Disciplining my 22 month old Boy?

Question

Ok, don't get me wrong, I love my little boy to death, but he really is a naughty cookie at times. Well my question goes; is it wrong of me to slap him on his thigh to line him up when he is misbehaving? ie; when changing him he kicks his legs everywhere and screams and cries, so I slap him hard on his thigh. Is he to young for such punishment? I've heard of time out and such, but honestly, my child would not even understand that he has to stay in a corner, unless I lock him in a room, which he would not take well either. Also, I tend to use my voice to line him up when acts up. My last resort is the slap! I must admit my voice is rather thunderous and I can tell my poor baby gets realy scared when I shout at him, but if I don't, he just doesnt listen. Like he wont drink water etc. My husband said something really hurting earlier on, he said I don't love my son, and it really hurts so much. He also said the only reason he doesn't want a divorce is bcoz of our son? Isnt that selfish?

Answer 1

every mother wil go through this i actually agree with the hit but it will hurt alot more on ur thigh so i suggest go toward the butt. but on part of punishment sit him on ur couch and at all times someone watching him everytime he says/does something yell at him and say this is wat bad boys get. and if u want to feel sympathy try not to it will make ur child worst. and i suggest not for that 15 min. thing i would say on acoount of how bad he is lik an hour or 2. it will teach him if he has to sit there not move not do anything but sit there. and i hope u and ur husband work something out

GOOD LUCK

Answer 2

If you hit your kid you are telling your kid that it's OK to hit. You should never slap your kid. You are BIGGER than he is. It's bullying behavior that you are teaching him. At this point tell your child in a calm voice that you won't tolerate his behavior. Restrain him when he is hitting or kicking. Time outs DO work. Simply remove him from the negative situation---put him in the "naughty chair" or whatever you want to call it and tell him why you are doing it. If he leaves the spot put him back (you may have to do this repeatedly-but eventually he will get the idea. Toddlers are smarter than we give them credit for) Don't interact with him other than to put him back in the naughty area.. After a minute or two tell him it's ok to get up. Reiterate why he was there to begin with. Give him a reassuring hug. Your child shouldn't fear you but he should respect you.

If he doesn't drink water-too bad--he'll do it when he's thirsty if that's all that he is offered to drink.

It sounds like your husband is emotionally abusing you. Do you want your son to be around that? Think about it for the sake of your child.

Good Luck and remember---he's still a baby---just bigger. Your job is to gently guide him through these early years. Don't be too hard on him. Be loving, but firm and consistent.

Answer 3

You should never slap a child. It is degrating and doesn't teach discipline in any way. You have to be able to control your anger. You are an adult and should be showing your child how to handle themselves in stressful situations. Time outs do work, it just takes time and patitence. When he acts up, put him time out. When he leave time out continue to put him back in there until he stays for two minutes. This will be hard at first, but in about a week he will understand what time out is for and he will stay there. Screaming is not something you want to do either. It teaches him to scream when you don't listen to him. Children learn by examply. I know you love your child, you just have to learn how to discipline the right way.

Answer 4

I also have a "strong willed child" and no matter how patient and serene you try to remain, they will push even harder to get you to crack, I know, and I sympathise. I don't think that a slap on the behind is overly cruel, if that is what it takes to get his attention and someday earn some respect. My son, now six, has come a long way since the days when I had to sit on him to get a diaper on. You have many more obstacles to overcome, but you will do it. Number one sounds like your husband, who isn't helping the situation by telling you that he would have left of it wasn't for the child. That is not a healthy situation for the child or you and you need all the love and support you can get. If you feel down and out then that is only going to reflect in your parenting abilities.

Answer 5

I know where you're coming from. I have a 26 month old boy, and he is outta line. He does the same things to me, he either gets a slap on the but. Or if he is getting into things and not listening when you tell him no, slap his hands and tell him what he is doing wrong. Then put him in the corner for 1 minute. Then make him apologize. This is something new I'm working on. And he doesn't like the corner, so things are starting to work out well.

Answer 6

i could recommend letting him have the pacifier for now. this is his convenience gadget. some teenagers look for convenience in a generic blanket, some have a generic crammed animal, others save a pacifier a sprint longer. i does not tension the priority authentic now. as a approaches simply by fact the tantrums bypass, you will desire to stroll away and supply him NO interest in besides at the same time as he's throwing his tantrum. he's throwing the tantrum just to get interest from you. as long as you supply it to him, this is working. in case you stroll away, and bypass into yet another room or turn your back to him and don't seek advice from him, he will quit. it would desire to take a minute or 2, yet he will quit. as a approaches simply by fact the speaking (or not speaking), i could have him evaluated with the aid of a speech therapist. the undeniable fact that he's a boy has not something to do with while he will start up speaking. Your wellbeing practitioner will maximum in all probability additionally propose having him evaluated with the aid of an ear wellbeing practitioner or ENT, and if he has no listening to issues, you will then be despatched to work out the youngster psychiatrist to work out if there are the different reasons for his at the back of schedule speaking. so a approaches as disciplining him, you realize maximum suitable as him mommy what to do. you realize what your baby knows. i understand this is your first, yet you will desire to have confidence your instinct. in case you will desire to ask if he could understand outing, then he probable does not yet. yet, I guess he could understand being despatched to his room. you will desire to positioned a gate up at his doorway and deliver him to his room, and permit him out say 2 minutes later (on account that he's so youthful). I deliver my 2 365 days previous to his room for roughly 3 to 5 minutes counting on the crime. My 6 365 days previous many times has to choose for roughly 20 minutes. they are lots better teenagers while they arrive out. besides, stable success, and you would be able to digital mail me in case you elect with any questions. I certainly have a matching baby.

Answer 7

if you spank him everytime he is kicking while getting his pants changed and he still hasn't stopped, then I say its not working well. Try positive reinforcement, like when he doesn't kick letting him play with a special toy that is normally put away where he cant get at it. This may make him understand that while he is being changed, he should not kick and if he doesn't he gets to play with his favorite new toy.

Also i think that sometimes parents say things to their children that the children can not understand. Your boy may not know what it means to kick you. So teach him that, and other words so that you may conversate with him and know that he is understanding you.

Answer 8

I don't believe in hitting your child is the answer to correcting his behavior. Locking him is his room is also harsh. You are teaching him violence is the answer, which it is not, beside the damage you are causing him. (YES I was spanked as a child).
The fact your child is "scared" of you is not healthly. He needs you to "guide" him on what is right and wrong..you are his teacher, not his keeper.

There is far more information on the damage it can do to your child in the long run than my mother had.

Check out www.babycenter.com it has alot helpful info.

Answer 9

I agree, time outs are usless..even if the child IS old enough to understand them.

I don't think slapping his thigh is appropriate. Maybe roll him on his side a little and pop his butt. I don't believe in spanking anywhere other than the butt since that's the only place with "padding".

Answer 10

oh sweetie...im sorry about the husband deal ya'll seem to be on two different pages with punishment and thats hard on your relationship, its not right to stay together just because of the children either, you don't want to be miserable do you? i would hate for you to get a divorce, but the child would still get to see both of you! as for the punishing, i have a 19 month old daughter who likes to tell me NO! she started crawling out of her crib about a month and 1/2 ago so we had to convert it to a toddler bed (IT SUCKS!!!) anyways in the process of getting her to take a nap today, she decided she was going to keep getting up and testing me... well i went in there and told her to get in bed, she turned around and told me NO while smiling (i hate to say but it was funny) i knew i had to stand my ground so i popped her leg (the diaper is too padded for her to feel it on the butt) and i said get in bed she once again turned around smiling and said NO i popped her one more time a little harder and that got her attention and she started crying and she got into bed. i don't believe in popping your child anywhere but the had or butt (or in our case leg below the butt) spare the rod spoil the child. hitting them anywhere else face etc. is considered abuse. my children will not walk all over me! it breaks my heart to punish her like that but she listens to me for the most part because she understands enough that she doesn't want her butt popped. our children are at the defiant stage of childhood, i hate to see the terrible twos :) good luck by the way you are not a horrible mother and don't let anyone tell you that! god gave us our kids to teach and help to blossom into good people... not to let them walk all over us and do what they want youre doing a great job!!!