mean he hasn't cheated on you, and i can relate because me and one of my best frends got into this big fight (she started) but she said sorry and i realized, i hung out with this girl all summer and i wont let some fight F*ck it up. if i wer you:
forgive him
2007-01-08 16:36:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think you should forgive him as long as you think its the right thing to do. he said he was sorry which is a great thing but if it ever happens again i'd give him the boot.
2007-01-08 16:38:02 · answer #6 · answered by Ashley M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you hit him first, it was self defence.
2007-01-08 16:47:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no if he hit you once he WILL do it again.
2007-01-08 16:41:35 · answer #8 · answered by nicole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't.
2007-01-08 16:36:25 · answer #9 · answered by In love with Life 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋