anyway I have been with my guy for about a year and a half he is 30 and i am 29..and in that time he has two strikes against him..the first incident i can get past..now this second incident I dont if I can forgive or forget..he texted a girl that he used to mess with and told her he wants to sleep with her..I spoke with the girl she told me that they have messing around for quite sometime now..and that she saw him the week of christmas..he slept with her..on saturday i asked him about the girl..he told me that nothing happen they are just friends..she has a crush on him.he told her to leave him alone.I know that part of what he says is not true..simply because i went through his vm and text messages.I know that I need space from him..I get these crazy images of them together.. love my man so much and would do anything for him.but i just dont want to go through the pain and hurt that i will suffer if we break up..i have been hurt before and the pain was just to much..why am i holding on
2007-01-08 07:43:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I personally would not deal with cheating. I have been cheated on before and it is unforgivable in my eyes. I am so glad I didn't settle for a cheater. You can do better than him. He shouldn't be texting another girl in that manner, whether he actually slept with her or not. You know his true feelings- he wants to sleep with her! If you aren't married to him or have children with him you have no attachment to him except feelings. Those feelings will fade once you get over him. Go out on the town with the girls and explore your options. You'll feel better.
A man who really loves you doesn't want to sleep with somebody else. I have been happily married to a wonderful man for a year. I am fortunate that I had the strength to leave a previous man for cheating. If not, I would have really missed out on happiness.
2007-01-08 07:58:46 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you because I have a simular situation. I know he has somebody else but just can't leave him. You know, sometimes it's hard to take a decision at once and to be firm, but... I don't think you should stay in such a relationship for all your life, don't you? You just need time to realize life is not over and he is not the last man in your life. You're not 90. Look around, try flirting with other men around you, even if you don't want now... May be you'll start seeing things differently. You may feel humiliated now, but it's not your falt he is like that. Make him think you're cheating on him too, at least tease him a little, and you'll feel better.
2007-01-08 07:59:54 · answer #2 · answered by ania361 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the main reason you're holding on is not only because you don't want to lose him...but also because you think that maybe..just maybe...things will work out between you and your bf. The truth is...he doesn't care about you in the same way you care about him....if he did...he wouldn't even make you question his faithfullness. I know it's hard but you need to end it...You're in a one sided relationship. It's better to have the pain of breaking up right now than to drag this out and continue to have pain. It may take you a while to patch up but like I said...which would you rather have...a few weeks of pain or a lifetime of pain? There are decent men out there that are faithful. Trust me..they're out there...you just have to dump this jerk and go find a REAL man...not this player.
2007-01-08 07:51:10 · answer #3 · answered by CuriosityKilledtheCat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quick answer, or so it seemed. I have always said that you should dump the guy, now matter what. But then my GF lied to me a couple of time, didnt sleep with anyone but she did lie which according to me is just as bad as sleeping around. What happened to us is that she became a Christian after and we are still together. It is not easy but it works somehow. IOW the only time you can really forgive someone for something like that is when they have been made a new person by Jesus Christ...he is the only one who can forgive and help to forgive.
2007-01-08 07:57:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its true breaking up is very hard, but dont u think its harder being with a person u know is sleeping around? by you staying with him ur just tearing up your life lil by lil. what if he doesnt sleep around anymore and it was just a one time thing, ur still never gonna be able to get over that image or the thought of him maybe cheating on you again. it just creates this big insecurity in the relationship that creates bigger problems on the long run. ur better off just letting him go and moving on. u cant be played around with and obviously he doesnt love as much as you love him so whats the point, really?
2007-01-08 07:52:42 · answer #5 · answered by oc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl if he slept with another why u would like to be with him longer?? u Can do muche better than being with him find someone who will be good for u couse if he do it , it means something is wrong with him not with u !!!!!!! Find someone good the way u will suffer whan u will break up with him will not be more than u suffer now when u know he sleeps with others!!!!!!
2007-01-08 07:51:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that you need to let him go the reason that you are holding on is because it sounds like you dont want to be hurt again or by yourself. But if you stay with him you are going to be hurt cause you are always going to be picturing him in bed with this other woman. Let go now instead of always worring
2007-01-08 07:49:18 · answer #7 · answered by crystal n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you love someone, you have to let them go... it's not you, he's just not being faithful and loyal...i know it's going to hurt a lot ....especially with the memories and all....but, if that keeps happening, then it's for a reason...your an smart individual person and plus your not blind...come on, you already seen the flaws...what are you waiting for?...til you guys get married!....do what's best for you and follow your heart...face reality...hope i can help.
2007-01-08 07:54:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre holding on because deep down you may feel this is your fault somehow and that what youve been giving him has been inadequate.. however, it is not your fault. It's his for not excercising self control. You should definitely leave him- because once a cheater, always a cheater.
2007-01-08 07:52:00 · answer #9 · answered by aaron 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want all that drama
toss him to the curb
2007-01-08 07:46:05 · answer #10 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋