is it right to beat children as a punishment for their mistakes ??

Question

my wife has bad habit to beat my children.

Answer 1

Physical Voilence is a terrible way to teach children how to behave. Kids who are beaten will likely beat their own kids...it is a vicious cycle.

Children should NEVER be hit or spanked when the parent is angry. At our house we use time outs and groundings and loss of priveliges ect... We rarely spank and when we do, we NEVER do it in anger.

Send the kids to their rooms, and take a moment to regain your composure. Let them have 15 minutes to think about it, then go and explain what they did that was so wrong. We sometimes offer a choice of punishments (example:you can have 5 spanks, go to bed without dinner, or be grounded from the tv for the weekend)

If your wife is out of control, you need to confront her about her rage issues. It is your job to protect your children, from themselves and even their own family.

Good Luck.

Answer 2

Beating a child is no solution to correct the mistakes. But in the present condition..when you feel the child is doing something which is really bad and is not understanding with just the normal advice..then a bit of punishement can be given..but not in a major way..just to bring the child in line so that atleast out of fright he/she remains away from committing the same. but if one has enough time and patience it is always better to avoid beating the children to correct them.

Answer 3

Spare the rod and spoil the child is derived from the Bible quotation " He that spareth the rod hateth his son". This is not to be taken literally as it is a proverb. When taken euphemistically it means that children will only flourish if punished, physically or otherwise.

Physical punishment is resorted to only in the worst scenario especially where children are concerned. Talk to you wife without reprimanding her, use the help of a counsellor if you wish. She must be made aware of the negative results of beating your children.

She must be made to realise that the children may grow up to use violent means to have their way in life. And that there are other, better means of punishment if justified.

Answer 4

Beating is never right. Of course, there is such a thing called discipline. The two are often intentionally confused. There is also a difference between an accidental mistake and purposefully committing an act. If a child makes a mistake like all humans do, he should be talked to and that's it. If he knowingly lies, or purposefully breaks something, he should be disciplined.
MHO only.

Answer 5

No. It's NEVER okay to beat a child. Your wife is releasing her own anger and frustrations by hitting your children. In effect she is a bully. She's bigger and stronger and your children cannot defend themselves from her. If she attends a parenting class she will learn how to handle the children better. It is a very supportive environment and she will learn so much from taking one of these classes. Look into your local family counseling center and get information.

Answer 6

Every person, including you, myself, and your wife, make mistakes. Children should not be punished for mistakes, only taught to do better the next time. Until a parent is perfect a child should not be expected to be perfect. And beating a child is called abuse and its illegal.

Answer 7

Spanking and beating are two different things. While I don't condone either, an occasional spanking shouldnt do too much emotional harm to a child. Beating is completely different, it terrorizes a child and sets them up for inappropriate behavior and low feelings of self-worth... plus they could sustain physical injuries during the abuse. Talk with your wife about this issue. If your wifes disciplinatory action crosses the line of abuse then perhaps you should consider counseling.

Answer 8

No its NEVER ok to beat a child. Ask you wife what does she gain by beating the children?
By raising hands - you are teaching the kid its ok to raise hands on others. Children are nothing but little people and its cowardly to beat them. You CAN teach your child how to be a good person without beating.

Answer 9

Not beat. Perhaps a spanking here or there but not a beating. My mother in law did the same thing and it is abuse. She lost the two older children. I think if you know about it and you are doing nothing you are being just as bad as her. Good luck

Answer 10

Never! Ask yourself if you like it when someone hits you-no of course not it hurts for one as is demeaning, make one feel worthless. Your wife probably was raised by someone who had the same habit though, so it maybe the only form of discipline she knows, through many agencies, check with your pediatrician, even the Health & Welfare Department offers classes in parenting and specifically in discplining children, they have much better methods. It will stop future abuse and teach your own children a better way-sometimes we are scared by our parents ways, even though we love them, we live in different times with new improved ways. Happy parenting, as her husband support and guide her to a new way and you'll become even closer!