I have made it clear that I don`t want to spend time with this woman and her child until we get to a point where we are both sure we want a relationship together. I believe it is unfair to the child to see different people walk in and out of their lives.
2007-01-08 07:49:38 · 18 answers · asked by Sinnistergrin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is no time limit. It's base on exactly what you just said. You shouldn't spend time with her and her child until you both are pretty close to more of a commitment. I'm a single mother and my daughter has only met 2 of my boyfriend's. Her father and my current boyfriend. She's 10. I would wait until you both know for sure.... If she's pressuring you then something is not right.
2007-01-08 07:58:30 · answer #1 · answered by Izzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see your point however see it from the womans point of view. How would you like to be seeing this lady and get all wrapped up in her and then meet her child and you and the child do NOT get along. Do you really think the woman would chose you over her child, think again. I suggest you take the woman and the child to the zoo spend the day with the child as "moms friend" and see how the two of you interact. I met my husband went out with him twice and he had to meet my child because if the man wasnt going to accept and get along with my child or vice versa he surely wasnt going to stay in my life.
2007-01-08 07:54:40 · answer #2 · answered by **Damn its cold up here** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely right! You should really care about this woman and know that you want to spend a great deal of time with her in order to spend time with her child. Only when you are ready to say "I truly care about you & want you in my life." should you commit to meeting & spending time with her child. The length of time will depend solely on the relationship. I think 2-3 Months.
2007-01-08 07:54:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. It depends, how long have you known the woman.
2. How old is the child?
Each family is different and are you ready to get involved in a premade family?
Some children may be emotionly upset with their parents split while one may have never have even know his or her father.
There is so many factors to look at and you two should try and make the right decision.
Good luck
2007-01-08 08:05:46 · answer #4 · answered by coffeemate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in your shoes 2 years ago. We both decided to wait before I was introduced to her son. I now live with them and things are going very well.
Keep in mind you will be working on 2 relationships, 1 with mom and the other with the child.
Good luck to you.
2007-01-08 07:57:49 · answer #5 · answered by Sammy12oz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a mother of 3 i have to agree with you on this i don't think it is fair to the child to have to deal with different men.but i think that a good way to show her that you would like to include her child in you life one day would be to ask about the child every time you two talk,by her child a book,or toy.the little jesters are the big ones.
2007-01-08 07:59:40 · answer #6 · answered by sassie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smart man.
I don't think anyone can give a real time table for something like this, it just depends when you both are at that point and you're comfortable getting to know this child.
But, to take a guess..I'd say at least 3 months.
2007-01-08 07:52:38 · answer #7 · answered by Sgt. Pepper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've covered it.
It's not a time limit thing, it's a comfort level thing. When you mutually decide you're serious, then you can discuss meeting the kid.
I'm surprised the nonparent member of a new couple is the one saying this. In my experience it's the parent who "protects" the kid. Good on you.
2007-01-08 07:52:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you! So it would depend on how fast your relationship grows. I dated my husband for a year before I let him around my kids! Congratulations on having good morals and caring about others!
2007-01-08 07:54:05 · answer #9 · answered by wish I were 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree 100% with you. I'm a single mom and want the same thing. You should wait until you know you are serious with the mother.
2007-01-08 07:53:55 · answer #10 · answered by moni6674 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋