Okay, here's the thing: I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now, in early August it will be 2 years. This is my first long-term relationship, even though I'm 23, and his as well (he's 24, not that it matters). I moved in with him about several months ago, but before that I was seeing him almost everyday. Early on in the relationship--like the first 8 months---he seemed very much in love with me and eagar to please me--we'd go out tgether a lot, he'd buy me dinner a lot, buy me flowers once in awhile---but now and since the last few months that I've been living with him, he seems like he doesn't love me anymore. I know he's the blunt type, but he's also a nice guy, and maybe he's afraid to hurt me by telling me that he's not into me anymore, or maybe he's not sure of his own feelings. The thing is he never wants to go anywhere with me anymore, he just wants t go on the computer all the time and work on his website. Should I just take the hint and leave? Am I wasting time
2007-01-08 08:19:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
realize that you guys are basically seeing each other all day, every day now. There isn't a whole lot of alone time. I know how you feel, my gf and I have been living together for a couple months now and I am kinda feeling that way. maybe he is, too. talk to him and find out what exactly he is feeling.
2007-01-08 08:24:13 · answer #1 · answered by dwarner33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
moving in with someone usually kills the relationship that why people recommend you be together for at least 5 years before doing so. But it sounds like he is losing interest, i may be wrong but i'm getting a sense that you're being a bit needy, and thats something that sends guys running like nothing else. But it is never too late to spice it up and bring back the excitement. Do very unpredictable very sweet things for him every once and a while, for example set the house up with candles and his favorite dish as a suprise one night, the day after give him the BEST love making you can possibly give, and then don't do it again for 2 months. You just need some spice but sprinkle it in randomly into the relationship, i wish you the best !
2007-01-08 16:29:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the real world. The wooing stage is over and now you have moved in and the shine has worn off for him. Nothing unusual there but if you want to keep the spark then you are both going to have to work at it. When you are dating you are both on your best behaviour and do nothing except try and impress the other one but now you are living together you get to see the best and sometimes worst of someone.
Don't throw it away because it isn't what you thought it would be. I am sure he loves you but your relationship is now steady and he doesn't have to fight to impress you all the time.
Don't let it get too comfy though, try and keep the spark.
2007-01-08 16:28:52 · answer #3 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him...
It is probably more a case of familiarity now than a "lack of love".
Talk it out, try to recapture the feeling you had when you were still dating and not living together.
Let's face it, neither of you have to go to the same lengths you once had to in order to find a place to be intimate. The loss of that feeling was probably a small part of the romance before.
Just recapture it or find something else that works....
2007-01-08 16:24:56 · answer #4 · answered by wolf560 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why buy the cow when you are getting the milk for free as the saying goes, he doesn't need to romance you anymore, you are the live-in-p-u-s-s-y. , it also sounds like his level of commitment is dictated by how much he buys you. can you say prostitution? you are a romance junkie and you are going through withdrawals, at least you are learning a good life lesson. what's left when the romance is over? you better hope there is some love going on in there somewhere.
2007-01-08 16:27:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to think about this. You are definately worth his time and attention. Time to either pull the plug on the computer or leave I think.
2007-01-08 16:24:56 · answer #6 · answered by Erica R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should bring it up and have a talk with him.
Are you expecting anything longterm with this guy? If you're not, why don't you try to find someone that will give you what you need?
You don't have to settle on one guy, you know, he doesn't own you.
2007-01-08 16:25:02 · answer #7 · answered by Querida 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absence makes the heart grow fonder...familiarity breeds contempt...i bet he spent alot of time on his website before you moved in...you just didnt see it...don't be too clingy...he has to keep some of his individuality and so do you...he will tell you if he wants you out of his life.....i grew tired of an old girlfriend who got mad at me for wanting to spend time with my brothers and dad...dont let this guy be the center of your life...
2007-01-08 16:30:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you spoken to him before. First response get outa there, but the right thing would be to talk to him. If you wonder if someone loves you, they don't
2007-01-08 16:25:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him realise what he has got with you - maybe talk to him and let him know how u feel
2007-01-08 16:22:54 · answer #10 · answered by jamincoe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋