Why do guys have to pay for everything on dates?
2007-01-08 07:16:55 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As long as you are getting some, who cares?
2007-01-08 07:29:23 · answer #1 · answered by Monkey Boy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you should necessarily have to pay for everything but, it is customary that the guy pays on the 1st date (that was back in the day).
In today's society, many females are making more money than the men and we can pick up the TAB or go DUTCH. I think that the guy & girl should take turns on paying for that particular evening out. There should be an agreement made up front on who's going to pay!
:-)
2007-01-08 07:27:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can blame the society, and all these years of programming and brainwashing that it has done to us. Movies, TV Shows, and all kinds of media that show that girls are some kind of god and that we have to worship them, bow down before them, crawl and supplicate to see if we get "lucky" and she can look down from her cloud and give us some attention. In this society we as men are assigned the role of "provider" and therefore by paying for everything you show to the girl that you have enough resources to ensure her safety and her security later. In fact, if I think about it, it's kind of a survival instinct thing that women have.
Of course that's just a bunch of crap and that's how the "dating" game is rigged against us. All these romantic movies and love stories and novels and stuff are the ones that have us getting the worst part of everything. I don't approve it, but that's why as a guy, you should pay for everything. Unless you find a way to bypass all that society crap and get women without having to "buy" their affection. And yes, there are ways to do that, you just have to know where to look for.
Just as men have to love sports, and women have to be skinny, men also have to pay for everything. Because society says so. I know it sucks, but for most men, that's how things work.
2007-01-08 07:34:20 · answer #3 · answered by Emmanuel G 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't. However, generally men make more money than women, and it is considered a nice thing if a man picks up the tab at the restaurant. You can go "dutch" on dates, meaning each pays their own share, but it doesn't have the same romantic feeling, it feels more like two friends going to the movies instead of a man treating a woman to an evening out.
2007-01-08 07:20:17 · answer #4 · answered by Chellebelle78 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't. Even as a female I'm saying this. A lot of girls think they don't have to, but I think she should offer to pay half (like in a restaurant) or pay the tip.Or like at the movies one pay for the tickets and the other food. It all depends on the situation like who invited who and who suggested to go. Mooching is awful (from both sexes). But the guys are supposed to be the "providers". Like opening doors, etc.
2007-01-08 07:25:39 · answer #5 · answered by God'sPrincess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! You DO NOT have to pay for everything. I pay for me and my boyfriend to go out from time to time. SOmetimes we go half cause we're broke! lol It's gentleman like to offer every time but it's also lady-like to understand that your man isn't made out of money :) But this should happen only after you have been together a while. Some girls don't dig this but they need to get a grip and help out too.
It's called a relationship- it involves two people putting in 100%.
2007-01-08 07:20:45 · answer #6 · answered by Chick-a-Dee 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Guys do not always have to pay for everything on dates. I guess it really depends on the girl you're with. Some girls like (or even expect) guys to pay for everything all the time. But there are many girls who split checks with their boyfriends all the time. For instance, my boyfriend and I pretty much split everything evenly. Once in a while, he'll pay because he wants to treat me out to dinner, but we pretty much split everything.
In the beginning, you may end up paying for your date (just to be the gentleman), but after you date someone for awhile, and they become your significant other, you may end up splitting alot of things.
2007-01-08 07:21:35 · answer #7 · answered by ccccc12345 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Here is the general rule:
The person who asks another out on a date should pay. IN a longer term relationship, whoever pays should be discussed.
Sometimes, guys like to pay. It makes them feel like they are taking care of their woman.
I make good money. MY ex makes 1/2 of what I make, but he would NEVER let me pay. I tried and he refused.
2007-01-08 07:21:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on the type of girl that you take on a date. I'm used to having to pay for everything. It never really bothered me. But I loved being pampered and that's one way to do it.
2007-01-08 07:19:50 · answer #9 · answered by socom_goddess 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you asked to go on the date then you should pay but if it's the other way around she should pay.
2007-01-08 07:18:53 · answer #10 · answered by MISS KNIGHT 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I urge you to tune into the Tom Leykis show. Check www.blowmeuptom.com for your local station or listen on line 3-8pm PST. Your question and more will be answered. Guys only pay for everything if they are fooled into believing they have to. Many chicks believe that a guy has to pay for(The Privilege of her company) and quite frankly ...it's B.S.
2007-01-08 07:26:41 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋