my boyfriend that i have been living with for 6 months, wants me to move out because he is not happy, i guess. the thing is that he pays the rent and i pay the cable, phone bill, and con-ed bill, and he pays the rent. the thing is that all the rent reciepts are in my name due to i issue the rent check every months.i want him to move out so i can have the apartment for myself and my children. both of our names are on the lease and iam a responisble female that works full time and obtained a bachelors degree. it is just hard for me because i still love him and want to be with him. the problem is that he is selfish and stubborn and don't want to give the apartment to me out of spite. i am tired of fighting and don't want to continue to sleep on the couch. so yesterday while he was out i slept in the bed and he came back and slept right next to me still with no words, what can i do to make things our living relationship better.
2007-01-08 07:37:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you should stay at the apartment and stress that pakistani *** hole. make his life a living hell and make his life miserable. why should u move out, you will be miserable then.
2007-01-08 08:03:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I'm very sorry that he has to be that way. Well I have a few ideas. He only pays rent right, well if that is the only thing he can aford tell him that if you move out you get the cable, phone, whatever it is you. That's only if he only has enough money for the rent. Or you can tell him that if you move out that he has to pay you back all the money you spent on him so he could do what he wanted at home. He says know tell him then I'm staying till you do or you'll just live with him. You have a kid and if he doesn't understand that then he has problems girl. Or you can mess things up around the apartment and pay for those or help pay for those and use what I said in the last one. But the easiest thing to do is be as sweet as you can. Take it one step at a time, because if you be huge and sweet all at once he will know what ur up to. Keep the house as clean as you, make beautiful dinners, make him breakfast in bed. If your kid calls him dad then have her draw him some I love you pictures. If you do sweet things like that then he will slowly start falling deeply in love with you and realize that he really needs you and wants you. But never give up. If you ever get in fights try to calm them down with a soft voice. Look for the beauty in life. Be Happy all the time, every guy loves a happy women. While doing this after a while start dating other men. Don't get into any of them and make sure none of them do. Just have them come pick you up at your apartment and go out for dinner or lunch. Nothing big. Well hope that I helped. Yours was the most interesting. GOOD LUCK. I'm sure you deserve greatly
2007-01-08 15:56:54 · answer #2 · answered by Maria L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GROW UP Art L....your comment was rude and uncalled for...anyways.... since he is the one that is unhappy with things...he should be the one to move out...offer to help him look for another place to live...help him pack or whatever...just explain to him that it's unfair for him to force you out when he is the one with the problem. If he refuses to move out then help him realize that you deserve the apartment and are completely capable of paying the rent and taking care of the place. Have you asked him why he is unhappy? Instead of rushing to split up and move away try working on your communication. Let him understand that his happiness is important to you and that you want to try to make him happy...but also understand that a relationship is a two way effort...he should want to make you happy and you should want to make him happy. Good luck with things!
2007-01-08 15:45:46 · answer #3 · answered by CuriosityKilledtheCat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if he is willing to sublet the apartment. Or you can talk to the manager and see how much it will cost to break your lease early. Life is too short to be unhappy. Your kids don't need to be in that enviornment either. It's worth paying a few extra bucks to get out of that situation.
2007-01-08 15:41:32 · answer #4 · answered by water.bratz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants out. Let him go. Move on. It takes two to make a relationship work. You will find someone who will be just right for you. Don't kill a dead horse.
2007-01-08 15:40:09 · answer #5 · answered by Shayna 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the longer you keep on fightin him.. the longer this will prolong and the more hate you will have for each other.. you have to acceptthat he doest love you.. i mean you are wastin ur time.. in that time u could be livin in ur own house.. getin your life bak together meetin some one new.. but your holdin urself bak.. it his loss hun and trust me hes gona come crawllin 1 day but ur not gona give a s*** coz ur gona b over him... so my advice move on .. stop wadtn=in ur time ..
2007-01-08 15:41:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen and listen good. If he isn't happy anymore chances are he doesn't love you like he use to. Don't cause yourself anymore pain. Move on and find another guy.
2007-01-08 15:40:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that if he wants to brake up then he can leave. Or you could just move him out when he's not home.
2007-01-08 15:41:10 · answer #8 · answered by lex83201 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave from in front of this screen that will not provide you any good anwer, because people here are nuts and don't know either you or your boyfriend...good luck
2007-01-08 15:41:08 · answer #9 · answered by Kay 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
forget this one and find another bf
2007-01-08 15:39:54 · answer #10 · answered by naindesign 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋