He listens to his dad and his godfather but he hits me and last week he kick me in my chest and I just had heart surgery.
2007-01-08 07:27:57 · 11 answers · asked by taneshia027 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh my!! kicking some one in the chest has nothing to do with Attention Deficit Disorder it sounds more like he has JPRA that stands for he is just plain rude and abusive. He assaulted you Call the cops and have him face the consequences of his actions
2007-01-08 07:52:17 · answer #1 · answered by Chillypepers 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS ADD OR ADHD......Your son has no respect and needs some attention. By that I do not mean give him drugs to sedate him, hit him, put him away some where or any of the other crap people come up with.........
That kid did not just walk up to you and kick you. There is much more to this story than is being told here....Children do not need drugs. Children need your time and attention. When they don't get the good attention, they will take the bad attention. As long as it is attention, they don't care.
Sorry, sorry mess these kids are in that take drugs for these "pretend" afflictions. I read that entire families have ADD or ADHD and I cannot believe that you are that ignorant to believe that.
HOW does this sound to you? You and I are talking about our children and I say to you, "my son has ADD. He is on a new drug. I am hoping for the best for his behavior. Maybe he will quit chasing me with a knife. My daughter has ADHD and so does my nephew. We don't know why, but they on two different drugs. My sister's kids all have ADHD. The ADHD kids act worse than the kids with ADD. My brother is 34 and he was just diagnosed with ADD. That is the reason he can't hold down a job. We always thought he was lazy, but he has ADD. His drugs will get his lazy butt off to work.
My other brother has been in jail off and on all his life. He used to hit my mom a lot too. Then he would steal her money. They found out he could have ADHD. Drugs will change his life now."
The next thing out will be, I am sure if they had checked Saddam out closer he probably had ADD and ADHD. With the proper drugs he could have been a nice guy...
GIVE ME A BREAK !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Please get some help from a professional and if they mention drugs for anyone in your family, go to a different person. There is an answer out there for you and for your family.........Please continue to search. Your son was not born a bad boy.
2007-01-08 16:09:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he really have ADD? or it is possible he is one of the many children misdiagnosed with this disorder. Family counseling seems like the best approach for this type of situation. Without knowing all there is about each individual person and situation, it is probably in everyone's best interest to check out a professional who is trained in this area.
Also, if he is on some medication for it, I would check with his doctor about it. Pills are not always the solution to every problem. Sometimes the "cure" is worse than the illness.
2007-01-08 15:34:36 · answer #3 · answered by J T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old he is. I will assume he is old enough to know that he is hurting you after surgery.
When you ask him to do something, make sure he is listening before you ask. For example, call out his name (not in an angry voice). If he doesn't answer, go to him, touch him on the shoulder until he looks at you. State what you are going to say while he is looking at you.
Yelling at kids from a different room rarely gets a reaction. They know that they can ignore you until you get angry and then they are the one in control. Make your goal, not getting angry.
Make clear simple requests. Make sure they are completed. Have reasonable consequences in place if the rules are not followed. Always follow through with consequences without anger. Make mutual respect part of the rules. Keep your head.
2007-01-08 15:50:39 · answer #4 · answered by BParker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the father doing differently. You do understand that ADD is not a disease. It's a condition. If you allow your child to behave like that towards you, then that is exactly how he is going to treat you. My son was also given that diagnosis at school. I took him to a professional and it was not ADHD or ADD. He simply had a stubborn problem and wasn't understanding what he was learning in school. You have to understand that your children will treat you the way you allow them to treat you. If you don't want him to disrespect you, then don't allow it. I hope you are not one of those "time-out" parents. If you are, stop it now because it's obviously not working. Please take a firm hand here and get your son under control. You do not want him to be like that when he gets older. It's our jobs as mothers to make sure our children don't emberrass us in public. Have a chat with the father and inform him of what is going on. You don't want to visit your son in jail for beating up women when he gets older. Good luck and GOD bless.
2007-01-08 15:36:29 · answer #5 · answered by cookie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should get him presribed to ADD medicine. I have add it is godsend for the school hours, but the side effects are being more anxious this can be overcome by not taking the medicine during the weekends. Theres pros and cons to all ADD medicine. Many people are misdiagnosed with ADD but it really does no harm. If you don't have ADD than your just super focused and things. If your son is on ADD medicine there is pros and cons to medicine that last only a few hours and medicine that last all day. Medicine that last only a few hours may have a rebound effect when the medicine wears off, were the child may be more hyper than normal. Medicine that last all day may give him anxiety that may not wear off at night as it would if you took medicine only during the day. AT firsts its like your on strong coffee all day.
2007-01-08 15:48:48 · answer #6 · answered by Chris 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Obviously, any kid who kicks a person who's just had heart surgery has some serious emotional problems.
You need professional help, right now
2007-01-08 15:32:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My stepdaughter has both ADD and ODD(oppositional defiance disorder). She listens to me and not her mother. Kids with these issues love to push their boundaries. If they know they can get away with something they will continue to do it. She is on medication and all 3 of us are in counceling. Parenting classes can help you learn to deal with these behaviours and teach you skills to combat them.
2007-01-08 15:38:54 · answer #8 · answered by jacksonvillegarycollins 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't care if he has add kids with add don't act like that my son had add also and he was quiet and didn't act like that. How old is your son? Sounds like he needs some medication
2007-01-08 15:31:05 · answer #9 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like you Don't Mean what you say and put action behind your words......As soon as you Mean what you say He will respect you.......
If you say you will spank him......Spank Him......If you say you are going to take that Toy away from Him Take it away. Respect is earned.....You can not make someone Respect you.
If you SAY IT!!!!! You Better MEAN IT!!!!!!
2007-01-08 15:33:47 · answer #10 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋