I have a problem with a four year old child?

Question

OK heres the thing i have a four year old girl. she is potty trained and all and hasnt "wet" herself in almost 5 months straight. then all of a sudden about a week ago she started to pee her self. almost 3 times a day and always when she goes for a nap or goes to sleep. Now we ground her and yell at her every time she wets her self but it isnt helping any. has anyone had this problem or have ideas!!!!

Answer 1

♥ ♥ first of all stop punishing her... she could have a slight infection...make sure she goes potty before napping and bed time.. limit her fluids at those times...are things stressful at home, she could be picking up on your stress...♥ ♥

Answer 2

Stop yelling at her, its not helping. Next, Take her to see a doctor if you really have no idea why she has begun this. It may be physical, in which case there is no control while she is asleep.

If you do have an idea about why this has suddenly begun again, then talk to her about it. Has something just happened in your family that is causing her a lot of stress? Four year olds are pretty reasonable most of the time. Explain to her why it is important for her to continue to use the bathroom. Let her know that she will be unable to do certain things like go to school, or to the library or the zoo unless she uses the potty. Tell her its ok to mess up sometimes, but you are really glad that she has learned to use the potty. Let her know that it is important to you that she continues to use it.

Answer 3

I've seen this before with my little sister. She was potty trained at 1 1/2 and all the sudden when she was about 4 or 5 she started wetting herself in her sleep. We tried everything from waking her up every hour to go pee (it just made her tired) to not letting her drink anything 3 hours before she went to bed, etc. You should take her to the doctor she might have what they call primary nocturnal enuresis (it's an actual bed-wetting disorder look on WebMd for more info) They have some treatments for it. If it's not that (if she still wets after taking the medication) then look for other sources, she may have possibly been molested, sometimes that causes it.

Answer 4

Ok, first off, yelling and grounding her isn't going to help, it's going to make it worse. Chances are she can't really help it that she's doing this. Stress definitely can be a major factor in causing and worsening the problem. So stop all the yelling. She knows she's not supposed to go in her pants. Try and reduce all causes of stress for her. Is there a lot of tension in the household? Did you move recently? Was there a birth of another child or anything else major happening in your life? What else could stress a 4 year old out? Also, see her doctor, it could be an infection!

Answer 5

You ground and yeall at a 3 year old? Where the HELL did YOU flush your brains? I can understand the 3 year old's problem but what is YOUR'S? Find some parenting classes and ENROLL LEARN something. She has probably simply "reverted" kids sometimes go through a phase like this usually when something has happened within the home...since you're obviously yelling all the time that is WHERE this is comeing from. GROW UP you're a PARENT now not a child, You are not the one who should be throwing the tantrums.

Answer 6

ohhhhhhhhhhh yes iv had the same thing.
mine is also 4 and iv had this same problem on and off for the last few years. its so frustrating . to be honest i never really figured out why but we did the whole yelling , smacking , in the room thing and none of it made a differences . i think alot of it was for attention and just plain laziness.
in the end i bought a small toy i new he wanted and i sticky taped it to the fridge with a reward chart and said at the end of the week if you dont wet your pants you will get this toy . and as it was in plain sight all the time he really wanted it i also wouldn't let him touch it he just looked at it. when he was good and went to the toilet i gave him a smiley face and if he wet him self he would get a sad face . it did work for a while . good luck i no your frustration . try ignoring her when she does it too dont give her the attention shes after and i also wouldn't change him i made him go into his own room and change him self, again not giving him the attention hope it works for you

Answer 7

Punishing a child who has a problem wetting the bed is one of the worst things you can do. This can make the problem worse and make it last for years to come. Comfort her and explain to her accidents happen. You may want to get her some training panties that she can wear while she sleeps, and tell her doctor about the sudden problem. There may be a medical or psychological reason this is happening.

Answer 8

Stop grounding her and yelling. Stop making it a big deal. Ask her when she is going to be a "big girl' and go to the potty like big girls do. Don't shame her or make any fuss when she goes. Just ignore it is a nuisance..and put up w/it. I don't know any people that grow up peeing thier pants. You know we all grow at different spurts. You should take her to the pediatrician. She may have other issues you don't know about.
Parenting class may be an option for you...you seem overwhelmed.

Answer 9

It's not uncommon for potty trained children to regress, especially if being potty trained is relatively new to them. OR, it could be a symptom of an under lying condition-emotional or physical.

The WORST thing you can do in this situation is to ground or yell!!!!!!!!!! Be patient, re-train her if you have to. Take her to the doctor and see if perhaps she doesn't have a bladder infection. ALL children get potty trained eventually, but it does require patience!! I'm willing to bet she is NOT doing this on purpose.

Answer 10

I've been a foster carer / family day care provider for almost 27 years, (currently working with 42 pre-schoolers) and this isn't unusual at all. Yelling or grounding won't help..... but patience, caring and a trip to the Dr. to rule out infection will.
She probably doesn't like it any more than you do, but helping her, and understanding her, WILL make all the difference.
Hang in there.....it will get better.

Answer 11

Don't ground her or yell at her! Please! Stress will aggravate the problem.

Arrange for her to go to the bathroom at regular times during the day. My daughter would wet her pants simply because she enjoyed playing so much, she didn't want to interrupt her play and go potty. Her bladder would be bursting, so she'd wet herself.

If she's wetting three times a day, schedule three times for her to go to the bathroom and sit down. She may tell you she doesn't have to go (as my daughter did) but make her do it. She will most likely go. Then have her go before bedtime.

Good luck!