Does the idea of spending 8-10k on a wedding make anybody else sick?

Answer 1

wow! someone's got money to burn.

have a small wedding...put the rest as a downpayment on a house. Your house is a LIFETIME purchase, a wedding lasts half a day.

Answer 2

I live in NJ and spending 8-10K on a wedding is actually quite CHEAP for here. However, that being said, there is NO WAY I'm spending that kind of money on a big wedding that I don't even really want - it would really only please the family if I did and I'd be miserable the whole day. Besides, I don't have the time or patience to plan such an affair. My fiance and I have opted for a destination wedding at an all-inclusive resort in the Bahamas. We priced it out, and for 9 days for two people which includes accomodations, airfare, ALL food (unlimited), ALL drinks (also unlimited - including alcohol) and a TON of activities, the cost is only $3500. If you stay at the resort for 3 or more days, they give you the wedding for free. We plan to invite close family and friends only who might be willing to make the trip to see us get married and make a mini-vacation for themselves in the process.

Answer 3

Yes, I think it is insane, unless you have the money available to spent. A lot of couples do go in debt for their wedding and sometimes haven't payed it of before their divorce fighting over financial issues.
Don't ever take out a loan for a wedding, use the money available. My husband and I had a budget of 2200 $. We had a luxurious buffet diner for almost 40 people incl. desert. We had assorted pastries instead of wedding cake. We both have seen how many guest dislike the taste of the cakes and discard it and there goes you 1500$ or more cake, now they could pick what they liked. And we had snacks and limited the alcohol to wines and beers, so nobody could pick something outrageous expensive. And even including this we had the wedding suite ( without a bath, that was a bummer ;( ) and a great champagne breakfast. In the end we ended up even under our budget, saving 300 $ when we received the bill. I did get my dress of an e-bay store, sewn on my size, for $ 225 $ incl. shipping and really nobody knew, they all asked where I did find find such a gorgeous gown.
The link for the dress you'll find below, for anyone else intrested.

Answer 4

Jeez..if I could spend 8-10K on my wedding I think I would do a back flip! I live in the NYC area and mine is up to almost 45K. Everything here is soooo expensive, and when you have over 200 guests...well it gets out of control quickly. I'm even having mine on a Friday evening to save $$. That being said, I'm the only daughter and my parents aren't going into debt or anything to pay for it. I think you should A) spend what you can afford, and B) not send yourself or family into the poorhouse for ONE day.

Answer 5

i think how much your wedding is going to cost really depends on where you live and how willing you are to do things yourself rather than hire people to do them for you. for instance, if you live in a big city than everything will cost more: food, beverages, reception locations, clothes, etc.

pick the things in your wedding that are the most important to you and splurge on them if u you have to. most of the time it's the bride's wedding dress. you can cut back on the cost of dressing your bridesmaids by having them pick out their own dresses, but in the same color-scheme or theme of your wedding. this way, each bridesmaid can wear a dress that she actually likes and looks good in, all the while exhibiting her own style.

you can have a family member or friend to take pictures. everyone knows at leats one person that's gung-ho about photography.

you don't have to hire a dj/band if you don't want to. you can burn your wedding soundtrack and play it during the reception. proffessional sound systems can be rented and setup for you, and probably cost less than hiring someone to play all night. you can also get another family member/friend to be in charge of watching over the music.

you can decorate the reception hall yourself the day before the wedding. this will give the moms and grandmas and aunts and everybody a chance to partake in the special event.

you can choose a hall that will let you do decorations yourself, cater yourself, and even provide an open bar for your guests. all you have to do is buy the liquor.

it might sound cheap and cheesy to some people to go the 'do-it-yourself" route, but i've been to weddings that costed thousands upon thousands of dollars, and they seemed impersonal and cold. and i've been to weddings that costed much much less, and they were the most fun.

Answer 6

Makes me quite sick. I had a nice wedding, and it only cost about $800. It was really simple, though, but that was best for me because I don't like getting up in front of a whole lot of people.

If you're the poor lass spending all that cash, I would recommend one thing: just remember that the day is only a day, that the dress is one you'll only wear once, the cake is just going to be eaten, and all the lovely decorations are going to be thrown away. All of the bands, all of the confetti, and all of the whatever it is that you're spending all of that cash on are not going to make the end result better. The pictures might be nice, but other than that, all you're going to have is one amazing memory and one big financial setback. It's what happens tomorrow, next week, next month and ten years from now that matters most.

Answer 7

You don't have to spend that much I spent just over 6000 and I got married New Years Eve 2006(you pay extra that day).I spent a little at a time and didn't notice we also had that kinda of money to blow I would do it again maybe for a little less just because I like hunting for bargains I bet I could have done it for less.
If you are feeling stressed financially scale down and look for deals pick a few special items and ditch the rest. Good Luck and have fun!

Answer 8

If it makes you sick, then don't spend it. Some people really want to have a "fairy tale" wedding, and it's worth much more than even $10K to them to have it. Others it's a waste for an otherwise very expensive party. It totally depends on where your values and attitues about money are.

Answer 9

I don't find that to be a decent amount to spend. Weddings cost a lot of money and 8 - 10K really isn't much to spend. A lot of people spend way more than that, like 20K and up.

My friends recently got married. They spent approx. 6K, but they only had about 100 people.

Answer 10

It's painful but I am spending $15,000-20000!!!!
We are having a small wedding but everything is so expensive in NJ!! The church alone was $1,400. I keep reading how people have this 6,000 weddings and I wonder if they are all taking place in their backyards?? You can't touch a cater for under $75 a head in South NJ for a wedding. I don't know how people have wedding so cheap unless they just have them at home or really skimp out on food and booze??

Answer 11

I have always wanted a big wedding but at 32yrs old with two kids, I would settle for a dress in a nice chapel....Some people if they are wealth see their children's wedding or their own wedding has an oppuntunity to network if they have that type of career.