My boyfriend uses me as a bank. How can I let him know this is not acceptable?

Answer 1

stop giving him money!!!

Answer 2

Well, that depends on how long you have let him use you. Once a man is set in his way, meaning once you let him get away with certian things he will never change. Usually in the begining we tend to be so into them that we basically let them get away with murder but then after a few months you want to implement some changes and it can't happen. Why? Because you have already set the stage for your relationship. Basically, with your situation its fairly easy. Don't give him any money. It's your money, Im sure you work hard for it so why should you give it up to him? If he has your bank info or has access to your money, just swich accounts, change passwords...do whatever is necessary to keep that man away from your cash. Plus, he is only your boyfriend, not your husband..so therefore he should have no claim on your money.

Talk to him first, let him know how you feel. Tell him its not acceptable. If he still doesnt get it then do the stuff I said before, the switching accounts of passwords or both. Good Luck.

Answer 3

The best way to let anybody know how you feel is to tell them directly. If you give indirect signs then you will only get frustrated if they don't pick up on them. Eventually your frustration will surface but for a different topic. Meaning you will end up fighting or discussing something other than the cause of your frustration, which is the fact that you are used as a bank. Confront him and let him know that it isn't ok. Your only fear is that they will leave you because you don't want to be used for your money and you have to decide if you are ok with that. Do you want to be used only for your money? If it is no then you must talk to them if it is yes then why did you post this question. Good luck.

Answer 4

Just tell him that enough is enough and that if he wants money why doesn't he look for a job and get it like that. The more money that you give to him that more that he is going to be coming to you for it. Just tell him no that next time that he does it and tell him that you are not going to give him another penny. Shouldn't he be giving you money instead of taking money away from you?

Answer 5

Write everything down, and that he said he would
pay the amount back by a certain date, and have
him sign and date it.
You might get tired of it one day, and need to take
him to Court to try to get your money back.
Be sure to write, IT WAS NOT A GIFT .
Actions of a " Loser ". Wake up.

Answer 6

Get rid of him. As long as you are with him, you will feel obligated to give him money. A guy who can't support himself doesn't deserve a girlfriend.

Answer 7

i just hope he doesnt try to swipe a card..lol...oh christ...go to the doctor..tell him to prescribe a pair of nice big balls...and then install them...and tell the lil son of a beach to get his own money...my problem is not answering the question...my problem is that you already knew the answer

Answer 8

Stop giving him money and paying for things....this is the easiest relationship fix in the history of dating....stop paying!!!

Answer 9

Tell him that from now on there will be deposits only, and a big penalty for withdrawals

Answer 10

stop carrying cash and use only your atm card for a little while, that way even if he asks for cash you dont have any to give him. if it is inconvenient for him to get it from you hell find another way.

Answer 11

Stop giving him money