How do I get my girlfriend to talk to me? (This question is for the ladies)?

Question

My girlfriend has been given me the silent treatment for the last 3 weeks. I have tried everything to get her to talk me. I have tried writting love poems. I keep apologizing to her even though I don't know what I did. Today she surprised me by deleting me off her friends list on myspace, but she says she still in a relationship and she kept everything that I wrote her. So to all the ladies out there, maybe you as women you can give me advice on how to handle the situation that a man can't. I wonder if she is trying to break-up with me or does she need space.

3 weeks ago, her brother told me that she wanted to break up with me. So, thinking that it was over, I went head started talking to this other girl and we had phone sex. She told me that her brother was just playing around when he said that. She said still wants to be with me. I felt bad about what I have done, so out of gult I told her and started crying, but she said she forgave me and that she still loved me. After that I got into with her brother. Ever since my fight with her brother, I haven't heard from her since.

I understand what you guys are saying, but what I don't understand is why she keeping all the things that I have written her? Is that for the memories?

Answer 1

ASK HER!! Don't assume anything, and stop apologizing when you don't even know what you did wrong (if anyhting!) ASK!!!!!

Answer 2

First of all, stop apologizing for something you don't know you did or didn't do especially if she will not tell you why she is ignoring you, blatantly disregarding your feelings, and not respecting you as a person. From what you have written, she sounds whacked in the head.

You need to seriously think about moving on to someone who will better appreciate you as the sensitive, loving person you are.
In my opinion, she is keeping you around until something better comes along; or is just making you miserable just because she ccan.

Personally, I would rather not be in a relationship, than to be with someone who showed as much disrespect as you have written sshe has . Enjoy being single! You are only hurting yourself by shutting yourself off from other opportunities for a healthy relationship.

Many women, includng myself, would give almost anything they had for a decent, sensitive man. I hope this helps. Take care

Answer 3

I suggest you keep your distance for a while. She's made it obvious that she needs some space - give it to her.
Write and say that you are respecting her obvious desire for some space and tell her to contact you when she's ready - or within a time limit that you set. She can't expect you to wait around for ever..... how long will you wait?? Decide and then tell her.
she could be messing you about and trying to break up with you. No way of knowing from what you've written here, but if you take control of the situation by giving her a time limit of how long you will wait you may feel better and make her stop and think that she can't indefinitely keep you hanging on.

Answer 4

First of all, it takes communication for a relationship to work. If you have tried everything and she is still not talking after 3 weeks, leave her. You don't need to be with a girl that doesn't take the time to talk to you and tell you what is wrong or what you have done. You don't need it!

Answer 5

Ummmmmmmmm...im sorry to say this but it sounds like she's tryin to get u 2 break up with her because she doesn't wanna break up with u! Just think 4 a minute she's been givin u the silent treatment for 3 weeks so that really can't be good! Try talkin 2 her friends and see if they know whats up! If that doesnt work try writtin a poem or something thats what mi bf does when im mad or upset! i hope i helped!

Answer 6

With a girl there are times when we want space and when we dont and most of the time we try to give out hint while we dont talk to you.........most likely you had to of done something pretty big in order to get this type of treatment from a girl.......when a girl deletes you off her list then that probably means thats she isnt to fond of you and is pretty up set but you need to found out why she is mad at you first before you do anything.............one way of finding out about the problem try to talk to her friends and see if they will tell you and if they dont then you might be in big trouble here but this is the best i can give ya................

Answer 7

Wow...she sounds immature. The guy I was dating didn't respond to me for 5 weeks and then popped up again. Then he said he didn't want a serious relationship. You have to be careful with people that do strange things like this. Make sure they aren't up to anything shady and then have them communicate with you. If they won't even communicate with you, then there is something wrong with her.

PS: Don't apologize to her if you didn't do anything wrong and quit writing the love poems. Make her come to you now. You have done everything you could. The ball is in her court. I bet you 10 bucks she will come back to you once she is starting to feel ignored...

Answer 8

Think very hard about what happened about 3 weeks ago before the silent treatment---this should tell you what happened to set this in motion. And if this does'nt work, maybe you should give her some room. BTW whatever it is she must be really pissed to delete you from her friends at myspace.

Answer 9

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Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.

The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.

Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.

Answer 10

you must have done something that annoyed her but guys can't always suss that. that's why we get a bit moody for a short time to allow you to read our minds, but not more than 1 day. so i am worried for your relationship.....
try and think if this is very out of character and compare to previous similar treatments...but as others said, you should ask her and give an ultimatum: like" maybe you know what this is all about but i don't and this isn't helping, so if you want to talk to me do it now or this is over!"...harsh but it will wake her up!
good luck!

Answer 11

Answer this question you just asked as if it was one of your friends asking you. How would you answer him? What would you tell him to do? I'll bet you would tell him that it's not worth playing games like that and just to let her go. That there is someone better out there for him that won't play mind games and beat around the bush.

She probably found someone else and doesn't want to deal with the confrontation of telling you.

You must be worth more then that though. Think about it.