I just got proposed to last night but im only 17 and i may be pregnant wiht twins but i dont want to get married. How do i tell him no?
2007-01-08 07:00:44 · 13 answers · asked by jillybill 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Just tell him, but be honest about your reason for not waiting to get married, its better to say no then to marry him and then later regret it. For you and the children. good luck
2007-01-08 07:04:29 · answer #1 · answered by leblasl2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Simple as that. Experiance, no matter what you do, be true to yourself. I got married and I didn't want to walk down the asile. Just be sweet and tell him that you still love him (as long as you do) but that your still young and even though your pregnant, your just not ready yet. If you still want to be with him just tell himthat you can be engaged or have a promise ring or something like that if you want to but that your just not ready to take that step yet. Maybe when your a little older. I htink it's very commendable that he wants to be with you that much to want to get married. Most guys would slpit in a second. That shows alot about him. Tell him I'm proud! I'm a Christian and alot of other Christian think that you should get married when you get pregnant ( not really supposed to be having sex...but...) but the way I see it, you should get married only if your in love and you know that your gonna be with him forever. I don't see the point in all the emotional stress and agony of a divorce not to mention what the kids go through. Hope everything turns out ok. I know it will. I'll pray for you. God Bless.
2007-01-08 15:47:58 · answer #2 · answered by Kristin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if this was 1907 you would have to get married. However today women are capable of taking care of themselves and anyone else that comes along. Just tell your boyfriend that you are simply not ready. If he loves you he will understand. Tell him that you dont feel that it is right to get married so young just becuase you are pregnant. I got pregnant when I was 16 and got married right before the baby was born. Our marriage was based soley on the baby. After a while it just was not enough to make it work. Oh we tried, but life was so miserable. We fought all the time. Now Im 25 and divorced. Trust me, it is so much healther for your children for you to be happy and single rather then married and miserable. Good luck.
2007-01-08 15:10:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You "may" be pregnant with twins?? Or you may be pregnant period?? Is that the reason he's asking?? If so, then NO and in my personal opinion (as the mother of 3 teenage girls), at 17 (pregnant or not), your answer should probably be no. I know you may feel as though this is so sweet, etc., but picture yourself 4 or 5 years from now when you're only 21 and can legally drink and party (yes I said LEGALLY). Then what? You think he's going to stay home with baby(ies) so you can go out? My guess is no. #1 - Tell him that while you are happy he asked, you must know the reason he asked (he thinks you're pregnant); #2 - tell him that you have so much going on in your life right now that you still want to be with him but marriage is not right for now. If you're pregnant (twins or not) your focus is going to be on that for now and NOT a marriage of convenience. Good luck honey.
2007-01-08 15:07:44 · answer #4 · answered by Mickey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if you can't honestly talk to this man then you are right about not getting married!! I, too, had twins at 17 (they are 32 yrs old now) and married my boyfriend. We were married for almost ten years and it was something I have NEVER done again!! I am glad that you, at least, have the confidence to know that you may be better off without this man. You were just expected to get married 32 years ago. You stand strong and do what is best for you. Good luck!
2007-01-08 15:36:58 · answer #5 · answered by lookn_4_laffs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you for real. A minute ago you talked about giving up a kid for adoption and the adoptive parents wanted you to be in the kids life and you acted like you din;t want to. Maybe you should give the twins up for adoption..Ever heard of birth control?
2007-01-08 15:10:32 · answer #6 · answered by Daisy Mae 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can just say your not ready yet. you can always get married later if you want to stay with him. im 17 too and im engaged and i dont want to get married right away. but i also have a daughter to my fiancee too. the choice is yours. like i said just tell him your not ready to get married right now and you would like him to wait until you are ready. if he realy loves you and cares for you he will stick with your decisions. good luck :]
2007-01-08 15:11:57 · answer #7 · answered by calebs_baby_girl05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say yes, you don't need to get married right this second usually engagments take for ever lol then he will for sure be there for you and the baby or babies good luck
2007-01-09 13:36:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say your not ready. Who's going to support the babies?
2007-01-08 15:03:58 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't love him then tell him no. if you do love him then say yes. you can always have a long enchangment. good luck
2007-01-08 15:04:20 · answer #10 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋