Is she being serious?

Question

Is this just a long slow break up or is this for real, I have been with her for two years living together for one, and we recently got in a really bad fight and she kicked me out... we talked a few times since by phone, but here is what she emailed me today...
Today is January 8, 2007

Today we cut loose all the baggage of the past and start new,

There is no security there are no guarantees, there is no future in mind,

Today I met you. Although I know things about you, as you know things about me, neither one of us know if the other is someone we truly want to be with,

We are willing to meet anew (with who we are today) and see if we see anything in each other that is worth pursuing.

There is space for introspection who are you, who am I, what do we want out of life individually

There are no rules, just two people meeting again

There are no fights or things to harp on from the past as there is no past, it's a clean start that won't necessarily lead anywhere.

Answer 1

I think she's being serious...she's trying to wipe the slate clean with a new start...

But I'm also reading between the lines and I also think she may have someone else on her mind...

Her statements (Because thats what they are) leave no room for you to have a say...it's very one sided It's methodical and unemotional. I don't detect ANY emotionals from it.

You know what? Let this selfish woman go and forget about her.

Here's your biggest clue in the final sentence "it's a clean start that won't necessarily lead anywhere."

Hope? I don't think so. Cold as Ice? Yes!

Answer 2

Ouch! That sounds serious. Hmm.. what to do? I suggest you reply with a sarcastic statement or anything that isn't serious. However, the part that really caught me off guard was this part:

"We are willing to meet anew (with who we are today) and see if we see anything in each other that is worth pursuing."

It sounded like she wants to date other people. Otherwise, you can cut the loss and move on

OR

Say something like this (just to risk for the fun of it) and without being too sentimental or emotional on your part:

"Oh Gloria Gloria (or whatever her name is) I am only next door to you! Would you like bite to go get to eat?"

Yeah, I know the grammar is wrong but if you add in a little crazy stuff... or something that doesn't concern what she wrote to you... then I'm sure she'll be like..."HUH?"

If she doesn't respond... then don't respond or send anything else. Move on... do something else. Meet another girl. Better yet... don't reply to that email as she might be expecting another reply.

So keep playing the game... it's pretty much the only way to drive a woman's mind crazy. She'll think about that statement I suggested above. When you can get inside a woman's head... then she'll wonder what could have been or what's going on? Remember, she expects you to be sad. My advice, don't be sad.

Your choice.

Answer 3

In the past we let things be, in the present what happened in the past we change, in the future we look foward, too. What your significant other is trying to say is, you both start with a clean slate. No necessarily starting all over but beginning anew with a different outlook on what remains to be seen: a relationship or friendship. It is up to you to justify what it is that you want and need with a thought of what she wants and needs also. It is a two-way street.

Answer 4

oh goodness. I think you should tell her to stop playing grown up and grow up. Tell her that If you feel like getting mindf u c k e d you'd go see a professional.I really hate people who can't just get to te frickin point no wonder you had a colossal fight she never just say what she means and means what she says. I almost fell asleep reading all her conditions and bull-kaka.Talk about long winded with no point "won't necessarily lead anywhere"?

Answer 5

Looks like she wants to give the relationship another chance. She probably feels bad or felt bad about the fight and I am sure you did too! Give it a chance if you think it is worth it. Fighting and disagreements are a part of a relationship and sometimes recovering from those conflicts makes you both stronger and betters your relationship!

Answer 6

I think that she is still a bit upset about the fight you guys had and she just wants to start the relationship over! She wants to forget about it and not hurt herself by thinking about a future with you.. she probably just wants to live and let things happen!

Good Luck!

Answer 7

Maybe she is serious, and somehow that migth be a healthy way to see the things. If you have a past that is kind of sad or wrong, maybe the best way is to start all over again.
And i see in there a challenge, and an oportunity.
Good luck.

Answer 8

Means she wants to start from scratch and pretend none of what has happened in the past did actually happened. And thats completely WRONG because unles whoever made this mess can adknoledge and he/she fuc.ked it all up, neither of you will EVER BE HAPPY together.
Good luck.

Answer 9

I think the whole point of the e-mail is "we're starting fresh." This is good because it shows she still wants to be with you, and wants to work on your relationship. By using phrases such as "won't necessarily lead anywhere", "no rules", "no security", she is trying to protect herself. Worded oddly, but hey!

Answer 10

to me this is a let's start over kind of thing. this could be good or bad. while starting over is a nice notion, it is harder than it sounds. that past is hard to keep in the past sometimes....give it a whirl what's the worst that can happen?