The guy I was dating said some really rude, mean things to me just because I want a committed relationship with one person. Then he said he doesn't want to be with me that way (even though he says he loves me all the time and wants to be with me all the time).
He said I am strange, difficult to be with and that I am closed minded. No one has ever said anything like that to me before, but it still really bothers me that he said those things and now I feel like everything was my fault, even though I know that it wasn't. How can I make myself feel better? I now know that he isn't right for me, but he just always knows how to shift the blame back on me so that it feels like I was wrong...
2007-01-08 06:57:19 · 14 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't waste another minute of your life worrying about it or him. Move on and find someone who really cares for and about you.
2007-01-08 07:01:11 · answer #1 · answered by tootsie1115 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds as if you need some girl time. Get with your girl friends and enjoy a few nights out. Don't let what he said bother you, you know what kind of person you are and if that is not you then pay him no mind. He probably likes the reaction he gets from you when he verbally degrades you. You need to toss him aside and just be yourself and live for yourself for awhile. The right guy will come around for you just be patient. Don't give your time to that moron of a man any longer.
Good Luck
Michelle
2007-01-08 15:01:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Curly Girly,
First keep telling yourself what you did in your question "i know it wasn't" (your fault that is) Don't let others control your feelings. If you know something is factually true about yourself don't let others tell you otherwise.
Also a good way to remember is reflect on the good things he has said or other friends or family has said to you. And remember when they said those things, they REALLY MEAN IT.
Most people don't say NICE things just to make you feel better they REALLY mean it!
2007-01-08 15:01:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys have a tendency to blame anyone but themselves when it isn't going our way. You should not feel at all responsible. You let him know what it was you are looking for and it scared him off. Move on and find a guy that IS looking for the same as you.
2007-01-08 15:00:44 · answer #4 · answered by Rod Rod Go 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is obvious you don't believe in yourself as a person if you did than you would not be bothered with what peoples got to say about you so please you can agree to disagree with him- if you start to believe in yourself then you will get more right don't let others make you doubt yourself, especially men- remember what you want you cant help for that a woman does not just want to hear that she is being loved but also want to feel that she is loved!! :-)
2007-01-08 15:08:51 · answer #5 · answered by nleitch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the reason you are so bothered by this guy's comments is that you obviously invested a lot of feelings in him. There is no quick fix to how you are feeling. Only you can do it and when your ready, I'm sure you'll feel better.
2007-01-08 15:02:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you had that experience. Sounds like he was trying to really jerk you around. Maybe just realize that there are some unpleasant and hurtful people around that don't deserve the pleasure of your company. Hope you are feeling much better very soon.
2007-01-08 15:01:16 · answer #7 · answered by Michael M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is easy. Shoulder the fault. The old, " it's not you, it's me" line. Tell him good bye....with a smile.... and take off. Let him blame you all he will. Do you care? He's not right for you so why sweat it?
2007-01-08 15:04:31 · answer #8 · answered by James M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him and go after the ministers son! Wait no he is a crack head. Better just hope that somewhere out there is a really nice guy who will think you are his entire galaxy.
2007-01-08 15:04:58 · answer #9 · answered by Arthur Richards of Kent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aah hon, no no NO!!!! , my bf and i seperated 2 weeks ago, and i was in the same position.. believe me, i was lucky and soon realised how much fun it is to be single.. ;-p
u really need to keep yourself busy and entertain urself.. hang out with friends and yes, especially male friends... u'll soon forget about him!! u should never, NEVER, let a guy break you down, you are better than him and definitely better off without him!!!
go out there and be your free, single self!!! believe me, i got so many compliments!! and when i see him now,i'm the one who is laughing.. 'coz now i'm the one with all the friends and i'm the one getting all the attention... REVENGE !! haha...
good luck honey...
2007-01-08 15:10:27 · answer #10 · answered by girl next door 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋