is 19 years old good for marriage?

Question

Is 19 years old good for marriage?
i love one of my classmates and i want to marry with her in future but i dont know she loves me or not .
if she loves me marriage at this age is good or not?

Answer 1

you need a relationship first mate!!! maybe get to know them before asking to marry them. lol your very keen though

Answer 2

First things first..... you have to find out if she loves you. If not, there's no marriage there.

However, if you are both in love with each other, I think that age is a relative variable. I know some people who at 19 were very mature and definitely ready to settle down. I also know people who are in their late 20's who are not mature enough to handle themselves... much less a marriage. It is a matter of whether you BOTH think that it is old enough. Are you both mature enough to really work through problems and listen to each other (keeping open communications will always be key!!!)? My personal opinion is that 19 is usually a little too young. Those who are 19 usually have not lived enough and experienced enough to know what they want and what they are looking for. BUT, as I've mentioned before, it is possible that at 19, one has enough knowledge and maturity to make it work!

All this being said, here are a couple of problems:
1) You said classmate and not Girlfriend.... um.... seems like this person is a stranger and not anyone that you are close to.

2) You don't know if this person is in love with you. Given the conditions stated in #1, I am inclined to say that she doesn't.

3) You're jumping into "Marriage" conversation before getting to know her at all.... this tells me that no, it's not the right age. You really need to get to know this person before jumping into the marriage talk.....

Hope this helps.

Answer 3

You shouldn't even be thinking about marriage if you don't know if she loves you or not, in the first place. In the second place, 19 is generally too young to get married because you still have to go through an awful lot of changing and life before you'll really be ready to settle down. This is true of most 19 year olds; they are normally just too immature. I would say, by the tone of your question, that you would be included in that group too.

Answer 4

Although marriage at 19 can work out its probably best for you to wait. In any marriage, the people naturally change over time. In a marriage between young people this change occurs much more quickly. She might not be the same person you love in 5 years.

Answer 5

Lot of speculation here so here is my advice.

You should have at the very least 4 years following high school before you even think of marriage. This gives you time to be on your own and truly get to know yourself. If you go to college I would absolutely wait until after that and you have established yourself.

To be in love with someone that you have no idea if they love you is setting yourself up for pain you don't need. Marriage is a major step in life, or at least it should be considered that. If you have just left home and marry you bring along with it how you were when with your parents. This is not good. Find out what the world is like out there first. Date but do not get serious.

Your mid 20's is soon enough to commit yourself to someone. If you find that this girl loves you she will wait. She needs to find herself also.

Answer 6

First of all before taking any initiative you must be completely sure that you are not in love with her physical appearance because our exterior ages, but our interior is really what should be taken in account.

Secondly you also have to be absolutely certain that she likes you, wants you, and respects you as you like her, want her, respect her and love her because love is not only about a physical relationship, but really about sharing many points of views, and perspectives with one another such as politics, religion, literature and many other themes which many disregard and believe is not integral to the relationship and as a result divorce is what many seek.

Thirdly if she is in a relationship with you talk to her about your visualization of a mutual relationship in the future because she might not be with you on the same page, perchance she might take this relationship which you treasure as a temporary relation, and does not intend to engage in a more serious and steady relation as you believe.

Last, but not least I cannot say there is an appropriate age where one can compromise in marriage, however I do believe this is a big engagement and you should take time to process things thoroughly because you might feel this way today, and later realize that you are not completely ready for MARRIAGE. Think About It.

Answer 7

No, teenage marriages almost never last. Wait another 10 years and when you have an education, a job, some money in the bank, a good credit rating, and a decent place to live you can think about a wife. It takes more than your feelings to make a marriage last.

Answer 8

Please do not get married at 19. Things change, trust me, once your go to college, or the military, or even just get a job, things change. Experience life. You have more than enough time to get married and have a family if that is what you choose to do. Your views of the world now and your views of the world just a short time in the future will be completely different. I got married at 23 and it is one of the worst decisions I have ever made. Take your time, you'll know when it's time. If you have to ask, then it's probably not.

Answer 9

Definatly not. 19 is way to young. If you really love her you wouldn't mind the wait of getting married a few years later. I haven't heard of 1 marriage that lasts if they get married before 22.

Answer 10

I wouldn't recommend it............I think you should wait a bit. I got married when I was 18 and my husband was 16. When we "grew up" we grew up differently. That cause a lot of tension In our marriage to say the least. We survived it though the early years were a constant struggle. It has all paned out for the good. I have two adult sons who have wonderful wives. I also have a granddaughter that I cherish.

You may be more mature so it could work out better for you. GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 11

Your too young. I have been thru two marriages, two divorce and three kids. I am 33 an I am still too young. You need more than love to make a marriage work.

Get your education, get settled in your career and have the money to support her. Without that..You can not love her..the way the world..requires you to love her.