WHY DOES HE KEEP SAYING "I'LL CALL YA" and DOES NOT???

Question

LOL...I posted this last night and he just told me he would call again when I saw him about 20 minutes ago.

I already can accept that a guy who does not call is NOT that into me. But, there is this one guy who keeps initiating contact and suggesting we do stuff. I say sure, whatever. Then, he never calls.

He sent me an email last week full of excuses why he didn't and he would call if I was still interested. I was non-chalant about and just said "call whenever...I am pretty busy." I never would let a guy know I would wait for him if he isn't into me.

What I really want to say is "dude...look I know you're not that into me so you're off the hook. don't worry about ever calling me again." But I guess there is no point in that hostile behavior.

By the way, this dude is 37 almost 38. So, I would think someone is done with dumb games by now.

What is the effing point?????

I am NOT answering the email from today.

@ Just ME. You spoke the truth.

I just wondered why guys do that crap.

I will not engage with him again!

Answer 1

Men are never done playing games. You said you accepted that he is just not that into you but you really haven't. Your still wondering what is going on. What difference does it make ? He doesn't call when he says he will and you can tell he's just not that into you. You keep yourself in the game by trying to find out why this and why that when it really doesn't make a difference because in the end he still is not into you enough. He probably calls and suggests things just to see what you will say. Maybe it strokes his ego that your willing to hang out with him. Men are sick what can I say ?

Answer 2

I think he just wants to keep you hanging on in case nothing better comes along, he sounds like an immature jerk, he calls once in a while to make sure you are still willing to go out with himbut doesn't really want to because he is seeing what else he can get his slimy paws on, i wouldn't take any communication from him at all, then he will realize that you are not desperate and deserve more than a courtesy call full of excuses

Answer 3

Just tell him "it's ok, I know you're not going to call, so you don't have to say you'll call me just to be polite." That way you are being firm with him, and giving him a message, but you are also letting him off the hook gently. And if he really wants to call, then he will, but maybe he'll stop leading you on.

Answer 4

Stop playing his game. Let him know that if he wants to spend time with you fine, let's set up a time. If he really isn't interested then just let it go. You don't have time to play his games. You are just as bad as he is, don't allow him to do these things. Be honest.

Answer 5

Just ask him why he doesn't call when he say he's going to call. That's very rude and inconsiderate. I wouldn't even respond to his emails if he's acting like that.

Answer 6

that guy is a shmuck...he isnt man enough to tell you he isnt interested...telling him he is off the hook will only increase his screwy behavior....he will say "oh im sorry i didnt mean to be so inconsiderate...i WILL call you" and then he still wont call...if he approaches you tell him you are now a lesbian

Answer 7

wow.. idk all i can say you already know.. like he's not into you. i think i'd say what you were thinking of saying, because then you'll know what's going on. if he really doesn't like you, then he'll just be done with it, and if he does, then he'll explain himself and all. good luck with this.

Answer 8

tell him to not waste ur time either call by such and such time if not dont bother ever again