How can I deal with my big sister?

Question

she hates me so bad,I didn't do anything to her,it's just that I'm ugly and she's good looking,she's even ashamed to walk with me in college(when she sees me she totaly ignores me,she always call me ugly and make fun of me in front of everyone and what's worse is that my parents are always with her side,they give her all the attention.(I hate all of them)
today she was with her friends playing with a digital camera so I told her not to take a picture of me then she said:Why would I want to take a picture of your ugly face .at that time I lost it and punched her on her face in front of her friend(I know that what I did is so wrong but I couldn't take it any more)
plz tell me how can I deal with my family? should I just continue my studies and travel to another country so I won't see them anymore?

Answer 1

By reacting to her insults, you are giving her the upper hand. If you hang around in her life, you have to remain calm, cool, & collected and never give your family the satisfaction of getting under your skin. If everything seems to bounce right off, the fun of shooting insults at you will fade away.

On the other hand, if you are considering leaving, you've got to be willing to back up what you say. It's a big step, and one that shouldn't be taken lightly. Good luck, and don't get in the habit of hitting women, for any reason.

Answer 2

maybe the first thing you should do is having a meeting with your family and let them know how you feel. it could be that they are not aware of their behavior. as far as being you being ugly that is only and opinion. you should definitely continue your studies. as you go thru school you can decide what will be the best choice for you, if you should or want to travel to another country. some good advice is never let any get you so angry that you turn to violence, learn to walk away

Answer 3

You need to sit them all down and confront them tell them all how you feel. How you really feel , how hurt you are inside(my dad always said that no one was ugly that there was something beautiful about everyone) and remember that you are not ugly actions is what makes people ugly and from here it sounds to me like your sister is acting ugly! And if they have hearts and souls then maybe they'll try to change toward you and consider your feelings. GOOD LUCK ON LIFE'S JOURNEY!!!

Answer 4

She deserved it. Maybe next time she'll think twice about being such a beeyotch. If I were you I would just ignore her when I was at school. Act like she's not even a speck of dust in your universe. Maybe in a few years she will grow up and learn how to treat a family member.

Answer 5

There are 2 sides to every story and I have found that people rarely present both sides or even their own side objectively. It may have been helpful to know your ages.
I agree that you need a family conference that allows both you and your sister to air your feelings. If you feel your parents are partial to your sister, then perhaps there's a relative you feel close enough to who can join to maintain objectivity and mediate when necessary.

Answer 6

Sounds like its time to transfer to another school. There is 5 years between me and my sister, and we absolutely hated each other throughout our youth. We get along fine now, as long as we don't speak of politics or religion, but we will never be close.

Answer 7

i am a older sister myself and my lil bro bugs me and calls me fat so all i do iz either ignore him or punch him in the face(like you did except when no one iz watching) but then of course he tells our parents so i end up gettin grounded


well as i said ignore her or punch her in the face when no one iz watchin.
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Answer 8

Good riddance you punch her! I would've done the same thing. Well, you can continue your studies and leave them at the first second you turn 18. You can also talk to your parents one on one or get someone you know and cares about you to talk it out with your parents. If she keeps downgrading you, you can play dirty too, like blackmail her.

Answer 9

Have u tried addressing this with them?

If it didnt work then maybe you should go away to college. Some time away would do you some good.

Answer 10

Awww, hunny...
This is actually typical when it comes to family...

I'm an older sister,
I'm 16 and my little sister is only 12 years old.
We fight ( verbally ) but we never hit eachother.
Your right when you say that when you hit her it was wrong,
Because it was... But I understand why you did it.
You have to promise yourself that you won't hit anyone again, unless it's in self defence.

You honestly have to love yourself,
your not ugly not matter what hun!
I seriously mean that from the bottom of my heart,
No one is ugly.... We all come in different shapes and sizes,
It's not what's on the outside, it's about whats on the inside.
I seriously mean that... I know you probably hear that alot,
But I can already tell that you are a wonderful person....
You have nothing to worry about,
You are still so young, you just have to live life.
Stop listening to them, because every mean thing they say to you, will come back to them & they will have to deal with the pain of saying those horrible things to you.

Don't worry about being like your big sister,
And don't worry about hanging out with her,
Honestly, Because you are your own person,
you have to stand on your own and find your own independence.
Find out what you love to do, what you want to do with your life, and go for it!

Family is family,
you shouldn't run from them,
but you should keep up with your studies,
Do what you wanna do, do what you like to do.
Without getting into trouble, just love them for who they are,
and know them for who they are.
You can't change anyone, except yourself.

Honestly, just do your thing,
and love yourself.
Don't let them bring you down...
I've been there, and I know what your going through,
but running from your problems & your family wont help anything
you just have to find out who you are,
find out what you want to do,
and go for it...!!!!!!!!

Don't let anything stop you hun!
You have to simply love yourself, and love your family
even though they may be mean, they are still your family,
so just love them.


Try to talk to your family,
Try to talk to your mom, and your dad,
just tell them that it hurts you when they say mean things,
just be honest & open with them, dont get angry, and dont get upset, just let them know that you love them but it really hurts when they are mean to you.

I hope I helped hunny, and I hope I was your best answer ;)

Just be yourself,
And ignore the people who arent going to be nice to you!

Please don't hesitate in contacting me if you have any further questions !!!



xoxoxo