if you don't have anything nice to say don't e mail me help me or don't read what i write
2007-01-08 07:08:13 · 43 answers · asked by Larissa ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You shouldn't write him.
Tell him in person, as painful for you as that may be.
Doing it any other way is cruel.
Say something like," I think you're a great guy, I just want to see other people. Maybe we can be just friends."
Be nice, and hopefully he'll understand.
2007-01-08 07:11:12 · answer #1 · answered by K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say, "I want to stop seeing you". Break ups don't have to be long and heartfelt, or even nice. Direct and to the point is always best. If you beat around the bush he won't get the point and he will keep hanging around like a little puppy dog thinking you were just needing some space. Trust me I have been the puppy dog before because she didn't just come right out and say, "I want to break up with you", or "I don't want to go out with you anymore". It made it harder on both of us in the long run.
2007-01-08 07:13:19 · answer #2 · answered by PDH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all women have been in this situation. I think I understand your question. You want to know how to tell him in a way that won't hurt him, right? Sweetie, no matter how much you try to cushion the blow, it will still hurt, if he still cares about you as much as you think he does. The gentlest way to put this to him is to tell him.... you still care about him enough not to want to let him down or hurt him. And, you also care enough about him not to lead him on with false hope. Then you can tell him that you want to break it off so you and he can get on with your lives. Yes, it will hurt. But after he gets over the initial shock he will feel better knowing you cared about him and his feelings, and didn't just dump him off. Good luck, what you are doing is hard. Here's a big hug for strength, and, a pat on the back for your compassion.
2007-01-08 07:19:07 · answer #3 · answered by Vida 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're thinking too much. There's two things to remember:
1. Truth is better than lying
2. If he's into you then there's no way you can't hurt him. Just get over that.
So the answer is - TELL HIM! He can't read your mind and every day that you continue this relationship you are living a lie.
Be truthful and tell him what's going on with you. You will both benefit from this.
FP
2007-01-08 07:11:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not so hard to do unless you lie to him.
The truth will set you free!!
Be yourself, I know it's hard but try.
Tell him exactly how you feel.
Tell him the reason you want to break up and simply be honest.
Don't do it while you are both are alone in one room.
make sure there are people around just in case he will lose it but makes sure the other people don't hear you as you tell him.
I feel for you and I understand how you feel.
The truth will set you free.
Best to do it face to face so it's real for him and he gets the point but mostly be yourself, be nice and kind about it and just tell him how you feel.
Tell him there are lots of girls out there that would love to be with him, just be really nice to him because you know you are about to hurt me so try to cover up the pain with good words like. "You are a really nice guy and I'm sure there's a lot of girls out there that dream of being with you, you have so many values" etc etc.
I simply wish you the best of luck,
Gary from Australia
2007-01-08 07:21:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you're feeling, recently i had to tell my boyfriend I don't want o be with him. Do you care about or you just want him out of your life? It depends what kind of person you are. Like I told my boyfriend over the phone and quickly hanged up on him. I told him the chemistry wasn't there and I think we should see different people. Kind of cliche, but okay.
2007-01-08 07:12:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you really care about him and want to continue the relationship as friends you should talk to him about what you feel is wrong with the relationship and why and that you feel there is no way you can continue to have feelings for him other than friends. But make sure you tell him face to face and in person and be strong.
2007-01-08 07:13:05 · answer #7 · answered by gman25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you fell uneasy about telling it directly to your boyfriend, try to write a letter. You should explain him why you want to stop your relationship with him and be careful with the words you choose: he might be hurt by your message, don't let him being mad because you are insulting him...
2007-01-08 07:13:15 · answer #8 · answered by naindesign 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What caused you to not want to see him? Either way, you should just talk to him and tell him why. If you feel that no matter what the relationship won't work, just be straight up with him, not mean but nicely.
Krazy Libra
2007-01-08 07:13:55 · answer #9 · answered by krazy_libra_from_ac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be like other girls and drag it on thinking you can get by "without hurting him" its going to hurt and he is going to be sad but he will respect you more if you do it now....trust me you will hurt him more if he finds out down the line that you wanted to break up with him for a while but just didn't say anything...it hurst WAY MORE when they drag it on
2007-01-08 07:12:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋