going? He was in prison for 9 months back in 2002 and when he came home he found a job and was doing great! But then he fell back in with "old" friends and old habits so he ended up quitting his job and then got rehired, then they fired him so he collected unemployment for the whole summer. Then he hooks up w/ an old GF who is 18 and they were together all the time- well she moved to MN to go to college and he got another job here but it barely paid him enough to pay bills so he quit and was moving up to MN to see what life could offer him there and it didn't offer *%#! so he came home but everything just seems to go wrong for him and he never gets any breaks! And it just puts me so down in the dumps all I do is cry & then get angry at him and cry some more! Any suggestions to get him on the right track??Or how I can stop getting so depressed because of the situation?
2007-01-08 06:50:08 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I promise I am not being sarcastic when I say YOU need to see a psycologist and get your prioritys straight. You can not live your life through him, I had a son and I would give anything to have him back, so I understand the love you have for him. He makes bad choices now so stay on him about makeing good choices and stop picking him up evertime he falls and pray he stands on his own to feet. A routine of church, and I'm not a religous man, would be healthy.
2007-01-08 07:04:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes. My ds is only 11, but I've been pretty obsessed wtih the fact that he's getting bad grades and I know he's capable of more lately. Does your ds have a drug or alcohol problem? If he does, treatment for him and some Al-Anon for you might help. (I guess what I've gotten from 12 step programs about my relationships is that I can't change the other person. I could go on and on, but I don't know if it would be helpful.)
It seems like you may need to find some outside interests. Whatever you've loved -- art, racecars, teaching children -- you could try to increase in your life. If you can do something to help others, it can also help you. Also, exercising every day can help. If you have any spiritual beliefs, practicing those and getting together with others who are spiritual could help.
Also just go see your family doctor. Maybe he could prescribe an antidepressant or refer you to a therapist just so you could get into a different mindset.
2007-01-08 07:02:35 · answer #2 · answered by rcpeabody1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 00:19:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to start letting go alittle. Your son is 23 he needs to get his life on track. He is the only one who can do this. You can gently guide him but he has to make the decision to straighten his life out.
You may have to do some tough love. No matter how old your children get a mom's job is never done.
2007-01-08 07:05:15 · answer #4 · answered by mljherman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you and he need to have a goal/life planning session than may require a mediator.
He needs to set def. goals related to having his own place, education, career, etc... set things that are measuarable and time sensitive...follow-up regularly to see that he is on pace....
2007-01-08 06:56:55 · answer #5 · answered by Tikcus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop enabling him to be a loser and kick his *** out, and move on with your own life. he will sink or swim just like the rest of us
2007-01-08 06:59:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋