I was at work and I started talking to a fellow Christian who works there. We had a really deep conversation about God. He said he was the same denom as me, and he gave me the address to his church. So I said, sure I'll visit you.
But I just looked up that church's website. Even though they say they're the same denom, some of their beliefs are contradictory to mine.
I'll probably go visit them once. But how can I tell him I don't feel like going back -- without getting into the details?
2007-01-08 07:06:23 · 17 answers · asked by cirque de lune 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Why do you feel you need to visit this church that you say is not of your belief? You don't have to please anyone but God. If this person truly is a Christian then he wouldn't want you to go against what you believe anyway.
2007-01-08 07:10:36 · answer #1 · answered by gtahvfaith 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just say that church didn't speak to you and you are still looking for the right one. I have friends who go to a different Catholic church then I do. I don't feel comfortable in their church, it doesn't resonate with me the way mine does. The beliefs are the same, but the feel of the building isn't. If you don't want to get in with your friend about beliefs and not liking what your church stands for, don't tell him that part.
2007-01-08 15:11:42 · answer #2 · answered by sister steph 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you enjoy your church as much as he enjoys his & that you see no reason for leaving your church family to join his. If he's a reasonable guy, he'd understand this. I would have a hard time leaving my church family to go to another church, especially when that other church taught some questionable things.
Hope everything works out for you.
2007-01-08 15:10:11 · answer #3 · answered by srprimeaux 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No two churches are the same. Some work for some people, but not for others. Most people understand that. He should easily understand that it's not the perfect fit for you.
2007-01-08 15:12:03 · answer #4 · answered by luvwinz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that happened to me several times, people wanting you to go to their church so they can brain wash you with their rules and their regulations and make you join their cult. I am a spiritual person who does believe in God, but people should believe what they like, you shouldnt feel pressured to go to any church EVER. I personally wouldnt go right away, I would wait and go after to check it out.
2007-01-08 16:47:41 · answer #5 · answered by heatches 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say that you don't want to go to a church that you don't really enjoy and that your soul and heart doesn't feel at home. As a Christian i'm sure he'll understand! God bless ! x
2007-01-08 15:20:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just say you disagree with his churches beliefs and therefore dont want to go? Its the same thing as not going to a mosque if you're not a Muslim...
2007-01-08 15:10:09 · answer #7 · answered by generic_cyberperson 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be respectful. If I invited someone to my church I would not be offended if they declined. We should all be respectful of each other and not judge. If it is something you don't believe in, then it would be a waste of your time. However, if you are unsure of what you believe in, just because something is different doesn't necessarily mean it is wrong. Good luck.
2007-01-08 16:14:15 · answer #8 · answered by straightup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why you need to tell him anything, since it is your choice as to what church that you attend. If you feel like you must tell him something, then just say "it wasn't a good fit", ot "I didn't fell like this church was the one for me."
2007-01-08 15:11:48 · answer #9 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say, "Thanks for inviting me to your church, but it just didn't resonate with me. I appreciate the invitation, but I'm going to keep looking for a parish I fit in with."
Then leave it at that. If he continues to press it, tell him you really appreciate his concern, but if he persists you'll have to report him to HR. You shouldn't be talking about religion at work, and if he's a nice guy he should accept how you feel without you having to get into detail.
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2007-01-08 15:09:41 · answer #10 · answered by thelittlemerriemaid 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋