any women willing to offer some explanation for this question?

Question

alright if there are 2 guys: one who is more blatantly a jackass upon first impression and the other who upon first meeting appears pretty genuine, why more often than not is the jackass the one a large majority of you ladies will give a chance to hook up with? I know there are a select few of you who appreciate a good guy for what he's worth but for those of you don't, what is so difficult about flipping the script for once in a while? This question is for you ladies who whine about being burned time and time again by the same type of no good low down and dirty dogs of men, and yet don't even bother to try dating a different type of man.
From our end it would appear that the qualities you find lacking in the men you trap yourselves with are the same qualities that appear to turn you off from us.

Answer 1

Excellent question! Well stated too, finally someone who spells out their words.... :-)
Okay, here goes, "we" women have this horrible little gene in us that makes us want to nuture people and when it comes to men, we want to CHANGE them. The reason; its because we think we can. Okay, this may sound too simple, allow me to elaborate.
Women generally look for that rough and strong and wild man. One that can make decisions and take charge or they can feel safe with. Those men are usually bossy to women but they also show a lot of affection right afterwards and women like that helpless feeling of being taken after a strong handed moment. (Boy I am going to get a lot of hate mail from women. But I am female and I am only telling you the truth of how it "was" for me and many of my girlfriends.) After a while of that treatment we usually try to "change" them. We get high on trying to change bad men into good men and most of the time, if not all the time, it fails. But it is out nature to try and nurture men. It is our nature to be taken by a strong man...(like the cave men) it is our nature to make a man love us, especially when it is exciting and it is our nature to complain and be hurt when it doesn't work out.
After two failed marriages and many years, I have learned that the man you described as sweet, loving, manly and intelligent, caring and funny but most of all levelheaded is the man for me. And I could'nt be happier. Also my self esteem has risen..thats another thing women have a hard time with, their self esteem.
So thank you for this great question and I hope you truly feel the I answered it honestly.

Answer 2

Dear Claud, I'm going to give this my best shot, and I hope that you find it to be useful in some way. For openers, I didn't go looking for God, Jesus, spirituality, enlightenment or any of those other things, but I found out a lot about them anyway, After considering my life's experiences, doing research and examing viewpoints of both believers and non-believers, I've come to the belief that God probably exists, and I can make it the rest of the way on faith. I have no problem accepting science, logic, rational thought and evolution. By me, God could have created the Big Bang, the evolutionary process, life on other planets, the physical laws of the universe and all that other great stuff in creation. However, none of this is proof, but, what we also know to be true is that atheists have absolutely no way to prove that God doesn't exist. About the best I can do is look at certain parts of life to see if they add or detract from the validity of God's existance. For instance, it doesn't seem logical to me that love would be so important in our lives. From what I can tell, the species could have survived without love, but many have found that love is extremely powerful and really does enhance our lives. It also looks like many, maybe all of us, were designed (or created or whatever) to alter our consciousness and to look for meaning in our lives. I find it a lot easier to believe that our lives do have meaning because I see that manifested everyday, and part of that meaning has to do with putting love into the world. Funny thing, that's exactly what Jesus was talking about. Dig it, we can reduce music to mathematics and science; after all, it's just strings or other sound-producing objects vibrating at a certain frequency or getting pounded. OK, so that's the scientific way to explain music, but how do we explain Mozart? Was Mozart (and are other geniuses) just a genetic freak, an anomaly of evolution, or is there some kind of consciousness/force/power by whatever name we choose to call that entity that can and does endow certain individuals with the kind of gift tthat Mozart had? Thank you for asking these kinds of questions, and don't let the detractors get to you. Here's hoping you're having a wonderful day!

Answer 3

That is due to immaturity and curiosity. Women like to get the man they know is bad for them. It's kind of a rush and it's more exciting, however, most of us can't deal with the consequences and end up beating ourselves up over it later. Now that I've gotten older I go for the other guy instead of the jackass. The same jackass that used to tempt my curiosity now upsets my stomach! Most all women go through that stage especially when we're young and not looking to settle down or start something serious.

Answer 4

Ok, the jackass type guy is the guy who is more outspoken and probably comes on to the girl first and flirts. We like the attention
for one and the excitement. I don't like guys like that only because
I can see throught them. There are times that I can't and later
regret it because they are excellent lovers too. That is how some get trapped.
I married a nice guy and I was lucky but he like many nice guys
neglected me and we got divorced after 13 years. Do you know
the guy I went with after who really turned me on was one of
those outspoken kind of guys. Some jackasses are only on the
outside, the real person is inside.

Answer 5

SOME women love the idea of thinking they can play God(dess) , that their shining love will change a man. No other woman's love except theirs can make him into the decent human being he needs to be. These woman have no real sense of self-esteem, so picking the jerk means 1-they get what they think they deserve and 2-if they manage to change him, they feel they've accomplished something in life.

I can almost guarantee that women who pick jerks didn't have their biological father in their life, or a good relationship with him.

Answer 6

Ummm, I thought that you had a question, not a full monologue where you generalize women.

I know many women who complain that they're turned off by guys who seem, "Too nice," which is so ignorant to me. Perhaps it all boils down to confidence. The ****** always seems to get the girls because he appears to be over-flowing with over confidence. If you put the shoe on the other foot, almost all of the female ******* I know have men, which leads me to believe that confidence shines brighter than common sense, apparently.

Answer 7

Well I would never go out with a jackass but that is mostly because I can be quite shy. It could be because some women think at first that they will give them a better time/be more exciting.

Answer 8

ok girls do that cuz they feel they can change them to be a goody good dog. then find out they can't and get hurt. now the nice guy doesn't probaly try to go for the girls, so girls go for the jackasses and find out the hard way. but there are girls who just can't find the good guys so they go for whoever. just find a girl like me that finds the nice guys.

Answer 9

I have to ask weathjer the "good guy" pursues -- or knows how to pursue, for that matter-- the lady or not. Women like to be desired and they want it out in the open. That's what more "experienced" men have on their side....

Answer 10

For the same reason you guys go for the big boob-let it all hang out-gal. And then complain when she gets "accidentally*" pregnant and you have to pay child support for the next 10-21 years.

*there is no such thing as getting accidentally pregnant