My 14 year old daughter thinks she's in love with her boyfriend, she's always with him. I'm worried she might start having sex with him. how can she possibly be in love at her age? How can I get her to slow down?
2007-01-08 07:03:52 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
14 is a tough age. They want to be independent but still need a parent's guidance. My advice would be to have a heart to heart with your daughter. Don't lecture, listen and give her some good guidance without pressuring her. If she thinks you want her to stop seeing this guys she will only do the exact opposite.
As far as sex goes I would talk to her about it, make sure she understands that she can get pregnant/STD's etc. You can't stop her from having sex but you can make sure that she is protected by having her on the pill.
2007-01-08 07:11:00 · answer #1 · answered by mljherman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it makes you feel any better, I thought I was in love about 5 times before the age of 16! I'm sure she has no comprehension of what love really is. . .don't worry too much.
However, if you haven't already, you need to sit her down and talk to her about sex and the possible consequences. And, after you explain that to her, maybe she'll understand when you won't let her in the room with her boyfriend with the door closed, or why you called his mother/father to make sure they follow the same policy in their home. If he's older and drives, maybe you should think about not letting her in the car with him (I know I wasn't allowed in boys cars at 14!)
You might feel guilty doing this, but atleast she'll know that there are ground rules. 14 is young, and if she IS thinking about having sex, you should just keep an eye on her. If after you speak to her about sex you feel confident that she won't make this mistake, then maybe you can be more lenient with her.
But - my thing is - at fourteen, you should be able to prevent it by making sure they are supervised at all times. All you can do is make sure she understands about sex, try to not give her the opportunity, and hope that you have drilled enough common sense into her head that she will know better, for now.
2007-01-08 07:14:33 · answer #2 · answered by Coleen429 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is talk to her. Listen to what she has to say. Ensure she knows what sex is a bout and the consequences it might have. Let her know that getting involved in sexual activities at her age might not be the best thing and why. Don't try to force anything on her. Don't tell her out right what to do. She might become rebellious. Just be c areful of what you say to her and how you say it. Good Luck!!!!
2007-01-08 07:09:59 · answer #3 · answered by Pretty face 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a teenager, I can say this with confidence.
I think your daughter would respect you if you sat down with her and told her maybe a story of when you were a teenager, and you thought you were in love, but you weren't.
Also, tell her, in detail about STDS, if you want to gross her out.
Make her look up infatuation in the dictionary, and then love.
Tell her that sex is a bad choice early in life because you won't enjoy it later on.
My mom told me all of this, and I agree with her.
2007-01-08 07:17:32 · answer #4 · answered by K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explained to her why you think she is making a mistake and make a deal with her. Tell that if she slows down and doesn't rush into anything, that you will reward her. The other thing to try is to bargain with her. When she asks you for something, tell her that she can have it if she agrees to take it slow. Good Luck!
2007-01-08 07:18:29 · answer #5 · answered by RayCATNG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She really might be in love, its not very common at her age but she might of found the right person for her and that she wants to spend the rest of her life with, its not impossible if shes mature i think it would be ok
2007-01-08 07:17:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to her, tell her how you feel and ask her why she feels so strongly about him. A nice heart to heart talk could do some good. Ask her what her deffinition of love is and why she thinks she loves this one guy when she is only 14. Just talk to her. Good luck.
2007-01-08 07:07:07 · answer #7 · answered by Joshua W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just sit down and talk with her maybe she will talk with you i would but let her know your there for her tell her the possibility's of getting regent and she can get a sickness from sex at her age maybe she will slow down
2007-01-08 07:12:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
teach her the reality of life and let her know the hazards of teenage pregnancy and the types of viruses. Also she must also be told about sex after marriage and the benefits such as the fact that you are respected in the eyes of the Lord.
2007-01-08 07:20:31 · answer #9 · answered by Ans 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember when you were her age? It sounds as though it is her first love (which is puppy love)...of course she is in love because she has nothing else to compare it too...it will pass.
2007-01-08 07:08:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋