Someone plz help!!?

Question

My sister Allison is really bad. She throws herself on to the ground and if she doesn't like anything you give her she throws it. What should I do to calm her down. My mom and friends say since I have a sister with a brain injury and they have to go to speech everyday and she doesn't have know one to play with.... is that right? And shes 2 years old is that just a phase?

Answer 1

Randy,
I'm so sorry Allison has learned to have a fit to get what she wants. The "she's 2 years old" is not just a phase. It gets to be a lifestyle. I know people in their teens and even much older that never learned not to throw a fit to get what they want.

That's the bad news. The good news is, it doesn't have to be this way.

You need to come up with a strategy and boundaries. For example, she wants a cracker. Teach her to ask nicely, according to her abilities. You do this by paying attention when she does better, and not giving her an audience when she's having a fit (notice I didn't say to ignore her. . if you are in charge, you must make sure she is safe)

As she adjusts to the new rules, you can "raise the bar."

I understand life can be crazy, but your sister needs to feel the security of a predicable world. So you can make life as routine as possible for her. Part of her tantrums may be just to see if the same rules apply?!?!?

There are lots of child raising books in your local library. Check them out.

You can do this! You'll be a better person for it too. Who knows what 40 year old's you may meet that are still in their "2's?"

Answer 2

You are being asked to deal with an adult situation at an early age. If she has a brain injury, she may not understand anything at all yet. This is her way of telling you she's unhappy. But at age 2, the best thing is to always speak to her in a calm and quiet voice. If you keep your voice low, she will need to quiet herself to listen to you. You're her sister and she adores you in a way that she will never feel about her own mother or father.

Your mother may be taking advantage of the fact that you don't need as much care. Don't get angry, just tell your mother.

Answer 3

Unfortunatly dealing with someone who has a brain injury can be very difficult. Especially if that person is a child. Your best bet is just to be as patient and understanding as possible. Dont let her get away with murder but show her the proper way to handle her anger or upset. Your sister will look to you and others in the house to modle her behavior. If everyone is only getting angry or inpatient so will she. This will be a very trying time for you and your family. Just remember that love is the best medicine.

Answer 4

I think it is just a stage right now. If she has a brain injury maybe she is having trouble doing things she wants to do. Frustration. Plus why cant you play with her? When I was in high school I used to play with my nephew all the time, now I am a mommy I get to play with my little ones. Its so much fun and they love the interaction and attention.