ok guys and girls, me and my boyfriend do all types of freaky things like meet each other out side and role play like cop and hooker or robber and hooker etc., but when we get home he will throw me on the bed and be real gentle and i keep telling him i want him to be rough like choke me a little but he won't. it's like he works me all up to gently make love to me lol, it's really getting to me and i would never cheat but i want it so bad what should i do? please help me!
2007-01-08 06:48:16 · 15 answers · asked by vashi p 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be honest with him tell him that you want it badly enough that you have considered cheating.
2007-01-08 06:52:25 · answer #1 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he is legitimately worried about legal complications if some of this rough stuff accidentally goes too far. We had a guy here who was convicted for murder when that type of sex led to a fatality. Her heart evidently was weak and she did not know it. She lost too much oxygen to her brain and even though she did not suffocate outright, she still died.
The whole thing was all consensual, so don't think that is a valid defense. He still went to jail for second degree murder even though defense was able to establish the two frequently engaged in such escapades consenusally.
You should also know that choking can lead to the death of brain cells even if it doesn't kill you outright that time. It's very very risky behavior. Not that he would now, but what if many years down the road that person is more than a bit tired of you and decides to go ahead and squeeze a little more or even kill you just to see how it feels ... how will you fight back?
My suggestion would be to figure out some things you and he could do that don't involve choking or any sort of risky behavior that could lead to personal harm -- which puts him in danger of jail time if something does go awry. You also should think of some sort of signal that lets him know things are going too far for you.
Also, I think you are damn lucky to have a guy who cares enough about you to refuse to engage in such risky behavior. He seems to me to genuinely care for your well-being. A lot of us women never find a guy like that, so if I were you I'd worry less about your own pleasure and more about his.
2007-01-08 06:59:00 · answer #2 · answered by Rubythorne 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should tell him how you feel. if you keep it bottled in, it will only kill you inside. Best thing to do is confront the situation with your partner and discuss your needs. Benefited me when my girl told me whats up. So hope i helped. Email me if you need more inputs on anything.
2007-01-08 06:51:54 · answer #3 · answered by Fabethebabe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not into tough like that, perhaps each now n then. i think of a dude that like tough intercourse is very nearly like a h0m0, reason if he needs it tough he would desire to wonna be with a guy. i like it gentle from a woman.
2016-10-30 08:45:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm, I thought most guys were okay with that as long as their partner wanted it. I personaly can't figure him out. You sound intriguing though.
2007-01-08 06:51:23 · answer #5 · answered by toff 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he's not getting the job done, you have every reason to look elsewhere. It's not cheating. He is completely to blame for being out of touch.
2007-01-08 06:51:31 · answer #6 · answered by rex_razor69 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Time to move on and find someone you are more compatible with. At least you aren't married.
2007-01-08 06:50:25 · answer #7 · answered by boredperv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Advertise for a BDSM master.
2007-01-08 06:50:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man does not want to hurt you.
2007-01-08 06:51:02 · answer #9 · answered by lara 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Slap him hard enough to p!ss him off. Be careful what you wish for...
2007-01-08 06:50:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋