My new in laws are stuck in the past with my new hubbys X wife they dont seem to mind to go on and on about what they bought the X for their wedding and seem to think i should sit about talking about her I am not jealous as i have an X too and they are X's for reason my family never mentions mine as they find it disrespectful but my new ones do.MY hubbys X ran around while they were married got herself pregnant .They have been divorced for almost 10 years she still hangs around and she is married but the new in laws say she is part of their happy past.If she was so much of a happy memory why is my hubby not married to her? how do i deal with this as i have told them to stop .My hubby wont visit as this too is upsetting to him but they just dont get it.
2007-01-08 06:57:40 · 5 answers · asked by Donna Marie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Since it is upsetting to both of you avoid contact with these people until they recognize that their behaviour is negatively affecting you. I'm sure after a long (and obvious) absence they will eventually ask why you two aren't around and at that time you can explain to them that your presence is under the condition that the x is not mentioned. If they refuse, then your better off without them.
2007-01-08 08:53:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I honestly feel for you I'm thankful no one talks about my ex. Is there anyone in the family that you might be able to convide in an Aunt or someone else who can clue them in for you? Sometimes people need an outsider to tell them how rude they are. I would make a point of not visiting too often they will get the hint that they have done something to upset you.
2007-01-08 07:09:15 · answer #2 · answered by emmandal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say you're probably just going to have to ignore them. I do it with my in laws all the time, especially my mother in law. It's sad that your hubby won't stick up for you, because that's rude of his parents to bring up his ex wife around you, and he SHOULD tell them so. You shouldn't have to tell them to do anything, this is a situation where you go to your HUSBAND, and tell him that his family is upsetting you, and here's why. It's a valid reason. Then he SHOULD go to his parents (preferably without you) and tell them to lay off the ex wife "happy memories" around you, that's disrespectful of you. But if he won't, and they just don't get it, you can either get out of the marriage, or ignore their behavior. I would mention to my hubby that their behavior makes me want to spend as little time as possible with his family, maybe that will get his rear in gear. Good luck!
2007-01-08 07:21:29 · answer #3 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're husband needs to take a stand and really speak to his parents and explain it is completely disrespectfully of them to keep bring her up into conversations with you two. It's time they move on from her. I would make it a point to say she is an x for a reason and that she didn't just cheat on their son but the whole family
2007-01-08 07:02:51 · answer #4 · answered by jaws1013 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you are living in the present with your relationship to their son and that the past relationships he and you had were counter productive. Don't apologize for anything you say just state the facts as they are.
2007-01-08 07:01:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋